For me, sex with Men is about me being used. My desire to be utterly degraded, used, abused, hurt and controlled, is an instirinsic and instictive part of my sexuality. This is one reason, why i prefer sex with Men.
I tend to enjoy the harder, more extreme end of things, so when i'm being fucked, i fully expect to be hit, choked, peirced, burnt (the only thing i'm not comfortable with is being deliberately cut). Most if not all of my fetishes are about myself being reduced, as a man (sexually, i don't see myself as a Man), as human. you could say with some confidence, that i would best identify, sexually, as an object. Which means that I don;t choose what a Man does to me, but i lilke men who are selfish, sexually violent and who openly identify as sadists.
During sex, if a man wants to start hitting me with a belt/cane/paddle etc, it makes me more willing to push myself for him, not becuase of the pain (i actually don;t enjoy the pain, rather the effect, both visually and emotionally) but becuase it pushes my core sexuality and desire.
The best sex i've had has involved severe beatings, being belted, having needles poushed through my tits. Or being made to crawl about on all fous with painfully large objects shoved inside me, and then being hit if I cant hold them in.
I enjoy recovering and watching how my body responds to being brusied, marked, burnt and having a sore throat and a very stretched out cunt.
Alas, it's been harder to find a partner, who is into the same level of deravity as I am. And certianly one who is a sadisitic as I am masochistic.