Can anybody answer this?

[constructionguy]

So many ads - on bareback and non bareback sites say "looking for guys under 45" or "nobody over 45", or words to that effect, I am generally curious when exactly did 45 become the magic cut off point? It's like 44 has one foot in boyhood and 46 is the fast track to senility. 

Just saying'....

[rawsatyr]

All that narrow focus is pretty stupid. In places like Memphis some guys who are 20 years younger than me besides not working out look like they lived in the fast-food-line of Taco Bell, talking age-judgmental shit out of a premature crystal meth mouth. And no true sex-appeal or fun personality! I've heard them make comments about 'older 'guys, good or bad and it is obvious they have no idea how to guess ages accurately in person! As the 'fast-track-to-senility' goes: they are unaware they are tragic figures, tore-up-from-the-floor-up 20, 25, 30 going on 85 and disability in the fast-lane and still they are always angry at the world on Facebook that 'nobody ever wants me'...

My man is much younger than me and he tells me 'you always get the hot ones'. Well, I work out more than he does and works in an office all the time. But he gets plenty of response on grindr!! But we both avoid Jacob, a sexy, tall twink who insults everybody and rants about 'haters' on FB, where he brags about how he is in BB-porn now (true, with trannies) and that he can't be bothered to talk to 'ugly people'. But older ones who pay his bills are an exception. Crazy world!

There was a guy on bbrt who posted he is 'only into topping younger, under 40' I think it says. After seeing me put on a good show at a sex party, recognizing my profile,  and I guess my fairly NEW reputation getting around, he suddenly 'raised his age-limit' on bbrt to let me 'slide in RIGHT UNDER THE RADAR', lol. Yeah ok I get the hint! I'll do'em! We are talking, he wants to breed me now.

When I was a twink, some of the hottest sex I had was with older guys. Never asked them their age as I don't have a daddy complex, just liked the dark, soothing voices. DECADES later I found out the true age of let's call him BERNIE by researching his profile on Wikipedia. He is (now famously-married to an actress) an older producer, silver-haired and very 'square' and in the film business. That latter part actually intimidated me (as I was just a fresh nobody next to him) and I always wished he had shown me pictures from his younger days so I'd feel more at ease...

Some of the hottest memories were when I (as a notoriously underaged, twinkish-looking 20-year-old, in retro 'looking like a boy') picked up hot, older HONCHO or COLT-type dudes (via an older male MENTOR) in rugged boots, cowboy hats, ball-caps, guys in bulging denims showing crotch and manly flannel-shirts showing chest at MOTHER LODE in West Hollywood. But instead of them 6-foot-plus 190lbs studs topping me I (at 5'11" and a measly 144lbs then) mounted those musky bulls like a giddy pony, bareback and balls-deep. I felt quite accomplished and wished I had stayed on that path of prowling. I'd have been very popular once the 'young pitcher' reputation got around! Back then we all still 'hunted in the flesh' no internet, and I never understood the nervous twink-nellies who dizzed older guys (older as in their 30's even) guys in the bars...

Later, I recall a twit, maybe 19, nelly and whatnot, leaning back on the hood of my Mustang in front of RAGE the day I turned 22, telling me "OH you are now SO OVER THE HILL!" I bet that thing didn't age well, became very lonely and bitter as the pickings got slimmer and him fatter... and never reached 40!

[bbpoznow]

for all the guys that are age  hung up. IT IS A NUMBER ONLY.I know guys in here over   20 and in worst shape  than me. In the summer I still play 36 holes of golf a day and work 5 to 6 hr a night.  most of the young guys cant keep up, or hit the ball over 200 . I have grand kids older than some on here  

 I still like the  Bottom bare 

[Prairiefire]

What makes me laugh are guys my age that say twinks or young only.  They are basically telling everyone they wouldn't be interested in themselves.  If they wouldn't go for a guy their age, why should they expect anyone else?

[Davidc]

I’m 53 and a stocky bear ,  5 years ago I thought that my sex life was over However having got my self on prep I’m now fucking more 30 years olds than ever !

i am realistic that 20 year olds won’t let me fuck them , but there is someypthing hot about 30 year olds , there are no longer the centre of attention they were and are more greatful for a decent fuck and load.

i am relaxed when 20 year olds reject me or rude when out cruising and let them it’s only a matter of time before they are not the centre of attention, let them have there moment of glory.

 

[Read1]

Prairie and David,

You make interesting points of discussion I too have experienced in my bb adventures! Txs so much!

[Guest daddyloadny]

When I was younger I always welcomed the older Daddy types. Now in my fifties I have lots of twenty somethings after me. I guess Karma went to work...

[btm2bbred]

When I was coming out in my late teens, I was lucky to have an artist who painted portraits as my mentor.    He was in his 50's, but still had a good physique.     Basically, he taught me how to suck cock, and much more.      Although he explained  anal sex to me, we never got that far.    Our sexual activity was mostly jacking off, kissing, and mutual cock sucking.

When I went to college, I stayed in touch with him when I went home.    Naturally, I started cruising guys my own age.    As I learned more about being gay, I slowly discovered that I enjoyed having sex with older men who taught me a lot about sensuality.    Most guys my age just wanted to get their rocks off asap.     When I was fucked for the first time in my early 20's, it was by a 40 year old guy who realized I was a virgin as far butt fucking.     He took his time with me, and made sure my hole was well lubed, and slowly entered me.   I was scared to death at first, but when I adjusted to him being inside me, I pretty quickly learned of the joys of being fucked by a man.    I became a bottom, and remain a bottom to this  day.

I enjoyed both guys my own age, and men who were 10, 20, 30 years older.

Now that I am in my 50"s,  I still enjoy having sex with men some of whom are up to 25 years younger, and others  who are in their mid 70's .    I think I can enjoy a long sex life.

I don't get the teen or 20 something twinks any more, but I can live without them so long as I can get the 30 and over crowd to hook up with.    There are plenty of virile men in their 60's and 70's, and they know how to fuck.

 

 

[tallslenderguy]

Good discussion!

We cannot help aging, but that is something we don't seem to grasp until we're older.  It's a fallacy that getting feeble is a natural part of aging. I work in healthcare (critical care) and easily 85% of my patients have disease processes related to diet (mostly) and inactivity. As a younger guy, age didn't matter so much to me as how a guy looked. As I got older all that mattered when it came to sex was whether or not his cock functioned. 

I suppose there is probably an evolutionary element involved? That get's into the question of whether or not gay is a variant on straight or whether we are our own thing. The notion about straights is we choose our mate for survival, i.e., the healthiest, strongest, mate that can ensure survival of offspring. Course, that's not a factor with two guys, but if gay is a variant on straight, we may still have some straight instincts. 

The other thing is ageism is also a cultural/social phenomena.  There are cultures where age is revered instead of disdained. I get hit on by Filipino guys that are half my age fairly frequently from online. When out and cruising,I don't run into age issues to often as I'm in pretty good shape and don't look my age, but online is different, you are so right about that magic number of 45.

Online encourages identifying a number for interest by having search functions that ask for age range as a factor of choice, or have us declare our age upfront. That isn't done in face to face experience. We don't wear a card around our neck out in public with the number of our age emblazoned on it.

Edited January 5, 2018 by tallslenderguy

[hungry_hole]

One of the things I like about men cruising for sex is that we can be honest about what we want without having to conform to any social norm.

Forcing anyone to like older men under the pretense of ageism is like forcing men to like women for sex under the pretense of sexism. Guys have to be free to choose whose cock they want to suck and who they want to fuck with. It is not stupid not to want to have sex with older than 45 but it is stupid to say that "age is just a number" because everyone knows it's not just number.

[Guest Upstateguy518]

All depends for me. Some guys age well while others just...don’t. There’s definitely a growing market for guys into the 45+ though, Especially for guys in their 30’s it seems. I guess the Daddy kink is alive and well haha

[PervBBbttm]

Then like me

[einathens]

I think that 'no one over 45' = won't admit to daddy issues. 

And in my opinion, 'under 25 only' = can't handle what a real man has to offer. 

No fatties/femmes/flamers = doesn't own a mirror.

 

[PervBBbttm]

I owm you

[badjamie]

45 seems like such and arbitrary number. Is it because it's half-way between 40 and 50? I do understand that people have preferences. However, I think age is just a number. You are only as old as you feel.