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On 4/23/2017 at 4:20 PM, Guest yelrom said:

I am married to lovely woman but all I can think of is me being fucked. I love the feeling of a cock inside me. Go for it enjoy it

I feel the same way; I enjoy most everything with my wife, sexually, yet I love Anal sex ( Receiving), and can't resist having my ass plowed. I am very prone to having prostate orgasms, or Cumming hands free, and I feel this is the reason I stray from the Heterosexual Reservation, at times. 

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Good morning, Bob

I have a couple of suggestions.  First, define your use of generic terms (i.e. "gay", "straight") for yourself.  These are fairly amorphous terms, and can mean whatever you tell yourself they mean.  Take your time to consider where on the spectrum of sexual identity your needs lie (your *real* self, not your "cultural" self), and be  honest with yourself.  I know there is such a thing as bi-sexuality, and if that's where you fit in, fine.  Always ask yourself this question: if x statement is true, then why is if true?*

When I was a kid, I fucked girls because I honestly didn't know it was possible for guys to fuck each other.  Talk about a repressive childhood, huh?  That said, when I discovered that guys could actually have sex with each other, I never fucked another girl.  Define yourself and your requirements for yourself, disregarding what others might think.  It's your life, not anyone else's.  Do what makes you happiest, most fulfilled.

You wrote that you "know" you're "straight" (perhaps a brief nod to cultural norms?), and then wax poetic about fantasies of "gay" sex.  If the first is true, then why is it the second reads as so much more interest?  At least do some serious and honest reflection on what you really need to be a "whole, complete, fulfilled" man.  You also mention a "partner", but neglect to mention the gender of your partner.  I would guess it's female, but that's unclear.  Why not say?  Perhaps because you're subliminally trying to disguise the situation you're in to yourself?  In any case, no one want's to hurt their partner, since the partnership implies a level of caring for that person, loving that person.  Of course you want to protect that person from being hurt, injured in any way.  That said, if the "partnership" is built on a substantial secret ... oh, say lusting for sex with a differently gendered person/persons/many persons ... the fair and honest thing to do is include your partner in that fantasy.  Perhaps that partner already senses (or even knows) what's in your mind, and doesn't know how to deal with it.

All of which leads to two tasks you may want to consider.  First, your own private and honest introspection which I most sincerely hope will lead to resolution.  Secondly, including your partner in that hoped-for resolution.  Then, you (and your partner) can move forward with your lives.  Dishonesty between "partners" always leads to unhappiness, so do what you must to avoid that, but be true to yourself first, since without that, it's hardly possible to be true to your partner.

  Thanks for the very interesting post, and my best wishes to you (and your partner).

It's all about (at least for me ...) Cock/Hole/Sperm

*this applies across the board of intellectual inquiry; cultural identity, sexual identity, politics, religion - everything.

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Dont label yourself.  At some point psychologists tried to categorize sexual relations and failed at it.  At lot of guys like watching another guy cum, and yes, they want to be holding, sucking, or  do something with a cock thats shooting sperm.  But they also like women. Even porn figured that out with the "money shot."  

If you think you might like getting off with another guy, just do it.  If you need a few beers to do it, have a couple.  Some guys can only suck cock when they have been drinking.  Other guys just like anal sex, but dont want a relationship with another guy in any form.   Personally, I have found over the years I like a friendship with my fuck buddies, but I dont like holding his hands as we walk along a beach.  Its more like talk about life, fuck, have a beer, talk about life, etc.  Others might feel different. 

As you can tell from the response here, there's a lot of guys in the same boat as you.  You just need to find your zone.

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On 4/16/2017 at 5:46 PM, Bob123456 said:

Okay, where do I start?  Well, let me say I'm struggling at the moment as far as my sexuality is concerned.  I know I'm straight, but the thought of gay sex is really turning me on.  The thought of taking cock and sliding into a hot sexy man pussy is overwhelming.  Tasting cum, feeling it spray over my body is turning me on like crazy.  If you hadn't guessed as much, I'm a virgin at least in regards to gay sex.

I really want to experience gay sex, but I'm in a relationship and don't want to hurt or harm my partner.  At this moment I'm just looking for advice.  If you have any suggestions I'd be happy to hear them.

You are not Straight. Come out of the false sense of security. If you get sexually aroused by same sex you are not Straight. Most so called straight men who fuck a guy thinking that a hole is a hole are many times responsible for spread of diseases bcoz they think they are invincible. You are a bisexual and there is nothing wrong in accepting the same. Have an honest and open discussion with your woman partner if you have one and avoid bareback sex at all cost. If you hide this from your woman partner then be prepared to be ok if your woman partner is spreading her legs for someone else. 

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I am gay, have been since my teens and probably earlier, but don’t get hung up on labels and don’t let people try to label you.

Over the years I have had sex with lots of married men, most in a loving relationship with their wives and most had kids at home who they doted on, they just also had a need for man-on-man sex. Many of those married men liked to bottom, something that most wives wouldn’t be comfortable with, but another man would. I never tried to label them as their sexuality is their business, they had a need, they were enjoying, I was enjoying, nobody was being hurt by it and afterwards they went back to their married lives and carried on as normal.

All I would say is that if you choose to have sex with men and  have a partner that you love and don’t want to lose, for heavens sake BE DISCRETE with your hookups.  Also use protection as you don’t want to pass anything onto your partner.

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