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Are thete any total tops left?


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I've never had a dick in my mouth or ass. In fact the only time I ever touched one (other than my own) was once when I was in high school. My gf's little brother used to suck me off whenever she wasnt putting out and one night I jerked his little dick so he'd let me fuck him. Thankfully he shot real quick and we got down to the real business at hand.

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We don't live in a world of totals, even though there are lots of total bottoms and tops, most gays are versatile, at least to some extent.

Even though many gays are (mostly because of a hard life) bitter, bad tempered, resentful, vindictive; we are truly loving, caring, fragile, compassionate. Even the most top macho man has good feelings, which makes us more woman-like, not str8-like in that sense. So this might be why most gays are bottom, vers/bott and look/dream for the rough, dominant top man in order to please him set in their minds. So even though it's a stereotype, I kinda understand why so many, or even most str8s think of gays, no matter how butch some of us are, as women, that we only bottom and are fragile and tearful.

We are gay men, have one sexual organ which gives us pleasure (the penis), and "another one" which makes us different (the anus). As long as both are functional, from time to time, at some degree, it's expected to feel the desire to fuck or get fucked. Some total bottoms/tops are so because of physiological/psychological issues. Some total bottoms are those that never get hard, have a micro-penis, feel pain in their penis if they fuck another man. Some total tops are those ashamed of the idea of getting fucked by another man, think it makes them less of a man, it burns and hurts like hell when getting fucked, is very afraid of shitting the other guy's dick.

So I guess that besides those who fall in those categories, it's common/expected for a gay man to feel pleasure with the idea and/or practice of both sexual positions. Society, fears, issues, dilemmas, physiology is what leads to all of this top/bottom role-playing. Whenever we life our lives like str8s do, someone who sucks and gets fucked, who cooks for hubby and another one who gets sucked and fucks and works like an animal, we are not truly embracing what we are, gays, we are both men, not a woman in the body of a man and a man.

Not all versatile guys are bottoms in disguise. Many like to top/bottom almost equally, but most probably we prefer some position over the other.

When I have sex with a top, bottom, or vers, I enjoy the moment, if he is bad at it, goodbye, if he is good at it, excellent, we can become fuck buddies. His sexual position is truly irrelevant. I'm a total disaster as a bottom, but I am an excellent top. I have never been rejected by any bottom because I take dick in the ass from time to time, so I really feel sorry for those who reject versatile guys just because they classify themselves as versatile, what a shame, you could be wasting lots of excellent fuckers.

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When I top or when I bottom, I put my all into it. I live for me not some set of rules dreamed up by who knows who. Far better that than some sarky remark along the lines of "yeah, the only top to leave footprints on my ceiling" or the less heard "the only bottom that made me enjoy getting tortured and fucked", that latter because they've got an image to keep up. My top experiences don't stop me from exhibiting controlling bottom ideas: If I'm caught out manupilating for something, and I get me ass beaten for it, well as the English cop show say "it's a fair cop". I'd do pretty much the same if I was topping, except I just go heavier on the guy for noticing and commenting mis-scene.

I had a long time celibate thanks to early HIV drugs, and then caring for a dying partner, therefore plenty of time to think about it: Why cut yourself off from 50% of sexual contacts with other men? With both my dying partners I had three(and more)some where I might be bottom I might be top. We just called it having a fuck. Or even (dare I say it) having a bit of fun....

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I honestly think im in love with you sir..! You are exactly the type of top that i would love pumping my slutty ass. Damn, wish you lived in toronto. you should skype me - thematrix46, i can fuck my cunt for you on cam with my 9 inch thick black dildo.

Im not sure what ur asking? are you asking total top= a man whos never been fucked in the ass?. OR are you asking total top=a man who may have (in the past) been fucked in the butt but now is only into poking other people? I fall into the later catagory.

I think youll find plenty of men who now only fuck ass that have previously been bottoms at some point in their younger lives. BUT it will be very hard for you to find a man whos gay and has only ever fucked asspussy and never ever bottomed.

maybe some straight guy who does downlow stuff.

I personally dont get fucked anymore. I dont like it. It has no power for me. I like being the boss. I like watching my cock do its thing and seeing what it does to a bottom.

I dont like fucking vers guys. They cannot make up their minds. and they always wanna be bossy in the sack. and they ask too many damn questions and are worried about their nut and not mine.

I had a vers guy hit me up on adam yesterday. He wanted to know how I topped. He wanted to know what I would do to his ass. Then he wanted to know if I would do a threeway. on and on. I just quit talking to him. shut up and stick your ass up in the air and receive some tongue and dick!! I want groans not an anderson cooper interview.

Good tops and good bottoms just mesh together. They know their job positions and they do them.

Sorry Im rambling

Peace

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I started out as a total top. After some time I decided I ought to try bottomming so I did but I didn't like it (except for with about 3 guys quite some time ago) so I resumed topping altogether. I do like watching my dick slide in and out of a man's sweet, tight hole through heavy clouds of my nose-jets pipe smoke. I always wear keychain on the left 'cause I believe in truth in advertising. When it comes to fucking men I like to go by the Bible: "it is more blessed to give than to receive."

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For me it isn't about role, it's about having a connection. Role takes care of itself if the connection is right. With some partners I am indeed a total top. But it doesn't work at all with a so-called total bottom who is just following a porno script. I don't want one-sided sex. The bottoms who don't want to make out or get off aren't into having sex with me. They just wanna steal a load. For a lot of tops, that's fine. Not for me.

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I think total tops just haven't met the right guy! If I had to categorize myself (rather meaninglessly?) I would define myself as a bottom who enjoys topping. For me they're very different experiences. As a bottom, you give up control and get pleasured (if he does his job well!), fool for not taking this offer, also I think the orgasm I get from being fucked is different from being fucked. When I fuck, I get my pleasure from the effect I give the bottom ie I am in control and have to be mindful all the time. As a top I think the pleasure is more psychological and perhaps as a bottom it can be more physical - I think anyway for me

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