Question about speeding ejaculation

[straycowboy]

OK everyone, I have a sexual issue that maybe someone here can help me with. My whole life, I have suffered from retarded ejaculation. Anotherwords, it takes me way too long to cum..A fact, I haven't mentioned in my stories. Typically it takes me 45 minutes or more before I cum when having sex with a person the first round. Second and third rounds are shorter, but the first is always too long. I have always envied those guys who suffer premature ejaculation. This has actually ruined many relationships I've had with women, and most guys fortunately don't care. My doctor in the past has assured me it's a mental problem not physical. Now that I'm sexually active again, do any of you have suggestions on how I might speed things up. Both guys, I have played with now had less than an hour to play, and left slightly disappointed.

This why my second male lover liked giving me a blow job while I slept, he could get me to cum in as little as 10 minutes usually just as I was waking.

[Scottop]

I have the same problem. It hasn't always been the case but it has been getting worse. Last time I fucked a guy, I was at it for two hours on and off and still couldn't shoot. Would welcome advice too.

[Jimmy1212]

I hear ya. I've never been a jackrabbit, but it's been taking me a lot longer to come recently too. Thought it might have something to do with a pain medication that I take, but the doc told me that the only possible side effect of that would be ED. Well fortunately I don't have that problem. But it is an issue, especially since I often like to stop off at an ABS for a quick bj on my way home. I've actually had two cocksuckers cut out on me after 25 or 30 minutes--while I was still rock hard--because they had run short on time.

[rawcardiff1991]

I take ages to cum too, and rarely cum from topping which is why I'm 99% bottom. I tried electro-stim which felt great but didn't help me cum any faster. Ass play certainly seems to help but obviously isn't a solution.

[straycowboy]

I do know that with me its not meds, I don't have to take any, except sometimes aspirin. It's a control and trust issue. With a relationship there are excercises I can do with my partner, that help, but since these guys are only going to be fuckbuds , I need to figure something else out. Life, it's never easy. LOL

[atlfukbud]

Some medications can cause this, but since you've checked with your doc, I'd say find a way to ENJOY it! I had one top fuckbud who made it a game -- "how many bottom's can I make cum in a day before I do"

[NC_guy]

I Love it when the top takes awhile.Alot of times I like edgeing him,makes a much better orgasm for him and a better amount of cum

[Jimmy1212]

... I'd say find a way to ENJOY it!

I do ... most of the time. If I'm fucking a dude (or my wife) being able to last is a plus. But sometimes u just want to get off quick (like a bj in public, which I love) but can't.

[thick]

A) Its an age issue. its mostly circumcised men with this issue. C) it could be stress of the unknown hookup. D) its totally thinking too much.

I suffer off and on from anorgasmia which in "english" means unable to cum. I get hard and I can fuck and fuck and fuck, but that tingle in the ole nutsack never starts. Other times, I can pump out a load in 15-20 minutes of good pleasurable fuckin. Your cock is completely wired to your brain. Thinking too much can cause anorgasmia. When I take my testosterone shot that helps it immensely. Its age and ur brain. I also have pretty much stopped masturbating and that has helped too.

I had some good advice a couple of years ago from a fellow top who is a tad older than me (Im 46). He said......"tops can fake an orgasm too" and occassionally I do fake cumming. Just so I can stop fucking! LOL. Then I say to myself. "Live to cum another day."

I read somewhere that the human male should space his orgasms with his age bracket. IE 10-20 (1 cum a day at least) 20-30 (every other day) 30-40 (every 3 days) 40-50 (every 4 days). I live sort of by this rule. If I nut. I can cum again by fucking in 3 days with no problems

Im rambling LOL Peace

[Cumhunt]

I'm late 40's and I cum sometimes 3 or 4 times a day if I have the time. Mostly through JO. However, I can last a really long time or not cum at all when being fucked and i'm fine with it. As long as I make my top cum. That makes me happy.

[thick]

i can cum 3-4 times a day jerking off too. But fucking or getting sucked off are entirely different sensations than masturbating.

[jeff grove]

i am an  porn actor and deal with things like this all the time- ( not my problem - but guys who have this problem) think about this- if u no u r gonna have sex- why not jack off alone- and get it out of the way- cause i say that ur 2nd and 3 rd load cum sooner- get the first one out of the way- hey its worth a shot

[straycowboy]

i can cum 3-4 times a day jerking off too. But fucking or getting sucked off are entirely different sensations than masturbating.

That's quite true. From your list in the earlier post, my problems are typically 'D', and sometimes 'C'. With a regular partner, I can learn to not think so much and enjoy the sensations, but with a random hookup, that's not possible.

[hank8uc]

Pick your hottest fantasy and concentrate on it gets me off even when I'm not enjoying the person I'm with.

[norcalraw]

I take supplements to elevate my testosterone level. I mainly do this for body-building and gaining muscle mass, but the nice side effect is raging boners, and serious sex drive. I will mastubate and/or fuck at least once a day, sometimes twice. I'm in my mid-30's.