Disappointing cumdumps

[NJRawDaddy]

Question.  What have you seen or experiened that made for a disappointing cumdump event?

Examples:

• Bottom that lay there passively, barely interacting
• Bottom that used his cell phone to find more tops instead of paying attention to the top fucking him
• Bottoms that tap out early or experience issues with anal hygiene
• Other tops that don't respect your personal space
• Men present that aren't generating energy for the room (ex; clothed guys sitting disinterestedly and/or only watching with no intent of participating)
• Men present engaging in behavior inappropriate for the event (cross-dressing, trying to convince other tops to bottom)
• An active camera that wasn't dislosed in pre-event publicity.

What other issues have you seen?

[NoHoleRefusedTop]

I think the most annoying ones are the ones that rush you and start asking if you’re close after like 2 minutes. 

I understand they want to maximize loads and not get their holes worn out, but 2 minutes is way too quick. That’s the easiest way to make me lose interest, fake cum and go 

[Bokkierob]

I was fucking this boy in his hotel room. He already had loads in his ass and was pretty wet so I was enjoying fucking him up until the moment he said “cum in my pussy babe” I told him I’m not “Babe” I’m “sir or daddy” and it’s a big turn off when men/boys use feminine terms for their asshole. I understand some men like that but I don’t. He said it again but I was close enough that I pumped my load in his ass, pulled out and fucked off.

[blackrobe]

20 minutes ago, Bokkierob said:

I was fucking this boy in his hotel room. He already had loads in his ass and was pretty wet so I was enjoying fucking him up until the moment he said “cum in my pussy babe” I told him I’m not “Babe” I’m “sir or daddy” and it’s a big turn off when men/boys use feminine terms for their asshole. I understand some men like that but I don’t. He said it again but I was close enough that I pumped my load in his ass, pulled out and fucked off.

He lost focus on your preferences and needs. The breeder sets the language and tone.

[hntnhole]

1 hour ago, blackrobe said:

He lost focus

at the very least ...  frankly, Bokkierob must be a more gracious man than many.

[leatherpunk16]

I once attended a cumdump for a friend who lived across the street. It was Christmas Day, and he didn't celebrate the holiday, so he hosted a cumdump. I gave him his first load, and made sure he was set up for the event.

But I can't imagine it went well for him. His hole was COLD. Like he shoved ice up there before playtime. I dumped my spunk, and made sure the others who arrived got started on him before going back to check on my turkey. He got a decent number of guys, then spent the day at the bathhouse. Can collect loads, for sure, but his hole is not a positive memory. He just kinda knelt there and took it.

[Eastvillagefun]

21 hours ago, blackrobe said:

He lost focus on your preferences and needs. The breeder sets the language and tone.

If the top have specific wants/turnoffs they should let the cumdump know ahead of time. Or at least as soon as it becomes an issue.

As a cumdump, I always want to know what I can do to make it the best experience for every top. I get off on them getting off. That's why I'm interested in this thread. I airways want to improve as a full service bottom cumslut.

[subyort]

1 minute ago, Eastvillagefun said:

If the top have specific wants/turnoffs they should let the cumdump know ahead of time. Or at least as soon as it becomes an issue.

As a cumdump, I always want to know what I can do to make it the best experience for every top. I get off on them getting off. That's why I'm interested in this thread. I airways want to improve as a full service bottom cumslut.

Definitely valuable information in this thread.

[Hole4u]

I get it, we cum dumps can be disappointing. But many of us want a great experience for both of us. I’m literally offering up my body for this.  I work really hard on hygiene and i get complemented on that. But I still had the very occasional accident.  Some are self inflicted though. I had a top who twice decided to shove half a big bottle of lube in my ass and give me a lube enema. Since he was large, he then plunged me with his dick for 30 minutes and then dump his load inside me. Of course it’s going to be sloppy. I cleaned out to get laid, not a colon transplant.

At least for me, if my top is not going to communicate, it could be a bad lay for both of us. If i ask if your close it’s because i truly want to get you off and worked up for it. I’ll also say it is ok to cum inside me because I constantly get guys asking if they can cum inside me. I mean that is the whole point.  I’ll ask you for your favorite position because I want to know and  I will try to accommodate you better. But sometimes our bodies are mismatched and I can’t always do the position you like.  And while i don’t mind  rough, I am not looking for a perforation or a prolapse lol. And if you want to leave bite marks, or slap me, whip me, tear apart my clothes or flat out assault me, you better ask first because, at the least, you’re going to get tased. I’m a cum dump, not a crime victim of your twisted mind. 
 

I get sometimes during the deed silence is golden. But while setting things up get all the issues out of the way. A little communication during is a huge help. I have more than one regular where never talk at all anymore during the deed because we worked it all out ahead of time and it makes for a hot experience.

But don’t take this the wrong way,  I truly love being a bottom and a cum dump. It is my essence and reason for being  

 

 

 

[BBBxCumDumpster]

46 minutes ago, Hole4u said:

I get it, we cum dumps can be disappointing. But many of us want a great experience for both of us. I’m literally offering up my body for this.  I work really hard on hygiene and i get complemented on that. But I still had the very occasional accident.  Some are self inflicted though. I had a top who twice decided to shove half a big bottle of lube in my ass and give me a lube enema. Since he was large, he then plunged me with his dick for 30 minutes and then dump his load inside me. Of course it’s going to be sloppy. I cleaned out to get laid, not a colon transplant.

At least for me, if my top is not going to communicate, it could be a bad lay for both of us. If i ask if your close it’s because i truly want to get you off and worked up for it. I’ll also say it is ok to cum inside me because I constantly get guys asking if they can cum inside me. I mean that is the whole point.  I’ll ask you for your favorite position because I want to know and  I will try to accommodate you better. But sometimes our bodies are mismatched and I can’t always do the position you like.  And while i don’t mind  rough, I am not looking for a perforation or a prolapse lol. And if you want to leave bite marks, or slap me, whip me, tear apart my clothes or flat out assault me, you better ask first because, at the least, you’re going to get tased. I’m a cum dump, not a crime victim of your twisted mind. 
 

I get sometimes during the deed silence is golden. But while setting things up get all the issues out of the way. A little communication during is a huge help. I have more than one regular where never talk at all anymore during the deed because we worked it all out ahead of time and it makes for a hot experience.

But don’t take this the wrong way,  I truly love being a bottom and a cum dump. It is my essence and reason for being  

 

 

 

I think some of us still have this idea that sex should be spontaneous, which for many means undiscussed. Our likes and dislikes should be easily discernible from our gear, our positions, our facial expressions and our grunts.  Sometimes that actually works our. Our close attention and intuition can tell and decide a lot, but that's about as reliable as the rhythm method.  Discussing like and dislikes, boundaries is widespread but not yet universal, especially among older guys like myself.  Young guys tell you everything you need to know and a lot they didn't intend for you to know.  It's all there along with a truck load of neuroses in their app ads.i think TLDR was actually created by us mature guys.  I'm grateful for it.