Convincing my bf to have a 3way

[CuckSlut]

Me and my bf have been together for about 2 years now. Lately I’ve discovered my intense desire to see my bf with other men, and have him be shared with other amazing tops and their loads. It’s become a very big dream of mine to see him have fun with other men, but even after discussing it he seems hesitant to become intimate with other guys. 

 

I understand his boundaries and we’ve talked about starting with three ways to get into future kinks, but he’s still very nervous and hesitant to get into them. I don’t want to push him into anything, but I also have a desire to be satisfied with my desires. I also hope that I can help awaken his inner slut. If anyone has any advice or ideas to push him further please speak up. I’d appreciate the help or the advice. 
 

Take a look at his ass. He definitely needs to share with other men:

[melvin0095]

Hot ass. 

Good luck getting him fucked.

[cman54]

Yes very nice ass for sure. A lot of men would love to get it that ass. I`d say just keep talking about it and watch porn with him where there are three ways. Are you hoping he is Bare backed by other guys?

[justsexnowatl]

I agree - that ass needs to be shared.  Tough to say how to encourage him without more background. Like how old/experienced he is (compared to you).  Was he a slut before getting together with you?  I would ONLY consider an open kind of relationship if/when I date again, but I have friends who have been burned from 3 ways and bringing a 3rd into the relationship, and they ended up dumped for the other guy.  Is he maybe sensing you're bored with just him?  Even though you want another top to fuck him, what does that lead to next?  Just trying to guess what's in his mind.He's got a great ass and hungry looking hole and you seem like a great BF wanting to help him get fucked more :)  Wish I were there to help convince him myself :)

[CuckSlut]

Definitely the dream is to have him barebacked. Having him filled with seed would from other men would make me very happy, and we both agree that barebacking is better anyway. But if having safe sex helps him get comfortable enough to have sex with others, I wouldn’t mind. I feel like he would eventually convert to bareback anyway, it feels way too good. (And even if he didn’t switch, it’s only a matter of time until he gets stealthed by a top and filled with cum, and then I would just do my best to point out how much better it is and how it’s already happened once so we might as well make the jump)

 

I can definitely tell you about his background. I’m 23 and have sex moderately throughout college, and he’s 19 and only ever had sex with me. So he’s definitely had less experience then me. (It doesn’t show though, he can take some rough fucking.) He also wasn’t much of a slut before dating me, but he also never tried it out. I definitely doubt that he thinks I’m getting tired of him because I express how my fantasies always include him and someone else that isn’t me, But their always focused on him. I guess having him getting fucked would just lead to him being more promiscuous. I’ve talked about him getting on grindr and enjoying other men as much as he wants. I want him to sleep with guys while I watch, while I’m at work, he could even spend the night at their place, it all turns me on. I just want him to explore being a slut and having fun. It turns me on just as much as he would love getting all kinds of cock and loads if he gave it a try. 
 

I definitely know it can be risky to be so open, but I do trust him a lot. And I’m also willing to risk a lot to open his inner slut. I want to give him that chance, but it also makes me very horny and satisfied to think of him being such a whore. I almost feel like it’s my duty to open his mind, but I also have a duty to the other men out there who should get a chance to try out his ass.

 

He’s a very sexy twink btw. 5’10, 125lbs, very toned. And if you’re ever near Columbus OH send me a message haha

[justsexnowatl]

Oh hell yes!  You guys both need more sex with lots of guys.....My first LTR we were together for 8 years.  We met when we were 23 and 21, and I was only the 3rd guy he ever had sex with.  We were having 3ways after 1 month of being together, but it was pretty consensual - both of us wanted more guys, and we were pretty open for the whole 8 years we were together.  I LOVED watching him get fucked by other guys too....it always made me cum.  If you guys are secure it the relationship it will be hot to nurture his inner slut, if he is one :)  Good luck.  I think you'll have many guys willing to help him on his journey :)

[atlfukbud]

 At that age, you can still be pretty romantic about one man meeting all of your sexual, intimacy needs -- it will change in time and he will be open to more adventures!! Porn will probably help! Put on some threesome and group bareback porn when you have sex. Also, help him understand the difference between sport sex and intimacy -- no worries, though -- IT WILL HAPPEN!!

[Dinoo]

I liked reading this, best of luck to both of you! I have to say anecdotally it’s far less common to find situations like yours - most guys (myself included) would love to be whored out by their partners and I always feel selfish even considering bringing up the subject - so if it’s something he’s open to I’d say half the job is done and I hope he realizes how fortunate he is... I know I would love to make my daddy proud that way 😅🥰

[Guest]

In a normal world I'd recommend suggesting it while on vacation somewhere, as you're away from your real life and he can feel like it's a one-off or part of getting away from reality, so he might be more likely to try. Also it feels less pressure then as he'll never see those guys again (unlike local). But hopefully he'll love it and it'd lead to more stuff once you got home. Unfortunately vacation is not an option at the moment with covid though.

[Guest CuriousDallas]

Your BF is hot and I’d love to drill his ass! I’m guessing that’s you’ve probably been very sexually active for a while and been with quite a few guys. Heck, you probably Still fuck around even though you have a BF I’m willing to bet, or at least are thinking about it. Here’s the thing though, he’s currently wired differently now and that’s gonna take time to change. He’s bonded to you as you’re his first and that means a lot to you. He doesn’t know anyone else sexually and that’s a huge barrier to opening things up with other guys. He’s probably feeling awkward about being sexually inexperienced. He’s worried about not finding a sexual spark with that other guy. He has a lot of fears and worries. And the only way to get over that is a willingness to try and he doesn’t have that. The only thing that’ll change that is time and desire. He may eventually find someone who sparks that desire to try it and he’s got to put effort into that. You can put all the effort in you want but it’s not gonna change him. 
 

I would try watching porn and seeing what types of guys he likes watching but back off he pressure and asking questions. It’s tough now as you can’t really go out to clubs and hang with other potential fuck buds. If you can’t get him to be a slut why not explore your own slut nature? Pick up some guys off Grindr and play with them, see if you can do some three ways or more with them. Try working out their kinks and sluttyness. I love nothing more than finding a fuck bud and exploring his kinks and doing things he’s wanted to do.

[Guest PhillyBBGuy]

Your BF ass definitely needs sharing - needs a nice big viral poz load in it.

[SFCumdog]

I'm honestly always annoyed by the naysayers on here who regularly come in to burst the balloons/fantasies of others, and I swore I'd never be one of them. But this situation hits kinda close to home and so I want to just provide you another perspective this one time. Trust me I'm as into all of this as the rest of you, but as someone who was once in your bf's position in this very same situation (same ages, same experience levels, etc..), please proceed with care, because in the end he is the only one who really stands to get hurt in this situation. If you want to get him into the idea of opening up and letting the real him out, why aren't you starting with any of those other "future kinks" that you mention... ones that the two of you can do together, as a way to prime the pump and then lead to threesomes when he's ready for it? Why is involving a third the first one you are aiming for, unless the reality is that its the one that you actually want yourself, and this is more about you than it really is about him? My bf pushed me into the same situation and I was extremely hesitant too, but I just blindly went along with it because he was older and had been around a lot more than I had. I trusted him that he had my back and knew what was best for us. Sadly It took me years to finally come to realize that he hadn't altruistically done it for me, he was doing it for him. That's not to say I never would have come to having threesomes in my time, but it would have been nice to have gotten there when I was ready to get there, not when he wanted me to get there. Just put his feelings first, and if it still seems good, then go for it. But if it doesn't....

[barefootboy]

Well said. If your bf is hesitant, why push him into it?

[CuckSlut]

Thanks for all the perspectives! And I definitely understand where everyone is coming from. It’s definitely an exaggerated fantasy on here for obvious reasons, but I can be pushy in reality as well so it’s something to think twice about. I definitely love all the suggestions though, and I can see where I should maybe edit my behavior at times. 
 

I will say though hat he has agreed to download tinder and maybe explore the option of a threeway. We’re looking and messaging guys, but I’m not sure how far he will go. From what the others have said I may even try to pull the plug cause I’m not sure he’s 100% doing this for him, but we’ll have a chat and see. If things go further I will definitely talk about it here, but feel free to provide any other advice!

[theplayerking]

Society assume gay men love casual hookups, but in my experience, many (most?) are serial monogamists at best. I really wish my BF were into three ways and random hookups with strangers, but he’s just not. I have to content myself with reading about other guy’s adventures.