What the Sling is For

[ErosWired]

Elsewhere in this forum I have commented on the fact that I have zero luck getting fucked in slings. I don’t know why. It’s not, however, that I don’t get noticed - in fact, it usually doesn’t take long before I feel the hands of some man or other... on my cock.

Yesterday, same thing. I get situated in the sling, pull my blindfold down, and within two minutes I hear footsteps enter the room, cross to my side, and a hand starts playing with my cock. This time I just reached down, took hold of the hand and moved it away from my body and shook my head.

Another two minutes - and a different guy comes up to my side and starts diddling with my cock (which, I failed to mention, is in a solid steel cock cage to start with). This guy also wanted to tweak my nipples. I firmly seized hiz wrist and moved his hand away from my cock. A minute later I heard him muttering to another guy in the doorway, “...something’s wrong...”

Dammit, man! What’s wrong is that you don’t appear to have a grasp of what a sling is for! So, for the less sophisticated among us, just a few key points:

1. The sling is a piece of mobile furniture designed specifically for fucking. Although it can be used in conjunction with bondage in a BDSM setting, it is not primarily a bondage device.

2. If you do not intend to fuck the occupant of the sling, do not approach, and do not loiter in close proximity, especially to the lower end, because you may become that most despised of creatures, the Cock-Blocker.

3. One generally approaches the sling occupant from the position of vulnerability, i.e., between the raised legs, for access to his hole. Only approach from the side to offer your cock for fellatio, and only if the head is easily accessible.

4. Re-read points 1-3. Lather, rinse, repeat.

Lastly, 5,  If you are anything but a total bottom and you spy a man lying unattended in a sling who is not a) asleep or b) repulsive, give strong consideration to walking over and fucking him. It’s ass going to waste if you don’t, and you’ll be setting a good example if you do.

[damsonffpig]

4 minutes ago, ErosWired said:

Elsewhere in this forum I have commented on the fact that I have zero luck getting fucked in slings. I don’t know why. It’s not, however, that I don’t get noticed - in fact, it usually doesn’t take long before I feel the hands of some man or other... on my cock.

Yesterday, same thing. I get situated in the sling, pull my blindfold down, and within two minutes I hear footsteps enter the room, cross to my side, and a hand starts playing with my cock. This time I just reached down, took hold of the hand and moved it away from my body and shook my head.

Another two minutes - and a different guy comes up to my side and starts diddling with my cock (which, I failed to mention, is in a solid steel cock cage to start with). This guy also wanted to tweak my nipples. I firmly seized hiz wrist and moved his hand away from my cock. A minute later I heard him muttering to another guy in the doorway, “...something’s wrong...”

Dammit, man! What’s wrong is that you don’t appear to have a grasp of what a sling is for! So, for the less sophisticated among us, just a few key points:

1. The sling is a piece of mobile furniture designed specifically for fucking. Although it can be used in conjunction with bondage in a BDSM setting, it is not primarily a bondage device.

2. If you do not intend to fuck the occupant of the sling, do not approach, and do not loiter in close proximity, especially to the lower end, because you may become that most despised of creatures, the Cock-Blocker.

3. One generally approaches the sling occupant from the position of vulnerability, i.e., between the raised legs, for access to his hole. Only approach from the side to offer your cock for fellatio, and only if the head is easily accessible.

4. Re-read points 1-3. Lather, rinse, repeat.

Lastly, 5,  If you are anything but a total bottom and you spy a man lying unattended in a sling who is not a) asleep or b) repulsive, give strong consideration to walking over and fucking him. It’s ass going to waste if you don’t, and you’ll be setting a good example if you do.

More to the point, avid being a sling blocker, think of others who might want to use the sling and have already made a connection with a guy who wants to fuck and or fist then in the sling, only to find some desperate bottom has blocked it for the night in the vain hope his hole will get used

Slings are perfect for fuckin and ffisting and hole work, but connect with your top first don't just lay there hoping, its so annoying.

[ErosWired]

7 hours ago, damsonffpig said:

Slings are perfect for fuckin and ffisting and hole work, but connect with your top first don't just lay there hoping, its so annoying.

Indeed! I take my cell phone with me, with a timer set for 15 minutes. I figure if I’m not being anally assaulted within 15 minutes of lying there with my ass open and vulnerable, I might as well give someone else a shot.

[Leather69]

Seems to be  US centric thing.. U need to travel a it / London/Berlin/Amsterdam etc there are venues there where a butt in a sling is fair game for fucking..

[dickluva]

🧡Great topic, and posts. My best time in the sling has been when a top asked me if he could fuck me in the sling. I love an audience. xox

[Guest BreedMeInVegas]

Sounds like it's a sling in an open setting where others can also watch/participate.  Perhaps it's a bit of nervousness on the part of the potential tops?  They are nervous to be there in the first place, then there is the added pressure of topping someone where others can watch, and since it's in a sling where the bottom is blindfolded the pressure to fuck like a pornstar is too much for most guys?  Plus, by slapping the guys hand away and giving off the feeling that you're there to only get fucked, I'm sure that adds even more pressure.

None of that is bad per say, but it's narrowing the amount of guys that can overcome all of those obstacles so they can get hard and fuck.  When the guy touched your cock, maybe he likes holding the bottoms cock while he fucks him, and by telling him no, well he's no longer an option.

When you predefined what you want you want to happen when you're in the sling, you are limiting the guys that will be into that.  So just like you're expecting the tops to conform to your rules, don't be too critical of those who have a different set of rules.  

[FelchingPisser]

So if this is the sling where I fucked you, this almost always happens as there are so few confident, show-off tops, ever, in that building.  I was going there a lot during November and December when I was working in Indiana,  All of once did I ever see another top take advantage of a man in the sling--and it was during the Black Out event so no one could see him.  I joined him and we shared the bottom...but we had three or four other bottoms come in and stroke the guy's cock or chest.  Any other time, I have felt like I am the only man to use the men waiting in the sling.

[Samanthads]

ive had similar experiences on a fuck bench ass up and all the tops seam to want me to do is suck them off  

[Guest takingdeepanal]

2 hours ago, dickluva said:

🧡Great topic, and posts. My best time in the sling has been when a top asked me if he could fuck me in the sling. I love an audience. xox

So do I. Gets me hornier and more desperate for cock.

[leatherpunk16]

Barely related story:

The first time I saw a sling was at the Chicago Steamworks either in 2012 or 13. I didn't know what this was for, and I walked around it several times trying to determine its function and purpose. Eventually someone saw me doing laps and told me "Just get in already!" So I sat on it and damn near fell out. I had slipped on old lube as I was sitting and grabbed the chain as I fell. The guy came over and said "Here, let me show you." He could see I didn't know where the hell I was, so he kindly demonstrated how to get in, and put the feet up, and that was it. He asked me if I would fuck him. I tried, but I'm so damn tall that squatting that far down made it murder my knees. He asked me if he could have it for a while. I left him to his prize.

In hindsight, I think my weirdness annoyed him and he just wanted the sling but used the opportunity to educate. 

Cut to me a few years later, and I'm reassembling my late husband's sling in the basement. No idea how it goes together. 

I'll stop posting now, LOL 

[Ozpig]

I love being fucked in a sling but have encountered many of the problems you have with your post. I have always found slings work best when I am put in the sling accompanied by a top who immediately starts to fuck me. My ex always did that - put me in, start to fuck me and others gathered he would pull when an immediate replacement was available. Once fucking starts the inhibitions and "who makes the first move" seems to dissipate quicker

[steve-tmq]

Unhappily I have never had any access to a sling.

[ErosWired]

6 hours ago, BreedMeInVegas said:

When the guy touched your cock, maybe he likes holding the bottoms cock while he fucks him, and by telling him no, well he's no longer an option.

When you predefined what you want you want to happen when you're in the sling, you are limiting the guys that will be into that.  So just like you're expecting the tops to conform to your rules, don't be too critical of those who have a different set of rules.  

The men who come up alongside me to fiddle with my cock have all been seniors who exhibit no intention of fucking. Even blindfolded I can usually identify the type of man who does this by the furtive nature of his touch - these are not men who enjoy taking a solid grip on a bottom’s cock for better thrusting leverage.

 I don’t think I’m predefining what I want to happen in a sling - I’m just pointing out - as per the title of this topic - what slings, as sexual furnishings, are designed for, and suggesting that some men clearly have a poor understanding of this function. I’m not talking about a personal set of “rules” - I’m talking about the commonly understood protocols around sling play for those who know what they’re doing. I don’t think it’s prohibitively or even unreasonably predefining to expect other players to know how the game is played.

 If I were in a sling and a man came in and, seeing me naked and highly vulnerable with my feet up in the chains, decided he couldn’t resist indulging his foot-tickling fetish on my non-ticklish soles, would you say my expectations were too narrow if I asked him to leave?

Or if a guy found me blindfolded in a sling and thought it would be a great chance to try out his brand-new leather flogger he just got off Amazon because he heard about Shades of Grey and was turned on but had never tried anything ‘kinky’? (Something of this nature happened, and though not specifically in a sling it could easily have been)

What about the old guy who positioned himself between my legs, explained that he was a bottom himself, and asked me - repeatedly - to try to push  out solid waste (I’m trying to be discreet here; this, I’m sorry to report, did actually happen to me in a sling) because he was into that. I had, as always, fully cleaned out, so had nothing in me, but do you think I’m excessively predefining the experience if I say Hell No to something like that?

The thing all these scenarios have in common is that I’m simply lying in a piece of specially designed fucking furniture, in a position particularly ideal for fucking, making myself available for the use of Tops who may wish to enjoy fucking that way, and a man approaches who isn’t planning on fucking me. Yet you’re implying that if I don’t submit to every random pawing, tugging, and savage nipple-biting he wants to apply to me, it will be my own fault if no one actually fucks me because I’ve predefined my expectations too narrowly and scared off all the timid, uncertain and inexperienced Tops.

Well - I can live with that. My role is to surrender my body to the service of Men who Top, who know what they want, and are confident enough to reach out and take it. I don’t provide service to other bottoms, and if a Top is too inhibited to fuck a piece of good ass right in front of him in a setting specifically set up for fucking, then he probably needs to level up a bit before he comes back to the sling room.

[bbzh]

So many interesting points of view about sling expectations. I don't see the sling as the place to hang out and hope, but that's just me. Pretty much every time I've been fucked in one, the top led me to it or vice versa. And while I totally get wanting to advertise that you're a bottom ready to take cock, I think one has to be very strategic about this. Stay in the sling too long and it seems (at least to me), the chances of getting fucked fall sharply - and that might affect your chances with other guys throughout the entire venue, not just the sling. Suddenly you're that guy that was in the sling that absolutely nobody wanted to fuck. My sometimes very delicate ego won't allow me to place myself in such a vulnerable position, essentially begging for cock, only for men to reject me. That's soul crushing to me. This is why I'm actually kind of intrigued by sling lizards. It's like they're very confident but also defiant. Or maybe it's simply them deciding "well if I'm not getting fucked in the sling, then nobody else is either".  

[Fuzzypup]

Absolutely! I went to cum union with my cock locked up tight looking to get loaded, and I left empty! It was all bottoms, and no one wanted to fuck anything!