Seeing Your BF Have Sex With Someone Else - Turn On Or Threatening?

[PozTopOnBottom]

I saw this topic earlier today and was thinking about answering it... then this afternoon something happened that changed everything I was going to write.

The background: I've been in a serious relationship for a number of years.  We click in many important ways, and though sex has been ok it's never been mind-blowing.  I am poz and he is neg, and we've worked to keep it that way.  Supposedly we were monogamous but last fall I was caught cheating, then a couple months ago we had The Talk about having an open relationship.  I thought at the time that this was for my benefit, but after a little snooping I discovered that he, too, was looking around and setting up some flings.  I was thrilled at this, but couldn't bring it up because I wasn't supposed to know.  Secretly I was cheering him on.

This past weekend I went out of town by myself, I had just come out of a busy time at work and needed a break.  I also wanted to slut around: I set up a bbrt gangbang and visited a bathhouse.  I hoped the boyfriend would play around as well while I was gone.  I got back last night, and the boyfriend was a little quiet and distant.  I thought he was upset because he knew I had screwed around, and I did my best to reassure him that everything was fine.

That was where things stood this morning, and I was going to respond to this thread saying how much I hoped my boyfriend would let loose. I am not threatened at all by the open relationship, I think it is hot. 

This afternoon we were fooling around, jacking each other off and playing with some dildos, and I teased him, asking how many cocks he had in him this weekend.  It was the kind of question that could be taken seriously or as a joke, and I was testing the waters.  To my surprise, he answered seriously: TWO.  After a lot of coaxing, as I reassured him that I thought it was hot and I was not upset, he told the whole story:  he had gone to a bar and gotten fucked in the back by two different guys, and one had planted a load up his ass.  What's more, he was so turned on by it he wanted to go back and do it again, and he wanted me to go with him and watch.  He had not guessed that this was my dream come true!

This afternoon he begged for my load in his ass (didn't happen), but before we go much further we'll have to have a serious talk about whether or not he wants to chase the bug or if he wants to get on prep.  I recognize the impulse, though, it was the same one that got me started chasing fifteen years ago, and pozzed up eleven years ago.  He had his first taste of anonymous cum in his ass and now he wants more.  Soon he'll realize that he can't get enough.  

[CubCase]

I can't watch my partner fuck or get fucked by another person.  However, I would do so if partner wanted to watch me get fucked.

I prefer the unacknowledged fucking separately.  I had a flight attendant bf who I knew was fucking on his trips.  He called me once sayin he was showing friend his first bathhouse and he was waiting on his friend who was inside.  I found travel lube in his overnight bag and he said he poured hair gel in it for his hair. Another time a new notification popped up on his phone - I hadn't seen it before.  I later realized it was a hook up app that was used internationally and was hidden on screen (I assumed cause he modified the phone a lot). Another time- as I got into my side of his bed I stepped on unopened condoms on the floor - just next to where he kept his stash.  I put them away knowing he had reached for one when he went to fuck someone - we definitely never used condoms.  Oddly - I was turned on each time.

[Guest Dickmagnet]

I wish i had a B/F or lover that would encourage me to take more random anon loads or even set up fucks for me from random strangers to come breed my ass anytime he wanted & by whoever, I think the whole idea of to be treated like a slut or a cumdump to take all loads no questions asked makes me horny & it would be so hot if it made him horny too. I would love to be treated this way.

[kckinkybtm]

I don't have a bf and not really the bf type of guy, but if I did, he'd have to be the type of top that would not only enjoy seeing other guys fuck me, he'd arrange it. Never give me an option. Slut/whore me out on a regular basis. Even arrange a stealth conversion party for me.

[madeupnameforporn]

I think sharing someone you love--or even slightly like--is very hot. The mistake many people make is that love and sex are the same thing. Sex should be a hot, sweaty, raw, passionate, cum filled adventure that you share with those you know, just met or those you never exchange a word with. Love on the other hand is something different and defined by those doing the loving.  Not every person thinks the same way about sex and love but I can say in my experience those who view sex and love as the same thing make things much more difficult. 

[Guest BS94]

I watch my partner breed other guys that I know are Neg and not on PrEP.  But I am still stuck on PrEP.  That is the only thing that bothers me when my partner gives something to the tricks that I am not getting.

[MuscledHorse]

To respons to the OP's question and comment: I would say the reason you see more open relationships in the longer existing ones is that 1) they have the advantage of time and experience, and 2) they are not bound by the sexually suffocating ideas of the Church that you should have one mate and it should be monogamous. I think a good deal of the monogamy amoung younger guys is driven by that attempt to blend gay marriage in with the already proven failure os the hetro marraige formula. Guys are simply not built to be monogamous and, unlike the more nest driven females guys can easily separate the pleasure act of sex from the relationship arena. That is, we understand  Lust and Love are not synonyms as they are marketed by society, but can co-mingle. Having tried the monogamy thing for a couple years (and even then it wasn't 100%)I can safely say I am wired to enjoy guys the way nature intended. Any partner I seek--if I'm ever lucky enough to land a boyfriend like this--will have to share my values of sex and life or it's not going to work. I am told repeatedly I am a rare person in the gay world: a health focused gym rat that doesn't drink, smoke or use recreations drugs, hates bars, but does have sex on the level of a porn worker, especially if you get me in a sex club or at a sex party. I tried the other, and with a mostly sweet guy that smoked and drank heavily and got ill the first time I showed him my hero Trent Bloom enjoy two hands in his canyon size ass. And so, the whole thing crashed and burned. If I ever get lucky enough to find a gym slut like me I will be encouraging him to enjoy other guys as I do for the sport of male sex because it is just sex and our Love for each other transcends it.

[BarebackFan]

I've been with my partner for just shy of 25 years. We met on a Thursday, two days later we went to a nude beach, a week later we went to a piss party.  We've played together and apart over the years, and we've made our own agreements about it.

Relationships are unique and require maintenance. Some guys can handle the sex with others, and some can't. It is what it is.

[CumBustion]

It depends, with me. If the relationship is casual and we just like each other, it can be hot watching him fuck other guys as long as he likes to watch me get fucked, too.

If we're in love, that's another story. I get kind of possessive about his cum. I was in this relationship where we were deeply in love with each other. However, because he wad in the military, he spent a lot of time away from me. I know he had needs so he had my permission to fuck other guys, as long as he used a condom. It was more of I didn't want him sharing his cum with other guys as opposed to the safety factor. I knew it wouldn't be a factor as he was pretty conscious about STDs and we were monogamous barebackers. 

[Guest BBBoyfromTN]

Don't have or want a BF but have played with a few couples and really love doing it. Usually one of the couple isn't getting what they want like on is verse and the other a top, so the verse guy doesn't have an outlet. Some are both verse and love seeing a guy fuck their BF. Hooked up this past week with a couple who are both verse and went on Prep because they're both pretty slutty and missed getting barebacked by other guys. Wound up fucking the, both bare...was hot as shit. 

[Ozpig]

On ‎4‎/‎05‎/‎2010 at 5:31 PM, yunghungtop said:

Totally hot. I don't do boyfriends, but I do have a bottom who's my regular cumdump bitch. He's not allowed to go out and try to get cock on his own, but I whore his ass out for other tops to use. I love watching him take cock and get used - but I'm the top, and I'm in charge

That's exactly how ,ex treated me and I loved it. He loved watching me get fucked, and he always selected the tops for me, he loved fucking me when I had other men's loads in me and he taught me to be the cumpig I could be.

[Ozpig]

On ‎3‎/‎03‎/‎2017 at 7:40 PM, Dickmagnet said:

I wish i had a B/F or lover that would encourage me to take more random anon loads or even set up fucks for me from random strangers to come breed my ass anytime he wanted & by whoever, I think the whole idea of to be treated like a slut or a cumdump to take all loads no questions asked makes me horny & it would be so hot if it made him horny too. I would love to be treated this way.

Great way to be treated and I loved it. I love that feeing of being totally at a top's disposal and for men to use me as they see fit. I love fucking in front of a crowd and all the thinbgs thayt go with being a total slut and cumdump

[TheNaturalWay]

Would be a huge turn on to see my boyfriend get fucked bareback and bred.... The more the hotter! And then either rim his cum filled ass right there (and refill it myself) or take him home and enjoy his cumfilled ass in private, for example as desert after dinner :-P.

The only limit for me would be that the "other" should not have a serious relationship character... friendship/fuckbuddy is obviously fine.

[ahungfundude]

love seeing him get bred, or bringing it home to me after

[Ozpig]

On ‎5‎/‎4‎/‎2010 at 5:31 PM, yunghungtop said:

Totally hot. I don't do boyfriends, but I do have a bottom who's my regular cumdump bitch. He's not allowed to go out and try to get cock on his own, but I whore his ass out for other tops to use. I love watching him take cock and get used - but I'm the top, and I'm in charge

exactly the way to treat us bottom cumdumps