I was devastated. I wasn’t even barebacking at the time so it was a complete shock.
My primary physician is who told me. He is gay and is also an HIV specialist so it made things somewhat easier.
I had bee poz for years without knowing it so I wound up going on meds right away. I was lucky that while my Initial CD4 and VL were horrible I had never gotten sick. Been on meds for 15 years.
I’ve never told family or friends—just fuck partners and medical providers. Disclosure is tricky. Once it’s out there it can never be taken back. Best pieces of advice my doctor gave me was to be careful about disclosing and not to panic. I’m healthy and horny all these years later: