As some sort of gender confused bottom, it is the ultimate turn on to be fucked while staying soft. I always do when a man enters me...but I can control my orgasm. By rubbing my penis (I think of it has a clit when I am fucking) like a woman does--side to side instead of up and down--I usually come right when my man releases inside of me...complete bliss. I feel so proud of my man, and of myself, for making him hard and come in me, while I stay completely small. I just wish I could find a man to do it without a condom....it has to be special though...
Sorry if I disgust/offend anyone--I am completely ashamed of how I feel, left out of the straight and most of the gay community...