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Does Fisting Destroy Asshole?


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It destroy an asshole yes. I realize this is a raunchy site, yes. But I've been with plenty of tops that are very thankful I'm tight. Fisting can be fun, but I've heard from so many tops it's not fun when you're 8 inches long and thick and you still can't feel anything inside when you're inside another guy because he's been fisted to hell and back.

 

Certainly there are some men who don't do anything to maintain their asses though they are addicted to fist and very large toys. But I find them in the minority.   I know one man who I would describe as loose...against literally dozens of fistees who have the best, most muscular asses I know.

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No-one so far has addressed the question of whether fucking or fisting is better, or whether a guy who's a total top for fucking might enjoy getting fisted, so I'll bite.

 

As far as I'm concerned (and I'm speaking as someone who has both taken a fist and given one, though more of my experience is as a top), you really can't compare fucking and fisting.  They are completely different sexual and sensual experiences for me.

 

When it comes to fucking, I tend to like my sex hard, rough and aggressive.  I love a scene where the bottom is bent over in a dark corner somewhere and getting rammed by the top.  That's not to say that I can't and don't get into slower, gentler, more romantic fucking (I get into fucking of all kinds!) but my tendencies lie more towards the rough-and-tumble.

 

Fisting, by contrast, is a much more sensual, more intimate form of sex for me.  In fact, I would say that I consider fisting to be the most intimate form of sex I know.  Part of this is by necessity:  you can do a lot of harm to a bottom when your hand is inside his ass--hell, you can even kill him if you're not careful (which is why I insist on everyone in a FF scene being completely sober).  And it's very easy to push things to hard and hurt the bottom, which will bring your scene to an end really quickly. 

 

So, on the one hand, as a FF top, it's extremely important to pay extremely close attention to your bottom.  To watch him carefully, to be in tune with his breathing and his body, to know when to push, when to hold still, when to withdraw.  You quite literally hold his life in your hand and it's an awesome privilege and responsibility.  And sometimes, that feeling can be physically felt.  There have been a few times, probably because I came up against an artery inside my bottom, where it literally felt like I was holding his beating heart.

 

As a bottom, it takes an extraordinary act of trust for me to open up for a top.  That is something that the top himself will earn from you as he slowly works his way inside of you.  I was extremely lucky that the first man who ever fisted me happened to be a very experienced top I just happened to pick up at the Eagle in Chicago many, many years ago.  His patience and experience and skill over the course of hours took me to a place where his hand was inside me.  And when that hand goes into you, especially for the first time, it is absolutely an overwhelming experience.

 

At its best, when fisting or getting fisted, to me it seems like the universe contracts to the point where there is nothing but you and your partner and you are joined together as one single entity.  It's really almost a spiritual experience for me.

 

Now, everybody is different and YMMV.  No doubt many of the men that I have gotten into a fisting scene with would report things differently.

 

As for whether you could be a fisting bottom if you don't like getting fucked, well, I would say that it is unusual for a guy to like getting fisted but not fucked.  But anything is possible.  What is most likely, if you do find that you like getting fisted, is that you'd also change you mind about getting fucked.

 

One thing to be aware of, if you don't get fucked because you're worried about HIV and you want to bareback, getting fisted is also a high risk activity.  Whenever something the size of a hand goes into your ass, there will some a little tearing and bleeding.  Not much, not enough to notice, as long as proper precautions are taken, but enough to allow transmission of HIV, if the top has any cracks or scrapes or cuts in the skin of his hand (as most of us do, just from everyday life). 

 

You can always ask the top to wear a latex glove (which has the added benefit of providing a little extra protection from the nails, which the top absolutely must trim carefully and then smooth with an emory board).  On the other hand, that probably won't sit well with a top like me that really appreciates the feel of direct skin-on-skin contact, in which case you must weigh the risks appropriately, just as you would with bareback fucking.

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Almost forgot to mention the bit about no-one cumming in fisting scenes in porn.

 

In my experience, that's pretty common.  Fisting is not about either the top or the bottom's cock.  And while I do get hard as a FF top sometimes (especially later in the scene when the bottom is well and truly nicely open and things are getting a bit more active), my cock is not usually part of what's going on.  Indeed, I generally make it a point not to touch my own cock or to have any third parties touch either me or the bottom since both can distract from what I'm doing with my hand.  I want to be completely, single-mindedly focused on the bottom's asshole when I fist.  OTOH, I have jacked my cock inside a guy's ass before, which is extremely hot.  And I will usually fuck and breed a hole I've just fisted, which really feels different from fucking an ass at any other time, even one that's already been bred by other men.

 

On the bottom side of things, I have seen a bottom get hard when he got fisted.  Usually, this would be someone who was very experienced with opening up and taking you inside (such men are truly astounding to fist...they basically take charge of the whole scene and will literally draw your hand inside of them...it's really amazing).  But in the overwhelming majority of times, the bottom will not have a hardon at all (I know I never have).  It's difficult to explain the mental state I go into as a bottom, but it's not a conventionally sexual one.  Which is probably a good thing because, as you may well know, getting a hardon and playing with your cock actually tightens your ass a bit, so it's counterproductive.

 

On a side note, I have, once or twice, hit a spot inside a bottom's ass that made him piss himself.  He literally could not stop himself.  I've also, very rarely, felt like I was kind of getting very close to having that happen to me when I was in the sling, though I've never actually pissed.  So be aware that's a potential hazard (or bonus, depending on your POV) with fisting scenes, and be prepared accordingly.

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On a side note, I have, once or twice, hit a spot inside a bottom's ass that made him piss himself.  He literally could not stop himself.  I've also, very rarely, felt like I was kind of getting very close to having that happen to me when I was in the sling, though I've never actually pissed.  So be aware that's a potential hazard (or bonus, depending on your POV) with fisting scenes, and be prepared accordingly.

 

I get fisted occasionally and I have to say that most of the times the top has hit that spot and I piss like crazy.  Its not anything I can control, so I now before I get fisted, I warn my top (and anyone else in the room) that I will likely piss. 

 

I must admit that I don't always get hard and cum when I'm getting fisted, although sometimes I do.  It is much more of a sensual pleasure. My top will almost always fuck me either before or after he fists me and that's when I get hard and cum.

 

Fisting has not really affected my hole.  I still get nice and tight and have much more control which makes it easier to open up when i'm getting fucked and clamp down when its good for my top.

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I get fisted/punch fisted/double fisted 3-4 times a week and have done for the past 4 years and the guys my partner shares me with say I have one of the most versatile added they've ever fucked. I do kegel exercises which give me greater control of my ass muscles so I can willingly clamp down or open up. As long as you do it right you won't wreck your ass.

Fisting vs fucking? You can't really compare the two in terms of sensation, the first time I took my boyfriend's fist I pretty much blacked out from sensory overload, whereas fucking is nice and enjoyable a lot of the time but just doesn't quite do it for me in the same way.

As for the cumming thing I don't really know, I'm locked in chastity but as my boyfriend's knuckles work my prostate my cock pours cum without the feeling of orgasm but I have full body orgasms from the fist penetrating so swings and roundabouts really. Hope this helped!

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On 9/9/2015 at 4:30 PM, Sharp-edge said:

So I was wondering.. if someone is into fisting will the asshole get loose after time permanently? For those who are into fisting which sense is better fucking or fisting? And why almost nobody in porn or in amateur videos cums? Can fisting be enjoyable for someone who doesn't enjoy dick like me?

As someone who can walk into a room and have a dry hand work it's way into my hole in under 10 seconds , I have never encountered any long term problems  - this from a guy who also loves getting punch fucked with no lube until I'm bloody - But that's my bag...... ;)

 

Ask yourself this; " Does your mouth stay open after you eat a banana? " It is a muscle like any other. stretching it won't ruin it.

If you want to have your anus cut out, there are fetish groups for that on BME ;)  - Not my bag tho. I like my hole. So do a lot of other people..... A lot of other people.... Don't even know their names.... Don't even care......

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i absolutely love the IDEA of being fisted and being a sub btm i want to please my dom tops, so when they wan na fist me i wanna try , but so far , 4 fingers to the knuckle is all ive taken . i know i get nervous n know i tense , but im not trying to overcome it at the moment. ive tried doing it with good fisters n men i trust , slamming n  puffing , in the dark in a sling over a whole night ,it seems its just not for me . 

in reality my hole is my sex organ , i love getting fucked and the feeling of cock in me , a fist or an arm wouldnt feel better , ill stick with a cock. any size is fine as long as u r getting off getting off in me . interestingly i am really " tight" those guys that like there cock sleve to be real snug have told me this , but i know if u get me horny enough ( pretty much just be a good kisser - lol) ill melt n relax n have had a few 11" easily long dicking me cause they got me all hot n bothered. that being said ive had some average cocks that i couldnt take cause the guy was not making me horny

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On 11/20/2017 at 2:31 PM, Bottomboystretch said:

Fisting vs fucking? You can't really compare the two in terms of sensation, the first time I took my boyfriend's fist I pretty much blacked out from sensory overload, whereas fucking is nice and enjoyable a lot of the time but just doesn't quite do it for me in the same way.

As for the cumming thing I don't really know, I'm locked in chastity but as my boyfriend's knuckles work my prostate my cock pours cum without the feeling of orgasm but I have full body orgasms from the fist penetrating so swings and roundabouts really. Hope this helped!

TOTALLY AGREE!! ??? The sensations of a dick, no matter how huge, is a vastly different sensation. The easiest way I can equate this to is riding a plane. Getting fucked is like turbulence: it's a rough, bumpy ride that gives you different sensations. Getting fisted is like take off: its a gradual feeling (after he's able to pop it in) that just keeps going and going and going. I don't handball much, so I only let a few very experienced fisters do me. But on the rare occassion that I do meet up with them, I'm all game. 

I've experienced the phenomenon where I have pissed myself on command. But my absolute fav is when the Top knuckle rubs my P-Spot and make me cum uncontrollably. Cum will start dribbling out of my flaccid or semi-hard penis while my legs shake then it feels like I have an out of body experience, almost like I'm high. Minutes feel like hours in utter bliss.

As for being unusually after getting fisted, it might be overly stretched for a while, but usually returns to my usually, pussy like slit in a few hours.??

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On 1/28/2018 at 9:39 PM, bbcunthole said:

i absolutely love the IDEA of being fisted and being a sub btm i want to please my dom tops, so when they wan na fist me i wanna try , but so far , 4 fingers to the knuckle is all ive taken . i know i get nervous n know i tense , but im not trying to overcome it at the moment. ive tried doing it with good fisters n men i trust , slamming n  puffing , in the dark in a sling over a whole night ,it seems its just not for me . 

in reality my hole is my sex organ , i love getting fucked and the feeling of cock in me , a fist or an arm wouldnt feel better , ill stick with a cock. any size is fine as long as u r getting off getting off in me . interestingly i am really " tight" those guys that like there cock sleve to be real snug have told me this , but i know if u get me horny enough ( pretty much just be a good kisser - lol) ill melt n relax n have had a few 11" easily long dicking me cause they got me all hot n bothered. that being said ive had some average cocks that i couldnt take cause the guy was not making me horny

I can relate to so much of this. Also really appreciated what PheonixGeoff said. For me, so much of sex is mental/emotional. It's like the physical act is an expression of something more?  I get and appreciate versatile guys, but for me i like the extremity of Top/bottom, DOM/sub, Yang/yin. By "extremity" i mean the extreme pull of two opposites. 

I've never had a whole hand inside of me, butt have experienced a few who have started the process and i feel like, even though i have yet to have a whole hand, that i am headed that way and that my hole is forever changed. I don't think fisting "destroys asshole" but for me, it changes it on every level, physical, emotional and mentally. For me, it's a further mark that a Top puts on me, marking me as even more of a bottom for a Tops pleasure... which is my pleasure. For me, the chemistry works full circle. Love what PheonixGeoff said about trust because trust vs force makes for so much more. 

I've had this fantasy where I wake up with a Tops hand inside of me. I know, lol, that's probably ridiculous, but to me it speaks of my love of the dynamic of extremity of desire between a Top and bottom.  I love the notion of a Top being so TOP that He is hole obsessed and skilled to the point of being able to creep His way into a bottom who really wants Him. 

For me it's about mutual desire expressed from two opposite directions.

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Fisting has not wrecked my ass.   I no longer take a fist as often as I would like anymore, but when I do I pretty much tighten right back up.  I do kegels and squats every day though for rounder and firmer ass and greater muscle control.    With regards to fucking versus fisting it is like comparing peas to carrots.  Both are vegetables, both compliment each other, both are good by themselves, both are uniquely different.    Depending on the top, I can enjoy his fist more than his cock and vise versa.    While I love my ass being pumped full of cock and cum, I really love getting fisted elbow deep, and feeling his hand, fingers and arm inside me.   

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