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My husband and I have been together 23 years in an open relationship. We met while cheating on our current partners. In the end we both acknowledge that it was miserable cheating and lying so we decided for us it was best to have an open relationship. Somehow, by being open the jealously faded away. We pretty much have a don't ask but do Tell! My husband is a bit of a voyeur and loves to watch me fuck other guys. Or at least hear the details afterwards. We also found this really helpful because my husband is so into his career that I was often alone on the weekends. He encouraged me to go fuck around to help my mood. It really helped. I got laid. He got to work (his passion) and he got a story later. About 12 years ago a young guy came over and I was fucking upstairs while my husband was cooking dinner and we fed the boy and he stayed. Now we're in a triad. It's been the best thing ever. The two of them do things together (both sexually and in general) and I do separate hobbies with the boy. And I am really surprised that there hasn't been jealously. The boy and I attend a regular monthly sex party together. He gets to watch me fuck other guys. I look to the other part of the dungeon and he is seated in a rim chair getting eaten out having a great time. So it all works. The other thing about the open relationship that has been a real positive for us is that we are each allowed to express our own sexual interests without shame. The type of guys my husband and our boy like are sometimes different. We each enjoy some different fetishes. While we will sometimes all partake in the same fetish it allows each of us to explore deeper on our own again without judgement or shame. Sometimes even at the same sex group event. Another memory just came back was one time we were visiting a friend in another state. My husband said he would really like the opportunity to make love with our host. He asked in advance and said it was something he really wanted to do. So the 3 of us had sex and then I moved to sleep in the guest room. In a little while I heard through the wall that they were fucking again. In the morning they said they had a great mutual time. Both my husband I have come to realize that we can have open sex and feelings for other guys but still be committed to each other. We never schedule a time to have sex with others that would take time when we could be together. We still maintain our long term goals together, we still share financial goals together, etc. Works well for us.

I am headed to Palm Springs for the Christmas week and would like to know more about this new place. Has anyone been yet? Is this a good place to go? Costs, etc.? Or is it better to head over to CCBC for bb action? Thanks.

Was this action in Washington, DC? I will be there next month and would like to go. I just didn't know there were any glory holes in Washington anymore.

I was wondering besides CCBC are there any gay resorts or campgrounds where you can find guys into watersports?

I would be interested in reading about new gay destinations in the United States. It used to be well known that there was a lot of sex on a vacation to Palm Springs. Now I think that the gay resorts in Palm Springs are priced so high so I would like to read about other gay vacation destinations which are more affordable but still offer clothing optional and gay sex options that Palm Springs provided.

Where in Michigan?

I enjoy fisting guys.

I could not agree more with you. For me it is all about connecting and sharing with another man, who happens to like being a sex pig as much as I do.

I tried to search but did not see a topic regarding email addresses. Are we allowed to share our email address in a post? I was responding to a post about poly dating and triads and I wanted to share my email address in case the other couple had follow-up questions. Wanted to check and see if that was allowed? Or, is there a way to put our email address in our profile? Thank you.

As far as the sleeping arrangements we generally sleep all in a king bed. For many years our "boy" liked to be in the middle because that made him feel secure. Now sometimes I am in the middle because he generally gets up early. Sometimes if one of us is not feeling well or one of us is needing a good night's sleep we're also use the guest room. However, our boy (the third) tends to get upset when we do not all sleep together. Even if it is just sleep he gets pretty unhappy about it. Sometimes if we are at the lake house I will go to one of our guest rooms so the boy and my husband can watch TV in bed. I actually like this one particular bed in one of our guest rooms so I often try to say "Oh, I'll let you guys stay up and watch TV." I don't mind going to a guest room. Truth be told I find this one particular bed really cozy and soft. This does upset him a lot so I can't do it every time we're at the lake. I would say that my husband and I remain primary. We have had to be really careful not to make the boy feel excluded. He sometimes feels that he's in the way. It really is based on our language. An example might be we might call him and say we're going to stop at a particular restaurant on the way home from work. (My husband and I work at the same place). Sometimes if we don't immediately follow-up with do you want to meet us there he will say Oh, are you sure? So there still after all these years remains a little bit of insecurity based on some childhood issues. So we're really careful about language. Another thing we did was make sure he had closet space and a whole dresser to himself. We try to make sure that on things like that everything is equal. We also all have keys to the cars and drive them interchangably. No longer his car, my car, etc. Day to day is usually not too much of a problem. One thing has also helped is making sure that the work and social schedule is clearly communicated well in advance so no-one is surprised. Not sure if this answered all your questions. Feel free to ask anything else.

I am part of a triad relationship. My husband and I have been together 20 years. Our "boy" joined us 8 years ago. Like any relationship there are some bumps in the road. Early on my husband was jealous of the sexual attention I gave the boy but we worked through that through some conversations and making sure he got sexual attention as well. Now things run very smoothly. It now feels more like a family to me than having a boy toy. There are activities that I do with him, like sailing and estate sales and different activities that he does with my husband without me around. And, of course we do things with all three of us like dinners, vacations, etc. In fact, we took 4 vacations in May and June this year and had a great time with all three of us together. One note is that some hotels and gay resorts are not always set up for 3 men in a hotel room. If you had told me years ago I would be in a triad I would be saying, you're crazy. Now I actually am surprised how much I enjoy my "family." The other morning I went into the bedroom and noticed that the two of them were cuddled up together sleeping. They both looked so happy and content sleeping soundly spooning. It made me happy to see them cuddled up.

This is probably an odd question but something that has been on my mind. For those of you in an open relationship how do you manage / schedule a hook-up with an outside guy? My husband and I have always had an open relationship. He is actually more of a voyeur than an actual participant. He has been asking me to out out and hook up more because it turns him on to hear about my times with other guys. The issue that I am struggling with is that the two of us are almost always together. We work at the same place (we used to work in the same building for the same boss). I transferred departments and now we're just at the same place. We ride to work together, ride home together as we only have one car and we work at the same place. It would seem odd for me to come downstairs and pass him as i pick-up the car key and say be back in a few have a hook-up. Particularly since we're almost always together except when we're at work. What do you guys do? Thank you.

I know that cameras are not allowed at Wet N Hot in Palm Springs. However, I was wondering if there have been any official videos taken by the organizers? I am have pretty much convinced my husband we need to start going to this annual event. However, he and I were wondering if there are any videos to see what happens during the event? Thank you.

I often travel with my husband to gay resorts. He likes to sit by the pool and I like to go play with other guys (with his strong encouragement. He just wants to sit and read his book). We are heading to Roseland in West Virginia on our next trip. How can I encourage guys to piss on me? Or, let me drink from the tap? Last time I was at CCBC I wore a yellow jock strap but nothing happened even though I stood both in the pit and by the urinal in the play area. So two questions... 1) Is there a play area at Roseland where I could get hosed down? 2) How do I let guys know that I'm looking to get soaked? One of my fantasies is to be laying on a lounge by the pool relaxing with my husband and have a guy come up and relieve himself all over me. Or, I would love to come back to meet up with my husband with the smell of dried piss all over me. Any suggestions would be appreciated. Thank you.