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2 minutes ago, austin_submale said:

People will post ads for other sites...  spamvertising.  Unfortunately I'm not sure how much just deleting the words helps, they just find a way around it.

I get that. But what is to gain by deleting the one word rather than this entire post? It only created more confusion. 

I don’t get it. Why not just delete the entire post rather than deleting the other website? You can certainly run your website the way you choose but doesn’t mean that it makes sense. 

I will keep saying this until I’m blue. I have random sex with anon men. I assume that anyone fucking has something. If I were concern I would not let strangers fuck me. 

Something similar. I use to cruise for female prostitutes, and me being married was usually the deciding factor for them letting me go in them raw. 
In their mind me being married meant I was clean. 
I stick to this point: assume anyone looking for raw sex has something. Doesn’t mean that they all have something but always make that assumption. 

On 11/12/2022 at 4:36 AM, frank86 said:

Had some good communication going with a dude I met online. He answered my ad in which I’m searching a long term fuck buddy if the first hookup works out.

He insisted on everything being bare, telling me he’s on prep.  I told him I’m ok with that, but for bare I would like some sort of evidence he really is on it. I told him I can provide recent test results of mine.

He then told me no and proceeded to block me. 
 

So did I dodge a bullet, or was I in the wrong for asking for too much?

 

There is nothing wrong with asking for proof. I saw some guys say he would think you are calling him a liar. Well guess what, most of us are liars. 
I have lied to many people about my status. The one advise I always give guys is don’t ask for status, just assume they have something. 
Rather than asking his status, protect yourself. Do not take anyone at their word. 

When I get a facial it’s usually in a public place. I just leave it there for guys to see. I have guys shoot cum all over my body. It’s all up to them. I prefer cum in my ass or mouth but their are guys in public places that don’t like the risk. 
I had a guy recently that wanted to smear my panties with his cum..so I let him. 

I am a bottom. I love getting fucked in open very public areas. I like everyone seeing me taking loads and waiting for next. Guys love a freshly loaded ass. 

I’ve been taking loads since the late 70s. I’ve taken thousands over the years. 
In my late 50s now so I don’t take as many as I did when I was younger but I still take about 10 loads a week. 

I’m in Queens. Dl bi. I’m a bottom. If you want someone to fuck on the weekends I can be that guy. 

49 minutes ago, BareLover666 said:

And your point is..?

No point. Don’t need one. 

35 minutes ago, BareLover666 said:

Now that is handy for both themselves and yourself as otherwise they would have incriminated themselves and yourself for not reporting them. (s)

 

Have you talked with guys who weren't into young boys as well, but who did have similar experiences?

Anecdotes about a couple of guys, like your are offering now, are hard / impossible to verify; 
They keep a myth alive that has hold me back from coming out about my personal experience for years.

I'd like to know what you want to say as to your conclusions or thoughts by repeating the stories you've been told.
Gossip is never helpful. 

Forgive me for bringing it up. It is hearsay but it is also true. I’m not saying that there is a connection, I’m saying that I have chatted about this subject with a handful of guys on another chat site. 

I have chatted with privately with a couple of guys on here and on another chat site where guys feel comfortable, and they mentioned that are into to young boys because of what happened to them. 
None mentioned that they did it but they all said they have desires to do it. 

I love trans. That’s what I go on any looking for first. If non available I’ll gladly settle for a masculine gay man. The lean toward trans is directly related to the increase in bi men (such as myself) on these sites. 

Not knocking anyone else, but I’ve never had a thought to do this. It does sound exciting but as much as I love cum I more love it directly from cock. 

46 minutes ago, topblkmale said:

Excluding monkey pox...

and assuming you're fully vax'd and double boosted for Covid, why were guys still hesitant about hooking up after receiving the Covid vaccine series?

 

Will the same hesitancy still exist after the monkey pox series of shots?

And will guys now only hook-up with other guys only if they have had their monkey pox vaccination?

I think we see wild action again soon. Especially here in NY the infection rate has been dropping and the vaccination rate has been going up. 
Nice to see you on BZ topblkmale. Welcome. 

I have hooked up a few times but I have stayed away from my usual group sex spots. I am fully vaccinated for Covid and had my first mp shot. 
I will resume anon group sex after my second mp dose. 

10 minutes ago, BlkBttm4fun said:

How did you set up all of these l? It’s hard enough getting a 1:1 many times, so more than 1 has always been a hassle for me.  I was shocked at how many times a top would specify what the other top would have to look like even if he didn’t want to fuck the top 

The 20 was a long time ago when I was still very young, but they were all in x rated theaters where we have anon group sex. My first with 20 guys fucking me I was 16 years old. The second time I was 18 or 19. 

I have had about 20 and two different occasions and groups of up to 10 on several occasions. All bareback btw. 

I have found over the years that I have about a 10% hook up rate. The other 90% are just there to for their thrill. On line hook ups are only a small percentage of my hook ups. 
I mostly go to the action instead hooking up line but there are times like now (with MP) that on line hook ups are the only options. 

6 minutes ago, hntnhole said:

I think that all of us who went through the initial onslaught lived, drew breath, and operated on that same assumption.  Initially, before even azt was available, guys who fucked raw were thought to be virtually killers on the hoof, and thus wound up being avoided / ostracized by the rest.  I think you're assumption was universal back then. 

It's only thanks to PReP, and the very good chances of avoiding hiv infection that some of these guys are even alive to fetishize hiv.  The existence of PReP has allowed this 'fetish' to flourish, and I say Thank Whatever for it.  We don't need to revisit the ubiquitous and unending "celebrations of life", we need to fuck each other.  And, stay alive and healthy to do it all over again.

I agree and stated as much. Before prep I made that assumption. After finding out I was poz I had 2 reactions. One was I’ll be dead soon, and the other was to have as much fun before I do. 
I never set out to infect anyone, but at that time (80s, 90s) everyone was aware of AIDS. So when I went to sleezy theaters, ABS, parks, sex parties and hooked up with anonymous men I knew that those that put their cock in me raw was either poz or did not care if he became poz. 
Today I do the same things but now I say he’s either on prep or poz like me. 

6 minutes ago, BareLover666 said:

Welcome to BZ.

I assume your unmedicated and have an undetectable viral-load. If not it's even more important be up-front with your sexual partners.

I'm sure don't mean anything by it, but none of us should really use the word 'gay disease' anymore. HIV is a virus that causes AIDS if left untreated and a cure is - up to this day - not possible.
HIV/AIds is also a pandemic predating the Covid-19 by decades. People in the African continent are suffering, and so are gay- and bisexual men in part because the risk for HIV through anal intercourse, is about 10 times as high as though vaginal intercourse.

So people now can personally feel lucky to be able to prevent an HIV-infection and calling it a luxury.
On a global scale PrEP and a real cure - for yourself included - is an absolute necessity. 

I do not use the word “gay disease” but I was referring to the fact that it was used in the early on set. 
 

I am undetectable but keep in mind that I mostly have anonymous sex in public places. Not much to reveal there. I have been fucked by guys that never saw my face and I never saw theirs. 
I make the assumption that he knows I’m poz, and that he is poz. 

On 8/18/2022 at 8:42 AM, justsexnowatl said:

This thread was started in 2014, and SO much has changed that the original question seems kinda silly.  2014 was the very beginning of Prep.  Personally I had been barebacking for 10 years already, and it was fairly common by 2014 , but still not "expected" like it is now.  I honestly can't think of the last time someone even mentioned condoms to me - it;s been years for sure.  Most younger guys have NEVER used one and don't know anything except raw sex (lucky fuckers).

When I started going raw with strangers around 2004 it was definitely very uncommon and a "niche/fetish" I guess at the time.  Manhunt was my usual hookup site - I didn't have the balls to uncheck the "safer sex" box and let people see I was a barebacker, but I ONLY searched for guys who had it unchecked, and "pig play" was a good search box too 🙂  By 2010 - 2012 I didn't let that "safer sex" box deter me.  More and more guys were going raw "discretely".  LOTS of porn was BB by then, but when there were still porn shops to get your porn there was a separate bareback aisle - I felt like a dirty slut even being in that aisle, but I loved cruising other guys also looking for BB porn, and did get some hookups there.  I told guys online (and myself) that I "usually" played safe, but would do BB with them if they were usually safe too lol.  Tons of other guys were doing the same thing - 50/50 chance if they'd go bare even though they said "safe" like me.  There was quite a bit of "pulling out to cum" back then, and if someone let me cum in them I definitely assumed they were poz. - when I started letting guys cum inside me I realized that wasn't necessarily true, but there was no way I could ask a guy to wear one after I started topping raw and remembered how infinitely better it felt 🙂

I don't have a lot of regrets, but I do wish I had let loose (more!) earlier.  Fort Troff wasn't originally a gear and toy brand, it was a sex club in Atlanta that was around for a few years.  I got the courage to go ONCE, and I was in heaven.  Check clothes at the door, slings everywhere, tubs for pissing, lots of guys in gear and no condoms anywhere that I saw.  I don't remember the exact year, but maybe around 2010 or earlier.  At one point I was fucking and fisting a hot short muscle bottom I knew personally and knew 100% was poz.  After I bred him and called it a night and got out in the light I realized I had cut my hand in the chain from the sling (I had felt it earlier but didn't stop).  When I got out I saw my bleeding hand that I'd had in this poz stud's ass and panicked a little.  It only lasted a short time - I never even considered condoms, but it did scare me off from going back to that sex club again - I knew I loved it and couldn't trust myself there.  I SERIOULSY do wish I had caved in and been a regular there.  I am totally into that sleazy group scene and definitely feel like I missed out on several good years of filthy pig sex when I was younger 

I always look at the original posting date on threads here or even when I look at porn on barebackbastarrds.  Guys made a bigger decision before 2014 about barebacking.  You were neg or poz - no prep - did you give in to hot dirty lust or protect yourself?  I was giving into lust, but not to the level I really wish I had.  I have tried to make up for lost time, but you can never get all those missed years of nasty raw sex back for a "do over" lol.  Pig out NOW men!!  I'm so horny after writing that I need to hit a sex club this weekend 🙂

Hi. New here and taking this all in. 
I did not have the luxury of prep. I go back to the early 80s so back then condom was not a thing for gay (or bi in my case) men. We just fucked. 
 

Then at some point we started hearing about this gay disease. I was lucky to survive the disease but could not escape it. 
 

But that freed me up to go bareback the rest of the way. As a full time bottom I always assumed that if a stranger was willing to fuck me raw he too was poz. Now with prep that’s not always the case. 
 

But I too realized guy checking safe sex only then hitting me up for bareback sex. I’m alway open about my status and condom use is NOT an option.