youngtopsd1

If so, how did it go? Interesting to see if there were any doctors or medical students on this site to see what their perspectives are, given that it's a little ironic, but things have changed with the advent of PrEP.

Could I change my username to youngtopsd1? Thanks in advance.

I answered my own question because I hooked up with him again. Thanks.

So, a guy in his early 40s and I (I'm 21) had sex about 3 or 4 times over the past 7 months. I knew his name, so I finally searched for it online and realized that there was a strong possibility he was a convicted felon for a minor non-dangerous felony years ago. Thing is though, he seems to be cleaned up, doing fairly well, and is divorced and has a kids a few years younger than me whom he has joint custody of. He's always treated me nicely (we had good conversations), was friendly, and had picked me up each time we hooked up, and I didn't get any bad vibes from him. And he and I had great sex with me breeding him and he liked the taste of my cum as well. On top of that I was seriously considering letting him teach me how to bottom since he has a pretty large cock (though he prefers to bottom). Should I continue to have sex with him? He's always been respectful each time we hooked up.

So lately I've had a few guys online come forward and offer to pay me money if I bareback them. I always turn it down because I feel that to accept money for sex would lower my dignity and put me in a dependent position. But they're essentially paying me for giving them a load, lol. Is my attitude towards this the right one? I know that a lot of guys my age (21) would simply say yes because it's money that they could use on booze and other stuff, but I'm not greedy or that superficial.

I prefer fucking older guys in their 30s-40s because they're more mature in attitude in my opinion, can offer advice on sex if they choose to (I rarely ask for advice anyways), and are easier to deal with. I'm 21 years old and am never interested in another guy's pocket book because I feel that to accept money is damaging to my dignity, and I'm only in it for the fun. Can't deal with fucking younger guys around my age (much of the time) because they're too finicky and immature.

Look kid, I'm not going to go out and attack you but you need to learn how to respect the privacy of others. Did he give you permission to post these pics online? Because if I had someone posting pics of me without my permission, I'd be pretty upset. Just a few words of advice. Next time, ask.

Well, would love to hear about your experiences as a young top like me because almost everyone else I've seen on adam4adam (for "anything goes") or on BBRTS around my age in my area are all bottoms or versatile/bottoms. I think I'm the only sole young top here, except for a few others who don't message back. Also want to hear how you came to that when you were around 22. Got any testimonials? lol

Of course there is always a risk of infection and disease progression- I never discounted that. Obviously if this decision were as easy as thinking about drinking a glass of water, I would have made it a long time ago. But it was a question that came up time and again over the past 6-8 months, and I did put a lot of serious thought into it, and doing research online. So rest assured, I'm not like a lot of others my age, who would simply not think about anything and fuck without abandon. I don't hook up very often anyways given my hosting and transportation situation (I'm by no means ugly, have been told I'm handsome and I'm very happy with the size of my dick, so that's not a reason why I don't hook up often) and schoolwork. I agree though, everyone's situation is unique; therefore, everyone should think for themselves. I'll consider all of the (good) points you had brought up, as well as others' points.

Thanks for the advice- I have been doing a lot of research on the whole issue, so rest assured, I have been thinking about it for a while and am considering my decisions. I should like to emphasize that I have not "made the decision already", and am not seeking people's "permission" to do it. I'm well aware that I'm asking this on a bareback-related site, but it's because this site is far more likely to have people who would understand my situation, then on other sites that have closed-minded people whose automatic response is to either ostracize or attack the original poster for considering bareback. Which I have seen before. All of the responses I've heard so far today have been food for thought, and I thank you all for taking some time out of your day to write them. Would love to hear more people's input if they're willing to give it.

I did understand you and knew you understood. Germanfucker was asking what my questions exactly were, so I was clarifying for him.

I'm sorry, I probably should have been a little more specific. I'll clarify it for you: a) What are your thoughts and advice on fucking poz undetectable bottoms in addition to "neg" ones, given the situation I described? Just go for it? Was I introduced to bb too early? Hope that helps.

So here's a bit of a history before I move on to asking a few questions. I'm 21 years old, am attending college, and lucky me, I'm in a situation where I can't host and I don't have a car on campus because parking is too expensive. I'm also a total top who prefers older guys to fuck (odd, I know). And yes, I do consider myself bi right now (please don't bash me for this, it's genuinely how I feel right now). My first barebacking experience was when I was 18 (almost 19). Went to a hotel room where a guy was hosting a glory hole. I put my dick in, he sucked me off, then turned around (without me even realizing it) and then shoved his ass all the way down my dick raw. I was really surprised because this wasn't exactly consensual, but more surprised at how awesome it felt- really warm, and really moist. I pumped away until I came. Then got paranoid about HIV. So, I tried doing safe sex for a while (about a year and a half, I think), before I came back to doing bb. Because there really was nothing in comparison. Only did it with guys who claimed they were neg. Found Craigslist to be awful, moved onto establishing an adam4adam and Manhunt account. Finally started a bbrts account. So far, I've fucked probably 3 or 4 guys from there. Found more off of adam4adam, and some more off Craigslist (despite it being full of flakes). So all in all, I've probably had 40 hookups (with not as many guys) over the past 2 and a half years, many of them safe, some of them bb. So, what I've noticed is though, is that lately, I can't really bring myself to fuck safe. Probably the past 6 of 7 hookups I've had over the past year were bb. But it isn't often at all that I fuck, mainly because a) the limited number of bottoms who claim they're neg, and someone of them don't want to pick me up since I don't have a car and I can't host. And I'm horny much of the time, every day. Makes for a horrible sex situation! So I'm on the edge right now whether I should start fucking poz undetectable bottoms since the risk of getting HIV is very low for tops (yet there's a risk), or continue maintaining fucking guys who claim they're neg. I know it seems ridiculous to many of you that I'm concerned over HIV, yet bareback, but I understand that there's a calculated risk to everything. I know I am disease free, have been tested recently. But fucking poz undetectable bottoms would greatly expand my options, since there are some hot guys (I'm into guys older than me) in my area who would want to meet with me, and would likely pick me up. Also, another thought is that I've been introduced to bb too early (really, it wasn't exactly consensual at first but I loved the feeling and went through with it), since so many guys I've talked to before started it later. Lastly, are many older guys ok with a young guy who tops older guys? (I really have no desire to bottom). I like topping older guys, I find it hot. I know the expectation is that the young guy bottoms. What are your thoughts and (thoughtful) advice on this? I know this is obviously not the best place to ask, but I'd rather hear it from guys who bareback, then guys who either trash the person talking about bareback, or refuse to hear me out (if it were another site).