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Do you find out the names of guys you hook up with


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Do you remember guys’ names  

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  1. 1. Do you ask the name of casual hookups?

    • Never
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    • Always
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    • Sometimes, e.g. if We talked or if we might hookup again
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  2. 2. For casual hookups that turn into repeat hookups or fuck buddies, when do you typically learn their name?

    • On the first fuck, it’s only polite
      16
    • On the second fuck, it’d be awkward otherwise
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    • On the third or subsequent fuck, when I know it’s worth the effort
      10
    • I sometimes ask, but I usually don’t remember by the time the cum has dried
      29
    • Never, I like to remain anonymous and assume anyone fucking me would want to also
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4 hours ago, valldelxeno said:

I always get his name before meeting up, even if I don't know anything else about him. Even when it's really casual, just sex and nothing else, I still like to remember that I'm being fucked by a man, not just a flesh dildo.   ...

I am sometimes asked my name and always happy to give one. I agree that it can come across as a sign of respect, that I’m a man not just a hole. Personally I don’t tend to initiate asking for names in advance, as I know some guys crave the anonymity, though I will often ask in the post-coital chat.

I certainly try to treat the guys that I fuck with respect and friendliness but in my experience that hasn’t required names. While I’m out and comfortable in my sexuality I seem occasionally to strike some fairly nervous closeted guys. I can imagine them blurting out their real name without realising all that is required is just any name, real or invented.

4 hours ago, valldelxeno said:

... If someone refused to tell me his name I would find it a bit weird (I mean, he could just invent one) but I would still hook up with him. But it hasn't happened yet.

I suppose I wouldn’t want to give some of the nervous types a reason to suddenly back out of a hookup. There are many flakes on the apps!

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1 hour ago, BB4fking said:

I am sometimes asked my name and always happy to give one. I agree that it can come across as a sign of respect, that I’m a man not just a hole. Personally I don’t tend to initiate asking for names in advance, as I know some guys crave the anonymity, though I will often ask in the post-coital chat.

I certainly try to treat the guys that I fuck with respect and friendliness but in my experience that hasn’t required names. While I’m out and comfortable in my sexuality I seem occasionally to strike some fairly nervous closeted guys. I can imagine them blurting out their real name without realising all that is required is just any name, real or invented.

I suppose I wouldn’t want to give some of the nervous types a reason to suddenly back out of a hookup. There are many flakes on the apps!

Ah, personally I couldn't get with closeted guys. I'm the (maybe annoying) type that would say hi to a hookup if I bumped into him in the street lol 

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On 5/27/2021 at 10:55 PM, DarkroomTaker said:

No, but I have a thing for guys called Steve, cannot explain it, but it gets me horny.

Once I fucked three guys called Alex in the same day. I was just like...this isn't even serious everyone has the same name 

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Completely depends on the situation and the other guy. If I get the feeling that another sex date might come up or the the guy makes a good general impression I will usually introduce myself and ask for his name in return. For just a fuck dump and leave I don't need any name 

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I don’t ask, and I don’t offer, but if a Top asks my name I give it. They almost never do, and why would they need to when I answer readily to ‘cunt’, ‘bitch’, ‘slut’, ‘whore’, ‘faggot’, or just about anything else they call me? Oddly, though, if I’m asked my name I never give a fake one - it never occurs to me to  use an alias. That occasionally inserts an extra level of weirdness when a complete stranger starts using my name while he’s fucking me - he’s probably told me his, too, but I probably forgot it two seconds after he said it.

Really, though, for me, by the time a man has seen my naked body, has been inches deep inside my flesh, and deposited his personal reproductive fluids inside me, I don’t see the point in being coy about my name. It does hit me funny, sometimes, when after a long, athletic, nasty fuck with a dude I’ve never met, while we’re catching our breath afterwards he says, “Oh, hi, by the way, my name’s ____”.

 I love fucks as introductions. 🙂

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I never ask, but almost always end up find out somehow - certainly if it's more than a one-off.  It's usually for practical reasons - eg  hotel receptions usually expect you to know the name of the "friend" whose room it is you are visiting. 

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never. nor do the men who dump their loads in me ask my name. I don't care and they don't give a fuck. I don't even see the faces of most of the guys who fuck me and even when I get bred without being blindfolded its often in the dark or from behind or in a bathhouse sling with the only small red light directly behind the men fucking me so I can't see their faces anyhow even though they can see mine. guys who fuck whores like me don't care what my name is or even think of me as a person. to them I'm just some trashy fuckslut and thats good enough for me. I just want loads dumped in me.

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It depends on the situation really. On apps I never offer my name. Sometimes the other guy will give his name and I’ll give him my nickname but not my real name (which I rarely use anyhow). It sounds bad but I usually forget the guy’s name if he gives it to me (I’m bad at remembering names). If it’s a hookup like at the gym, Target, or a park I never ask the guy his name unless I really enjoyed it and wanna hook up again. In those situations guys typically don’t want to give their name or swap numbers and I get that. I don’t give my name out in those situations unless we’re talking after, but usually guys dress and go. I’ve been swapping loads with a few guys regularly and we really don’t use each other’s names and if I don’t have them saved to my phone I probably forgot them. Even some of my regular hookups I know very little about them or their lives which is fine with me…I’m just looking for sex.

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