thomas12

It's hell either way. There are con's to cities, but you do have more of an opportunity there to rediscover yourself. If it is that important to you, perhaps its time you moved. Sure, there are a lot of reasons that make that difficult, but it's done all the time. Pick a city that satisfies you and go for it. After living in one of the largest cities in the US to a mid-level city, I can safely say I belong in the big city. And yeah, one of which is sexual freedom.

NiceHard1 - I don't envy gay porn stars, but bareback gay porn stars, I do. And that's awesome you genuinely enjoy doing it, cause I always worried that bb porn stars were all just talked in to it. It should be people who like it. As for this guy, at least you guys were professional about it, way more courteous than he should've gotten especially if he was actually performing bad. He wasn't one of those awful grunters was he? The ones who lay there like a slab of meat and think it's all about moaning loudly as they keep glancing at the camera to see if the shoot is over? There's one guy on those gay bareback porn pay-sites that is listed here who does just that. That's pretty bad, man. I get hard just thinking about bareback and you get to do it all day. So this guy must be epically bad. I'll have to look you up now! Thanks for the story.

HotSeed - good way of looking at it, "branded." dtguy - thanks for that. I kept hearing gay people talk about Treasure Island and I was impressed, thinking it was cool there was a resurgence in Robert Louis Stevenson's book. But then they started talking about head shaving and gang-bangs... definitely not the book I remember reading. Damn. He is hot though. I'd wrestle him over who gets to top.

I actually started another thread (oops) asking this in terms of tops fucking infected yet undetected bottoms. But the thing that concerns me now is that I'm seeing a lot of are people posting their status as undetectable. It's great that there's a very low chance if undetectable. But remember that just because their BBRT profile says that, doesn't mean it's true. And when it comes to them saying it, I was once told by an older gay gentleman, "T.A.L. - They All Lie." I just hope they have a cure soon. They've dragged it out long enough. And wait, the story of the razorblade was true? I honestly thought he was just making fun of the stupidity some have when trying to rationalize why they may not get HIV. Wow. Well, that's still better than shit fetish in my opinion. (no disrespect meant).

Not to say that everything this guy said was true, because I'm not sure what he read, but on the contrary I did read a study that said HIV was on the rise as was unprotected sex. However, you are correct that a source should always be provided when given and especially when asked for. From what I recall, the people interviewed cited the failure to discuss sex education in schools as well as young people's perceptions that HIV isn't that big of a deal. Scientists were complaining that HIV is no longer news worthy anymore so they can't spread awareness, etc. And no, this wasn't in THE SUN. I'll try to dig around for it but I read it sometime this year. I want to say late spring/early summer. Now, even if I do find the report, it's always important to look at the damned margin of error. We don't have reporters anymore. We have 20-year-olds who are told to re-word press releases.

Dunno what a dick dock is, but sounds fun NiceHard1. Alas, it's true. It doesn't take much. I only recall one instance when a bottom wanted me to use a condom. Maybe that's why I am the way I am. Got too spoiled as a kid when I had the occasional male-to-male sex through now.

I dunno if this is in poor taste or if there's just no audience here for this here, as this site is filled with stories that make for a constant, throbbing erection, but we all know fucking ain't always a porn show. Today I was on here reading and somehow I just had/have an overwhelming desire to ask how many of you have had not-cool fuck stories? I don't mean to disrespect the group or derail it and if it's not wanted, then apologies. I just figured for all the hottest and dirtiest stories, some of you have to have some that are probably (now) hysterical, embarrassing or just wrong. Doesn't have to be funny even, it could be a dude you met online who looked like a model but when he knocks on your door you're greeted by an obese foreign guy from India (happened to me, I should've figured by the really bad typing, but I was too turned on by the pics to care). I dunno how inappropriate this will be seen (I know that seems a bit ironic), but this one happened to a friend and thought I'd share to start off. No, it wasn't me. I'd own up to it. This guy while in college was so jacked about a fuck he arranged to have one night because he decided he was going to live webcam it. It was also his first bareback fuck. Had it all set up to get a good shot of the dudes ass and his dick going in and out. He was so proud of himself it was borderline creepy. He was a bit antisocial too. He was an engineering student with the 1970s glasses, who was completely unattractive in his face and demeanor but had a big dick and so he was able to score ass from those who just like big dick. But he was a nice guy, so... He privately sent the link to some of us, which I pray to God the bottom had consented to this. But just a minute or two in, as the top is acting like he's a porn star cause he knows people are watching, you hear a weird rip sound. His dick then either pops out because of misdirection of his thrusting, or it was pushed out by the bottom... How could it have been pushed out by the bottom? Well, I kid you not, it was like someone popped the cork off this poor bottoms ass. Shit sprayed all over the top. I don't mean a little. I mean it was like an explosion.... Obviously I was like, "what the fuck? Did that really happen?" I watched the top just stay in position, his dick increasingly getting limp, looking at himself as the bottom crawls off to the right until he's off screen, repeatedly saying, "I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry..." I think the dude was in such shock he forgot he still has his camera on, til someone IM'ed him "DUDE HE JUST TOOK A SHIT ALL OVER YOU!" Then he quickly turned off the cam. Nowadays, this would have easily been able to be saved, YouTubed and put everywhere (and then awsuits) cause, you know, kids are stupid and cruel. But damn, it was like one of those live TV moments where you felt like you just saw something amazing. Amazingly terrible. The kid was so humiliated, cause obviously the other gays made sure to call him names like "limp shiznit" and "the human enema" so I tried to cheer him up by making fun a the bottom and confidence boosting him til he finally found the entire thing hysterical himself. But he was turned off from topping for the rest of the time I knew him, cause we lost touch like, a year later. I am so thankful that has never happened to me. Always had clean bottoms.

Total top here. Fucked poz bottoms before. Was just curious how often or what the likelihood of tops getting pozzed by a bottom are? I don't mean tops who sometimes bottom and get pozzed somehow and don't know. I'm looking for those who know they got pozzed while bottoming. I know it happens, but they make it seem like it's so unlikely. I've tried looking online but you know how that goes. All I got in the search engine were "barebacking is bad, mmkay" websites. Also, one told me he was undetectable. Says he took one or two pills a day and it was virtually impossible for me to get infected. I won't lie, I thought he was trying to give me the "if I pull out you won't get infected" card. I assume every raw fuck is poz. I am very skeptical of his claim that undetectable is virtually impossible to infect others, but heard some people on here say it's true. Thoughts on both are greatly appreciated.

I have to agree. I've received it as a top where they're like, "oh I don't do bareback." I'm not apologetic but not pushy, usually saying, "that's too bad, but I respect that. Have a good night." And before you know it, I'm raw fucking them. A4A is kinda like the Christian group of gay meetup sites... they act disgusted at the thought, put "safe sex only" on their profiles, some even put "absolutely no BB or PNP," etc, but then they reach out to me when it clearly says "anything goes," which means bareback. I've never had one of these bottoms on A4A insist on a condom when we meet. I don't push the issue on them and even suggest they think on it. I dunno, maybe that makes them want it more, even though I'm not scheming, just trying to be a nice guy. But that stops when they push my dick in. 98% of the guys I hook up with are self-proclaimed"safe only" guys. The dude who said condom only to you probably did it later. I'm not saying all should BB, but I'm saying there's a ton of hypocrisy. There are the bareback-only guys like most of us here, then there are those who wanna flirt with danger. Anyone else notice this with "in a committed relationship" profiles as well? They definitely hit me up for BB. Fuck that, I hate cheaters.

FYI, the reason I'm asking, just to be clear is because I think it's important for those of you with HIV to share the pro's and con's to those of us in this community, so we can prepare better if/when we do get it. You guys are the ones who know best. Hearing real testimony about the bad stuff doesn't mean everyone is gonna stop barebacking. How does it hinder you? What are the pro's? Also, how did it affect you emotionally? Feel more alone? Less? Again thank you to all who are willing to share. It means a lot.