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It's been awhile since I've posted.

Since finding this forum/blog/site I've fucked anon cumdump holes, pissed down throats, spit on faces, sat in a rim chair and had a bottom dig deep and suck hard. I've had a happy ending massage from a versatile couple, and a local deep throat slut gag and swallow and compliment my cock. They never call. They never whine. These guys tell me my cock is sexy and that I'm hot and they WANT what I shoot in or on them. No faking!

I'm basically straight but if I had to guess I'd say I'm more pansexual, whatever that means. I get hard thinking about booking a trip to Palm Springs for their summer piss orgy, and I cruise A4A, BBRTS, and CL for postings.

I wouldn't turn down the opportunity to have a MMF or FMF bi-experience or even try an evening with a Trans-M or Trans-F.

I don't really think you can label me. I'm pretty realistic in that the IDEA of sex is often better than the experience. 

I will probably only ever date or marry women but from MY "straight" perspective I can say I'm a kinky dude who wants that non-commitment hole(s) that satisfies some of my needs and fetishes. Part of it is when I fuck women they rarely seem as excited and grateful to be together in sweaty congress as bottom men do.

 

-Dirtysouth

-New Orleans, LA

 

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On 4/21/2017 at 5:21 AM, Toon said:

And so many men are deeply in the closet. They think a wife, a kid and a nice house are a nice disguise. But then kid turns two or three and the wife gets fat, and the guy starts to reconsider his life. I've dated a few married guys and was smart enough to just exit before it got complicated. 

Sounds like my brother he's in his 50's & still in the closet. But goes fucking around in the woods every chance he gets.

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guys are built to cum.The more often this occurs the better they feel.So we all search constantly for oppourtunities to do so,and hookups with gay guys  offer the chance to get off in a fantastic way without any entanglements.As a bi guy I often wonder why so many guys get married after hearing about the bitch they live with.Sure sounds like they got trapped without realizing it many times.That's sad.

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Divorced here but I loved my ex [still in love but she is not the same woman anymore] .
Unfortunately she was at the end almost completely asexual with me. Told me to go find my pleasure with other women as long as she didn't have to know. But I was always very sexual with my own ass, and though very closeted about it, I went to see men to play with my ass. And from one followed the other. Also now at an age that easy sex is hard to come by.
As soon as we split I found out that my ex's new flame was in luck with sex, but I am serious doubt it will last.

Anyway I stayed with the easy sex with gay people, calling myself a closeted bi-sexual, indeed no strings attached, no drama, and I loved the way the tops used my body and my ass for their pleasure and loved the slutty and dominated feeling... I am evolving slowly. First no dick sucking, now I love to suck dick, no bare loads, and now I am desperate for loads up my ass...

Ended up short while with another woman who loved to have sex with me, also accidently fisted me once... So that part is all great, but there are issues; she is far away in another country and we are not really compatible... I also miss the so addictive feeling of being a used and sometimes gangbanged cumslut. Though I must say, that when she would dominantly sit on my face was very good too...

My ex would give lousy blowjobs and didn't want me to go down on her... vaginal sex was very unsatisfactory and definitely no anal... but I loved every millimeter of her body and for the rest of our lives we were completely compatible
Other woman's blowjob was so-so [I believe real gays can give better blow jobs], loved going down on her and she loved it too, vaginal sex was okay, anal also... but further no love connection.
Males so far; some excellent, some good and some "mwoahhhh" > next please... for that I need a woman. Some were able to give expert blow jobs, never experienced before... but definitely no love connection...

But there you have it:

  1. closeted bi-sexual
  2. desperate need to feel used as gangbang cumslut bottom
  3. would love to fall in love with the perfect woman who would use me, and let me get used as a slut... She can sit on my face having her ass and pussy licked, while I get used by hordes of loaded tops, bears, leather and other big dick jockeys....

 

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On 04/17/2017 at 4:50 PM, hungry_hole said:

Whenever someone says to me "You must be gay because you prefer to have sex with men" I remind them that it's no really that I am "attracted" to men but more to the way men like having sex: anonymous, NSA, fetishes, group and drama-free action (no jealousy or shit like that). Love may be involved, but it will be more like the bottom falling in-love with the top as his hole is being pumped with a load. A very temporary feeling of love, but still love.

I remember once being at a cruising park and making out with some random guy. He said to me "You turn me on so much!" I reached down and noticed he had a raging hard-on. I then realized how hot it is to get a real life touchable object, the hard-on, that proves the statement "You turn me on so much!" From a woman, I would have to take her word because the kind of feedback that the body of a woman can give will never equal a hard-on. Why can't a "straight" man, a man who doesn't feel different from other men, a man who may be married or have a girlfriend, why can't any of these men be able to enjoy what sex with men have to offer that sex with women doesn't, without having to define those men as "closeted" gay.

Many "Straight" married guys show up at those hotel unlocked door, ass up on the air, take all loads events. It's a pretty hot scene that some "straight" men have a hard time saying no to. Maybe if more women offered the same kinds of hotel walk-ins these married men would go for them. But all the available cumholes are men so they go for men.

I'm of the opinion that the term "gay" should only be used in a situation of self-identity. A guy  may consider himself to be gay because he loves having sex with men in public toilets, bathhouses, etc. But this should not mean that all the men who frequent these same places are gay. I had NSA sex with men for a long time but "being gay" has never resonated with me. Most guys who proclaim being gay talk about being different from the other boys. I never felt any different from the other boys, just more adventurous.

 

Very, very well put.


What I think everyone is missing though is that all the evidence from biology, psychology and the simple fact even when it was illegal and a labelled a mortal sin (haha, whatever lol) you couldn't stop men fucking men because it is natural,it is a fundamental part of our underlying make up.

200,000 years of evolved behaviour is too deep within us to be suppressed by 2,000 years of mental conditioning by society and religion.

Also the psuedo-macho image of the 'real' man we've all been brought up to believe in as the moral,natural and proper way for a man to be takes a high degree of cognitive flexibility to be able to get out from under the shadow of.

The majority of straight men haven't the integrity, honesty, or inner strength to admit to either themselves but equally their peers that they secretly love gay sex.

I've hooked up with 3 or 4 married men who by claiming they're straight,were expecting to go on top like a proper straight man obviously would.

Simply saying stating you are straight when you can't get into my bed quick enough when tearing at my clothes crying how badly you want me naked doesn't actually make you a masculine top.

Oh aye, my clothes came off real fast and in heart beat I'm in bed with you but I'm the one intent on taking the lead and dictating the pace aswell as who is taking what.


It's amazing how little they resist when they find themselves with a real top this time. They may suddenly have lost that bold bluster and confidence when they find they aren't able to take control of the situation but they knew fine what was coming and had every opportunityto say no if that's what they truly wanted yet they never do.

When you take a married straight man and he came home with you intent on acting the 'real' man that who fucks the brains out of sissys and subs and fuck him like a silly little teenage girl it's funny how at first he doesn't complain but later that night he's hollering with pleasure as he's used like a dirty wee slut ??


The default sexual nature of the human nail is somewhere on the bisexual curve. The binary polar opposites of absolutely str8 or absolutely gay for that matter are the exceptions that prove the rule ??

 

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Also what many have said about married men seeking out what they don't get from their wives is also very often true.

Women just don't crave being fucked up the arse outside the porn industry.I've met maybe 1 or 2 that truly wanted my cock in their dirty brown. All the rest who did it agreed mostly for my benefit, some not that bothered others that wouldn't ever do it al all if it wasn't to please me. Half of them won't do it al all.

Blowjobs kind of fall into a similar groove as anal sex but generally more of them actually enjoy it, most do it for the sake of it but quite a few feel resentful because they feel like they have no choice which is crazy because no isn't a hard word to say and sliding your lips over the head isn't a good way to avoid doing something you real don't enjoy.


Men feel by nature sex starved even if we're getting it 3 times a night, every night.

So if you're looking for a high degree of energetic, physical great sex with someone who actually does crave your cock badly needing your seed filling their mouth and hole then you really do have to find yourself a cock slut bottom.


I'm not gay, I'm not straight either. I absolutely adore women and find them highly attractive in a way I could never feel about another man but......


.........but sex with othet men just feel so. much more exciting, satisfying, deeply pleasurable that ends with the loss of  physical strength and not a drip of fluid left in your balls.


I'm beginning to believe, actually am as near as possible absolutely sure that in evolutionary terms the old fashioned claim that sex is only between a man and women for the sacred purpose of procreation.

 

Where as sex with your mates, dirty horny cock slut males and masculine bottoms aswell as sex from sheer lust, passion and crazed desire for a monumental orgasm is when you go looking for another man for sex ??

 

 

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18 hours ago, badpenny72 said:

I'm not gay, I'm not straight either.

I stay completely away from these polluted terminology.

I've read of guys who define themselves as Gay and go on to describe their sexual life and the times spent in the gloryholes of a nearby shopping mall sucking cock and sometime getting fucked by strangers. Never a lover. If he was ever asked about his sexuality he would say "I'm gay" because it's better that having to say "All I like doing is sucking anonymous cocks in  gloryhole near my place."

Whenever I'm referred to as gay I make it clear that I'm not gay because I don't like having sex with men. And it's true, because the only type of sex I enjoy is anonymous. Having sex with a man I know is not appealing at all to me. Maybe once when you still don't know each other very well, especially when I was young. But now all I like is anonymous sex and it happens that men are great at that activity. But do I now have to call myself gay?

I find that many men use "being gay" as a cop-out from having to really talk about what really enjoy in sex with other men, like "I addicted to cum!" So many men have watched  video of a cock shooting a load and because they were turned on by it, they decided "I'm gay!".

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On 4/30/2017 at 9:29 AM, ff-whole said:

 

Ended up short while with another woman who loved to have sex with me, also accidently fisted me once... So that part is all great, but there are issues; she is far away in

How does one get "accidentally fisted"?

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@tallslenderguy ; I'll explain...

I was taking a shower after a fun session having sex in the warm waters of a secluded tropical lagoon... [Yes really...]
And while I took a shower, I had a good dump before on the toilet and I like to clean afterwards under the shower. So when she joined me naked we started to soap each other and when her soapy hand slipped between my buttocks, I took her hand/wrist and pushed it right in. Yes I am that loose when I want to... 

You should have seen the look on her face... totally astounded what happened, and her hand was small enough.
It was a short moment only but we just laughed, cleaned and rinsed off and after drying each other with big towels, we continued further in bed, where I positioned her right on top of my face and licked her slit and ass hole. Loved doing that to her. While she was soaking wet I tried to fist her in her pussy, and though I don't have that large hands, I didn't get very far in but she loved it, coming in full ecstasy.

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On 4/24/2017 at 3:14 PM, Dirtysouth said:

I'm basically straight but if I had to guess I'd say I'm more pansexual, whatever that means. I get hard thinking about booking a trip to Palm Springs for their summer piss orgy, and I cruise A4A, BBRTS, and CL for postings.

Well that was hot to read.

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I have to agree with so many  about the reasons why married men want to hook up with us,, I have had and have many married /single straight men contact me some one time then others are regular,, they are all the same 1 in the closet 2 wives/girlfriends will not get down and dirty with then give them the sexual actions they want and desire some are simply their fantasies that they will not do for them and for myself I will within reason nothing illegal, or harmful to me, 3 in my case as a cross dresser and fem acting they say their women will not dress sexy and give them the look I will, 4 the wives sexually will not give them the anal or oral actions we will and i have a couple that love to share me with another straight friend and their wives are not into the group sexual scene,, 

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Heterosexuality, homosexuality, bisexuality, etc., likely have inmate causes wired into our individual circuitry, but they are also largely cultural constructs. Where does innate end and learned behave begin? I think (hope) culture is evolving and people are getting freer to express their sexual selves. 

I hypothesize that if nature tends towards homeostasis (balance) we're headed towards a time when there will be as many tops as bottoms (this could just be a fag fantasy lol), and that there are already plenty of tops out there, but they are socially constrained to express their sexuality in monogamous heterosexual marriage. 

I've been having an off forum discussion with one of the guys here about the term "faggot." It's a word I used to associate with derision, kind of like "queer." I am finding I like it though as a descriptor for exclusive bottom guys. Words like "bitch, cunt, pussy" are used by some, hated by some, others are neutral, others love the words. But those are all words coopted from women. No woman was ever called a "faggot" or "fag," it's a word exclusively reserved for guys of a certain type. 

So, to the original question "why do married/straight men hook up with fags?"  I believe it's because we all don't naturally fit into the boxes that culture has made, that many conform who would not otherwise if they didn't feel constrained, and others 'cheat.'  I wonder if all cultural distinctions like  "heater, homo, bi" all disappeared tomorrow and the standard was to have sex wherever their was mutual consent that we'd discover hetero is not as big a 'norm' as has been promulgated.  

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I am only speaking from my own experience but I think many men have found themselves unwilling to defy the "norm" which has been forced on us and not willing to live with the prejudice. Sad though it is, many would rather lead the closeted life because of this. OK, I am totally busted because this is where I am, but I am totally sure it applies to many.

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