newbimale

Do you guys find it easier for your holes to swallow a cock with a head larger than the shaft diameter?

Besides making sure that you are cleaned out, the main thing is learning to relax the sphincter muscles. Tension translates as pain so it is critical that you learn to control these muscles. The process of douching relaxes both sphincters. Also takes away the the feeling of having to "keep it tight to keep it in". Knowing you are clean allows you to let go.

I agree with the previous comments about poppers and pot helping. Really once you learn to relax and get fucked you will never be the same. But you are right it is a learned experience. The body often experiences sensations that are intense as pain and getting fucked is very intense. You may not actually be feeling pain but may just be overwhelmed with the sensations combined with the tensions of not relaxing properly. I also found that sitting on the cock was the was the easiest for me in the beginning and is still the best way to take a really large cock. Missionary is probably the worst for the newbie as it makes you feel the most vulnerable.

Thanks for all the helpful advice! I'm just curious about your comment about missionary. Why do you feel that it's the most difficult? Is that it makes you feel most vulnerable – can you expand on that?

What kind of lube are you using? You really need something very slick until you learn how to relax.

For times when latex isn't involved I've used Wet Platinum. I'm still searching for a good waterbased lube. Any suggestions?

Another thing that was glossed over a bit in the responses- pain.

What's normal? The "burning" sensation I get sometimes is so abrupt and intense that I can't go forward with riding that beautiful cock that's been offered to me.

Thanks for all the helpful advice gents.

I currently have a few plugs and dildos. The largest plug I have is a glass plug the size of the doc Johnson "large" buttplug. I have no trouble slipping that in my hole and leaving it there for an hour or more- even have slept with it in a couple times.

I couldn't agree more that feeling slutty really helps me. There's nothing sexier for me than my body being used to bring pleasure to another man. I absolutely love to be fucked- I just need to learn how to stick with it and get past the pain so I can feel his cock shooting a load inside me.

I'm very much into being fucked but often have a hard time getting my hole to cooperate with my mind.  With any luck some of you more experienced bottoms will be able to help me take a man like a pro

Being new to this and having very few friends to discuss it with, I'm not sure what it's "normally" like to take a cock.  Should I always expect an incredibly acute burning sensation as the man presses into me?  I've had to stop guys sometimes due to the pain, and have only been able to take a couple loads (which I love to do)- other times I've had to stop my top prematurely.  

How can I train my ass or brain to better accept a man?