To preface everything, I just wanna say that I'm negative and would prefer to stay that way.
title says it all. I'm currently HIV negative. my partner was diagnosed HIV positive fairly recently before we met, and he takes his ART religiously. his current VL is less than 20 copies per ML. I have seen his paperwork and have met his doctor, so I am sure he is telling the truth.
we discussed it and because we're monogamous we decided to fuck without protection. It just adds a level of intimacy we both crave. both of us feel confident in this decision.
both of us are totally verse, which is great. when I top I always cum in his hole (just the way he likes it) but when he tops he almost always insists on pulling out. there have been a handful of times he has bred me, usually when I'm in control and milk his load out of him or when he just loses control and doesn't stop himself in time. he immediately feels guilty about it every time it's happened.
I get tested every 2-3 months and have so far tested negative (even after taking those few of his loads). to me, this is definitive proof that U=U and treatment as prevention works.
I have spoken to my partner about it, but he is just scared that he might infect me. I know I can't make him do anything he doesn't feel comfortable doing, but would love some input to understand where he is coming from.
Any undetectable tops out there? Are you ever worried that you'll transmit the virus to someone else (despite current research)?
Any serodiscordant couples? How do you deal with ideas of risk and transmission prevention?
