Should I Let This Guy Use Me 5 To 7 Times A Night?

[RenoGuy]

Here's the deal.  It's not that I'm a virgin or anything, but usually, when I hook up with a guy, I give him a blowjob.  Last night, however, I responded to the ad of this guy who sounded like he just wanted to have fun, but happen to mention "open to barebacking."  In talking to him, it's a lot more serious: he talked about wanting to inseminate me.  He said that he usually comes multiple times — if I stay the night, I'd probably take five to seven loads in my ass.  He talked about needing it every night if he could get it.  When I've been fucked before, it's only been once, and then a few days off — I can't imagine getting nailed multiple times in a night, and then the guy wanting to bury his cock in me again the next night.  I've been pretty safe for this last year, so this is my first problem: worrying about going bareback with a stranger and whether I can take it as much as he wants it.  He says he is negative and tests regularly.  I am too.

 

The next issue: When I have barebacked, it's usually been with a straight guy or a complete top — I know it's stupid, but I'v always felt safer with someone who doesn't get fucked.  This guy says he also wants me to fuck him and cum in him.  It has me worried that if he is not a complete top, but has let other guys ejaculate in him, I might be putting myself at risk.  The other thing I worry about is I told him I'm not very good at topping a guy, but willing to learn — I'm worried about being able to satisfy him.

 

So, there's my dilemma: Worrying about going bareback; worrying about being able to hack being fucked multiple times in a night; worried about the risk of a guy who is a bareback bottom topping me, and finally; worrying about whether I can satisfy him as a top.

 

Reality?  I would love to have a guy who could fuck me and cum in me regularly.  I love that this guy is direct and has a dirty mouth (something I like.)  I also would really like to learn how to top a guy.  I think I would enjoy it, but I just need someone who let me try it repeatedly. 

 

I've agreed to meet him for a beer Wednesday night at a local casino.  What do you guys think?  Am I overthinking this?  Am I putting myself at more risk being with a guy who also bottoms, or should I be reassured that because he bottoms like I do, he's more aware of the importance of testing and getting with an HIV-negative partner?

 

Sorry… Rambling now.  Thanks for any thoughts you have!

[hotbbbottom4u]

If you have any worries at all of becoming poz then I would not bareback. He may be tested and he may be neg but be aware that there are some poz guys that will say they are neg just go bareback. They also might not even know there status.I am chasing so I don't usually ask the guys status. My advice is just don't assume that a guy is neg. If you are worried either use a condom or get on prep ASAP.

[bbzh]

If he has had unprotected sex since he last tested, he might not be negative anymore. And please stop trying to gauge how much risk you might be taking because you just don't know. 

 

Why not play safe the first few times but leave it open to playing raw later? Or as someone earlier said, go on PrEP.

 

Guys are not stupid. If a guy knows he is dealing with an inexperienced partner - and he wants to bareback - he is not going to admit to giving and taking random loads from strangers. Just assume that he is a slut.

 

But please don't end up as one of those guys who takes a load off a stranger and then freaks out when you find out he is the community cumdump. You are kidding yourself if you think you are the ONLY person he is trying to get his raw dick into.

 

Sounds like you need to beat off to bareback porn a bit longer and really get informed about the risks of bb sex. 

[tallslenderguy]

I see a common theme in your topic: "worry." I went decades taking lots of loads and only recently became poz. Ironically, I learned I was poz after deciding to go on prep and taking the initial test to start the process. Now I'm on meds anyway because I want to be undetectable. Not a chaser or a gifter.

 

It's just another guys opinion, but you sound to me like you'd benefit from prep. I used to serosort too, same kind of reasoning as you, also worried, but always ended up wanting loads (and taking them).

 

If you are going to continue to do as you are doing, just be straight in your head (so to speak) that you are indeed at risk for becoming poz and the risk you are taking is all your choice. That's just a fact. When I became poz, I thought I had a pretty good idea who i got it from for reasons that do not really matter here. I do know he gave me syphilis, and when I let him know (just as a courtesy), he denied it. He was kind of like your guy, a repeat fucker who would fuck for hours and cum multiple times. I liked getting fucked by him and made my choice, even though I was suspicious that he might be a carrier.

 

Bottom line, I wanted him and the choice was mine whether he was lying or not.  I am totally at peace with that and him.  It's simply unrealistic (and you already know this, I'm just stating the obvious) to hope you can stay neg by trying to be choosy about who you let fuck you. I'll include a monogamous relationship in that. It may be the cynic in me, but you are only as monogamous as your partner is, and you can never guarantee the monogamy of another person.  

 

The risk of contracting HIV is part of being sexually active, even if you only fuck once a year. The good news is, HIV is no longer a death sentence, it's usually a very manageable chronic disease for most. So, if you want a guarantee, you'll have to abstain. If you want to minimize your risk, then condoms or prep. If you gotta have cum, know that HIV and other STI's are likely part of your future.

[Guest ff-whole]

The answer is YES ! ! !

I'm like @tallslenderguy... trying to sero sort but always wanting the dick and cum in my ass so worry but taking the load anyway.

Over here Prep is not available so I might get it first thing if I have the chance and if I were in the situation like you are in; get on Prep immediately and have this guy breed me as often as he wants.

Fuck can you imagine getting a multiple load kind-of gangbang by one really good cumming dick...?

Where can I sign up...?

;-)

Edited April 18, 2016 by ff-whole

[RenoGuy]

Thank you, Guys!  Especially, TallSlenderGuy, you put it in perspective for me.  I've already canceled meeting the guy Wednesday.  Prep is, unfortunately, still pretty expensive ($300 a month at last check), so it's really not an option for me.

 

I learned this a long time ago, but perhaps I forgot: Some things are great fantasies, but better kept as fantasies than reality.  I'll continue to enjoy the fantasies here on this website, and even contribute some of my own (see my contribution under "stealthing"), but I'm just not willing to spend the latter part of my life or my adequate but limited income dealing with a chronic health issue.  I think, honestly, this has more to do with intimacy than with sex.  I just want to be close to a guy so much but haven't had that in my life for quite a while.  So… I'll keep enjoying the fantasy and keep looking for real intimacy.

 

Thanks again for talking sense into me.

[Guest ff-whole]

You see... now you are wiser for what you want...; intimacy...

I don't look for cuddling...

I want raw slutty sex !

[tallbtm]

 

Thank you, Guys!  Especially, TallSlenderGuy, you put it in perspective for me.  I've already canceled meeting the guy Wednesday.  Prep is, unfortunately, still pretty expensive ($300 a month at last check), so it's really not an option for me.

 

 

Hi RenoGuy,

 

PrEP doesn't have to be unaffordable for you!  

 

Gilead (the manufacturer of Truvada) has a co-pay assistance program that will cover up to $3000/year of your insurance co-pay costs. And there's no income-eligibility requirement. Signing up is easy. Check it out at gileadcopay.com

 

They also have programs for people who don't have insurance: www.truvada.com/truvada-patient-assistance

[tradiemason]

I have been takin any/all raw loads for 13 years (yes I am a proud cumdump) n am still neg havent caught anythin else either dunno why so your prospective fucker would be ideal for me as I cant get fucked n loaded enuff !

But if I was you "RenoGuy" I would take it real slow because as the other guys have said you have gotta assume the guy is poz n proceed with that in mind n dont do anythin until your comfortable with it

[PozSlime]

5-7 is for twinks and posers..

 

live life on the edge and let him do you at least 8 times!!

 

Oink!

[KindaBasic]

Whatever makes you happy.

[Guest BtmByTheBay]

Sorry to hear you didn't get fucked, but as everyone else has been saying, it's all down to your personal comfort. Getting PrEP is a definite good idea, though; it's fucking (pun intended) great stuff, and it's helped ME be less worried about going bare for sure!

Also, that's a super fucking hot pic . . . got any more of it (or a full vid)?

[houbtmbtch]

Give me his number.

[seaguy]

 

Thank you, Guys!  Especially, TallSlenderGuy, you put it in perspective for me.  I've already canceled meeting the guy Wednesday.  Prep is, unfortunately, still pretty expensive ($300 a month at last check), so it's really not an option for me.

 

I learned this a long time ago, but perhaps I forgot: Some things are great fantasies, but better kept as fantasies than reality.  I'll continue to enjoy the fantasies here on this website, and even contribute some of my own (see my contribution under "stealthing"), but I'm just not willing to spend the latter part of my life or my adequate but limited income dealing with a chronic health issue.  I think, honestly, this has more to do with intimacy than with sex.  I just want to be close to a guy so much but haven't had that in my life for quite a while.  So… I'll keep enjoying the fantasy and keep looking for real intimacy.

 

Thanks again for talking sense into me.

 

Have you also factored in the Gilead patient assistance program for your costs? http://www.gilead.com/responsibility/us-patient-access/truvada%20for%20prep%20medication%20assistance%20program Also some states offer assistance or will pay for it for you seperate from the medicaid program.

[Cumjunky215]

I recently met a guy for drinks, we hit it off, and went home together.  Over about 3 hours I got fucked and bred 4 times.  None were quick fucks, all longer than 15-20 minutes.  We'd stop, chat some more, then he'd fuck again, once in the shower.  He kept apologizing he was humming so quickly (I didn't think so), and that he didn't think they were big loads (I thought they were huge--had trouble holding them in).  He stares in my eyes when he's cumin and tells me to hold it all in.  So hot.

 

We're going to meet again soon, he said he usually can last longer,cum more, and more often and was sorry for the short play.  Fuck!  If he really can cum more and more often I'll be drowning .  But looking forward to it