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Are you an opportunistic barebacker, like me?


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I think most gays are opportunistic barebackers. I'd say of all the times I've fucked or gotten fucked by another man, either we met online, or on-site, only 4 proposed me to fuck bb, and only 5 said something related to how wonderful bb sex is while we were fucking. Considering I've had sex with over 100 guys (bareback), this is less than 9%.

I was born in the years HIV was officially recognized, so I was a child, who lived in a small city. I did not got to see nor experience a lot of really nasty HIV related deaths, only one or two, but as a child, didn't impressed me much. Thing is, nowadays, as we age and more youngsters are becoming sexually active, they didn't live those times, nowadays they see it as a condition we can live with, nowadays they see there is lots of acceptance and information (compared to the 80s), so I think, even though I was a child and got a bit of paranoia, prejudice, phobia, segregation, and got to see 2 people nastily dying due to aids, all bones.... I started having sex in 2001 very nervous, but a few years after, I started barebacking, embraced it, and I am in no way afraid, so what can you expect about guys who were born in 1985--->, most will bareback regardless of HIV.

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Interesting insights into the generation born in the 1980s.

You were saying that only about 10% of guys you encountered ever offered or insisted on condom use?

I think most gays are opportunistic barebackers. I'd say of all the times I've fucked or gotten fucked by another man, either we met online, or on-site, only 4 proposed me to fuck bb, and only 5 said something related to how wonderful bb sex is while we were fucking. Considering I've had sex with over 100 guys (bareback), this is less than 9%.

I was born in the years HIV was officially recognized, so I was a child, who lived in a small city. I did not got to see nor experience a lot of really nasty HIV related deaths, only one or two, but as a child, didn't impressed me much. Thing is, nowadays, as we age and more youngsters are becoming sexually active, they didn't live those times, nowadays they see it as a condition we can live with, nowadays they see there is lots of acceptance and information (compared to the 80s), so I think, even though I was a child and got a bit of paranoia, prejudice, phobia, segregation, and got to see 2 people nastily dying due to aids, all bones.... I started having sex in 2001 very nervous, but a few years after, I started barebacking, embraced it, and I am in no way afraid, so what can you expect about guys who were born in 1985--->, most will bareback regardless of HIV.

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If they say "I want to be fucked with a condom," will you comply?

Yeah this is what I find mostly of the guys I fuck have no problem sitting on my raw dick.Most are young in there 20's if I say do you want me to use a condom they never do.
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I think that many guys are "closet Barebackers". As you indicate, they post that they want safe, but then behind closed doors they will bareback.

Some of them though do so thinking that both parties are negative, and may change their mind if hearing that a guy is poz. I call them "discloseaphobics". - they don't fear barebcking or HIV until someone discloses he is poz

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Yes, many of these "closet barebackers" or "opportunistic barebackers" have to make split-second decisions on whether to go bareback once their in bed with someone. Once a guy is horny, the penis usually takes over the brain. And there's the point of no return during the process.

I think that many guys are "closet Barebackers". As you indicate, they post that they want safe, but then behind closed doors they will bareback.

Some of them though do so thinking that both parties are negative, and may change their mind if hearing that a guy is poz. I call them "discloseaphobics". - they don't fear barebcking or HIV until someone discloses he is poz

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No, I'd say around 10% dared to openly offer bb sex, or acknowledged it is wonderful, but considering all the guys I've had sex with, I'd say I've fucked bb with about 60% of them, so the other 50% were into bb, but didn't dare to openly accept it. I couldn't agree more with NiceHard1's term "discloseaphobics", if HIV status was on the table, involved in prior conversation, that percentage of raw fucking would be extremely lower, maybe around 15-20%, on both sides, myself, and others.

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i find most guys want to bb given the opportunity, even when their profile says "safer only." guys wanna breed, and i sure don't want to waste their cum on a condom. heck, it makes me crazy when i am watching bb porn and a guy pulls out when he comes and shoots on a guys ass instead of deep inside, what a waste.

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When I go to flex there is a ypung black dude who loves to fuck me raw but only likes fucking me when I got 5 or more loads. Up inside me! So he goes and finds guys to fuck me...when he gets as many as he can he fucks me over and over and sometimes eats my hole..its hot. Last time he brought a friend who after he fucked me put a condom on a went up in me....he pumped me a couple times and pulled out took the rubber off and went back in me raw! Then he to ate my hole.

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Interesting!

When HIV status is out there in the open, people feel a lot less comfortable and free to do what they otherwise would do. Their behavior is more predictable and rational. I guess it's true that ignorance is bliss. Sometimes people just want to have sex and rather not know each other's status.

No, I'd say around 10% dared to openly offer bb sex, or acknowledged it is wonderful, but considering all the guys I've had sex with, I'd say I've fucked bb with about 60% of them, so the other 50% were into bb, but didn't dare to openly accept it. I couldn't agree more with NiceHard1's term "discloseaphobics", if HIV status was on the table, involved in prior conversation, that percentage of raw fucking would be extremely lower, maybe around 15-20%, on both sides, myself, and others.
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For a top, I understand why I want to bb because the feeling is superior to fucking with a condom. The difference is day and night. For bottoms, the feeling must be equally superior. Otherwise, why risk your own life, especially when you're neg?

i find most guys want to bb given the opportunity, even when their profile says "safer only." guys wanna breed, and i sure don't want to waste their cum on a condom. heck, it makes me crazy when i am watching bb porn and a guy pulls out when he comes and shoots on a guys ass instead of deep inside, what a waste.
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Pretty raunchy there, noexitfastlane!

When I go to flex there is a ypung black dude who loves to fuck me raw but only likes fucking me when I got 5 or more loads. Up inside me! So he goes and finds guys to fuck me...when he gets as many as he can he fucks me over and over and sometimes eats my hole..its hot. Last time he brought a friend who after he fucked me put a condom on a went up in me....he pumped me a couple times and pulled out took the rubber off and went back in me raw! Then he to ate my hole.
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  • 8 years later...
On 12/30/2012 at 7:53 AM, Jimmy1212 said:

I never bottom, safe or not. In fact, when I'm looking for sex from a dude, it's always just head that I'm after. But once in a while, if a young, slim, tight-bottomed cocksucker gets me real horned up and wants it up his ass, I will oblige. Never with rubbers tho. So I guess you could call me an opportunistic barebacker.

It's kinda funny--because I'm married, most of those guys will offer me a condom. Like one night recently at an xxx, this dude was trying to convince me to fuck him. He told me that he had condoms and that he always plays safe, etc. But as soon as I told him that I hated rubbers, he immediately switched gears and said I could fuck him raw. "Always plays safe"? Yeah, right!

I think in the heat of passion, the condoms never come out of the wallet, especially when your out of it, from poppers and what-not. I have condoms with me, yet there have been so many times, they have not been used, either at the bath house, or meeting other guys online. 

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