I can't remain silent any more. I respect everyone's opinion but a few points:
1. Asian men are fetishized. I am an Asian man, and I have been fetishized by white guys, black guys, latino guys, and even other Asian guys. So, now you know. Asian men may be subject to fetishes just like any other racial/ethnic group. Plus, it's not a competition to see which gender is "fetishized" more. If it's a minimal percentage, does it make it okay or right? I only speak for myself, a person who is gay and of East Asian descent but I have run into plenty of guys who fetishized me. Sometimes its harmless, sometimes its admittedly harmful and has made me feel like shit. I've found it to be inappropriate, almost certainly racist, and typically founded from some level of societal privilege.
2. I love reading profiles that include some form of "No Asians." That's partial truth in that to me its a revelation of the kind of person they are. But, it's also intriguing because I wonder what in their life had led them to the conclusion that writing such a statement is at all appropriate. And, it's also sarcasm for obvious reasons. And, in a way, "no asians" guys are fetishisizing Asian guys, if you think about it.
3. On one hand, I find it quite funny that someone makes statements on behalf of another racial or ethnic group to which they are seemingly not a member. On the other hand, I find it to be a sad statement on where things stand on race issues in the United States. I've been Asian my entire life. I haven't lived a day of my life as a white man, a black man, a Native American man, etc. I might imagine what a "day in the life" of a man of another racial or ethnic group may be like, but I would never try to state, whether as a belief or a fact, what an actual lived experience has been like for those guys.
4. To the original poster of this story, I hope that you continue to contribute to BZ, and that this dialogue does not deter you. I've read what you wrote, and I was taken aback reading the sentence where you used the term "Mandingo." Given the context and your phrasing, I thought to myself, "this guy thinks that black people are less." I am uncertain if your goal was to evoke such a viewpoint from a reader, but I thought I'd share what ran through my head.
5. Racism exists everywhere on our planet, and although the conversation in this forum (including my comment here) may seem to place people into two camps "white guys" vs. "everyone else," please know that I understand that racism is not unique to any one race or ethnic group. And I'm not condemning the OP or any commenter on this thread.
The TL;DR version? To quote Avenue Q, "We're all a little bit racist."
Cheers!