Help! I'm A Bottom Trapped In A Tops Body*

[MixedMuscleBear]

Ok, so this is my problem. I carry myself as I am & don't believe in any type of pretense, however I tend to attract mostly bottoms & rarely any tops, its not because they think I'm hung as I don't walk around naked. Even when I wear jocks at sex clubs I still get hit on by btms, I'm usually not interested in btms until I'm ready to end the night & shoot my load, at which point I search for a cum filled hole to unload in (though on some occasions if the btm is sexy as fuck then I'd want to eat & fuck his ass regardless of the time of the night).

 

When I've spoken to some tops I've been told I 'appear intimidating' the way I carry myself & they would never have believed I'd take dick up my ass. I dated a guy in DC once, I met him at a club & approached him, the 1st thing he said was 'you know I'm a top right'?..I just thought 'Jackpot! lol. I have a FB that I met in a bathhouse 3 yrs ago, we cruised each other & when we got talking he said 'oh, just so you know, I'm a strict top'...again I thought 'Jackpot'! I went leather shopping last wknd & the dude at the store said 'I have just the right outfit for you' bringing me leather jeans & a waist coast, I said to him I'd rather have chaps or jocks, I think he got where I was coming from

 

As I also enjoy fucking ass I sometimes refer to myself as 'vers' in hook up apps/online but I think it puts tops off & though I enjoy eating & fucking a nice bubble butt, I can live w/out ass but never ever without dick. 

 

I'm a proud pig & true cumdump, now I just need Tops out there to know that. How can I achieve this???

 

*there isn't really a 'top's body' as such but I couldn't think of a catchier title..sorry to the 'political correctness' brigades out there

[Bttm2go]

I have run into this issue a lot. Even though I make it clear that I am mostly an anal bottom, they still expect me to fuck them. Very frustrating. That's why I always have them fuck me first. Same issue at the bathhouse. Most guys assume I'm a top. I have been told I have a butch, daddy marine look.

[Ddawg]

Same problem here. I remember being at a party (social, not sexual) and a whole gaggle of gayboys were competing to sit next to me, two 'jokingly' on my lap... One I was actually interested in... Finally some comment was thrown out there and I said I was mostly a bottom, they all disappeared in one minute flat. ...

[Leather69]

This total top always goes looking for a masculine looking butch guy. Sometimes it works.. sometimes it doesn't. Have found that the English and Europeans are best.  U must travel MMB

[NLbear]

As I am >50 a lot of guys assume I am a Daddy wanting to fuck younger bottoms. NO. I want younger Bottoms to fuck me!, but those are hard to find here.

 

Because of age, my built and dick size guys assume I am a top. Nothing further away from the truth. I am a bottom and will stay that way.

I had a really hot bottom chasing me on a chat site recently, saying I would love his hole and he would love me to fuck him. He also said two Bottoms can still have a lot of fun. True, maybe but I am looking for a dick in my ass, not a dildo. Turned him down, as hot as he was. Pity.

Edited January 1, 2015 by NLbear

[bottomforsize]

Happens to me all the time at bathhouses and sex clubs. The solution there is to be who you are and put your ass up in a very public place - proudly showing that your hole is for getting fucked will usually put the bottoms off and always put the tops on notice. As for online, the solution is to say you're a total bottom. If you ever decide you want to fuck an ass, most bottoms won't say no simply because you have 'bottom' instead of 'versatile' in your profile (whereas a fair number of tops - esp. the kind of tops I suspect you're looking for - may avoid hitting you up if your profile does anything other than identify you as a total bottom). 

[MixedMuscleBear]

Happens to me all the time at bathhouses and sex clubs. The solution there is to be who you are and put your ass up in a very public place - proudly showing that your hole is for getting fucked will usually put the bottoms off and always put the tops on notice. As for online, the solution is to say you're a total bottom. If you ever decide you want to fuck an ass, most bottoms won't say no simply because you have 'bottom' instead of 'versatile' in your profile (whereas a fair number of tops - esp. the kind of tops I suspect you're looking for - may avoid hitting you up if your profile does anything other than identify you as a total bottom). 

 

Great advice thanks! I'll have to update my BBRT profile

[cumslut23]

Same problem here. Quite masc and musc, so many think I top. I find that I have to be sluttier and more in your face than the average bottom and that usually helps. I also tend to go on my knees or bend over in "public" so that everyone sees what I am. 

[schvenn]

I always find - at least in my area - that there simply are way more bottoms than tops. I'm a totally versatile guy, would love to be fucked just as often as I fuck, but I seem to meet bottoms almost exclusively. I am approached by guys who want me to breed their asses all the time, but I need to initiate every contact with another top myself. I don't know if it is because of a 'top exterior appearance' I might have, or because most tops might like the bottoms to make the first step...?

[Ddawg]

This may beg another topic, but in the 'heterocentric archetype' boy pursues girl... Does this mean top 'should' pursue bottom? Is this why, as being perceived as more top, guys don't intitiate with me? I'm not a head-turning hottie, but I do notice I catch attention of some boys.

Another slight aside: if guys couldn't rub one out on command, do you think there's be more vers and tops out there?

[not_sure_bb]

this happens to me all the time. Im a pretty big guy, deep voice, masc anddo carry myself a certain way that people assume im a top. it couldnt be be wrong. At clubs or bath houses, i make a point to drop right away and suck a guy with people watching to let them know im bottom.  its very annoying at time

[wanttobeseeded]

I'm black in a predominantly white town that tends to exclude black guys as sex partners ("white/Asian/latino only"), or treats all black guys the same: like studs with big dicks who are only good for topping. So guys will often either be cold toward me or go for my dick. It's very frustrating. And like schvenn I've noticed that most guys seem to be more interested in bottoming anyway, so there's already hearty competition for tops.

The few times I have been to the clubs, I've noticed the tops tend to find the most model-like (white, short, muscular) bottom and form a line. Would love to command that kind of interest and wish tops had a bit more diversity to their desires.

[RenzzoRenne]

In my city there are a lot of bottoms (almost 80%), everybody is looking for top, so, more macho you look, more bottom you are; that make that some vers do just top in sex, I do bottom in sex, but sometimes (a few really) must to do top, and when I´m fucking a guy I think, "oh amigo, I must to be there".   Ajajajajajaja

 

[Pig Bottom]

Finding tops in most places is hard.  

[KnkyWnky]

I can relate, 99% of my sexual experience are from bottoming. Regardless, it's always the bottom-only guys who cruise me, and expects me to be the alpha male who will throw'em around and fuck them from here 'til next year like some imagenary god of porn. I find this really odd, 'cause I'm not in any way, shape or form dominant, super masculine or present myself as a top. And living in the nordic region (Norway), most gay/bi guys are bottoms, unfortunetly for me. And on the rare occation when a top is summond by some left over viking magic, he's not interested, not my type, too young/old or live too far away for a hookup. And it's even harder if you're looking for bb, where cruising is only done online by mostly pictureless profiles with hardly any info.