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On 5/18/2017 at 11:20 PM, kimhore said:

  If we could get everyone on this website in the same room, well first of all god and Heaven help the poor person hosting that party, it would just be crazy awesome.  Maybe we could just move to our own island!  Hell in our current political climate...we might have too!!

Sign me up for the party AND the island!  Agree, we may have too hide for cover before long.

8 hours ago, GoodExercise said:

Something as close in look and feel to the old chat would be good.  

Understand my hero GoodE's point.

5 hours ago, rawTOP said:

1. I have no recollection of what it looked liked
2. Why?

Ok you asked - so here go my thoughts. (I know the misery of designing a new system so you have my respect.)  Screens are just TOO BIG.   In the old group chat, all the posts were basically in one box.  I could read and follow the chatter, step away, come back and still see the convo.  Now, it's scrolling up and down to see who said what, and the format is difficult to review or make sense of, much less engage in the chatter.  IMHO, this format might be fine for 1:1, but it's really not conducive for a group chat like we had before where folks were making lewd and lascivious comments all over.  I'll keep trying it a bit, but it's challenging.  The few times I've been in did not make me want to come back.  How's that? ...   

AMEN!  AMEN!  AMEN!  Say it again and preach it to the heavens.  Net killed the fun.  I could add more rants and raves, but your post lays it all out pretty well.  

On 5/5/2017 at 6:24 AM, justsexnowatl said:

 There's a 50/50 chance I'm on the test drug, or the placebo which is Truvada.  

Wondering - So the situation is you are on EITHER the new drug or Truvada as placebo, but either way you are arguably on a Prep med right?  And your concern is the potential increased risk if, in fact, on the new drug because it is still in the process of being proven, right?  

Non-med brain here just trying to stay current.  

Anyone else going?   Sounds interesting.  Trying to get fb to go with me.  

22 minutes ago, Dickmagnet said:

Red ones are given to mares who want bareback cock, I went to 1 of these parties years ago & left after a few hours disappointed. I personally found it boring because i like some visual stimulation it does not have to be much but some. At these parties the minute the hood is on you don't see a thing & you can wait ages to get a cock inside you. Don't believe the video i think they made a video to fool guys in to thinking it's a horny event when in fact it's quite boring.

So basically like any backroom or dark room or even a ghole - (a) really hot if you are getting fucked over and over, and (b) pretty hot for a while listening to others getting fucked and feeling the energy and waiting to get fucked.  But if no (a), only (b) gets boring pretty soon.  I like the hood idea which is same as a dark room, but good points.    Thanks for the reality check.    

Just go to Parliament House and kill 2 birds.  Hotel room and prolly guaranteed dick.  Yeah, sleazy rooms but it Latin night which goes late.  Door open and you will get something.  

wow. I've gotten many gifts and tributes at the ABS through the years, but never got dinner brought to me.   At least he knew you were committed to your job.  (And it was guy #2 that bought dinner, right?)

I think a related issue is that EVERYONE is doing bb now because PREP is out there, at least in the US.  And HIV isn't the killer it was, thankfully.  Seems to be more bb fucking than past 30 years, and everyone it talking about it and DOING it.  Trust me - I've been here the whole time, and now travel a lot and hear what guys are talking and doing.  So now, taking loads on PREP is just like the bottom next door at the bathhouse - he's doing the same things.  

Yeah, its great that we have it, and its fucking awesome taking dick and loads.  But some of us live on the edge, all about being different, or something like that.  Our festish is doing what most guys won't do.  When you take PREP you are preventing the very thing that is so desirable in your head.  So if you have eroticized bb fucking to the point of thinking poz as a fetish, doing it on PREP is safe, and that's not what your brain wants.  

Find a good friend that you can talk to about all of it a good deal, and think long and hard about it.  Reality bites.

So, you are at CumUnion when that guy that persistent guy that you have turned down a few times before on previous visits approaches you yet again.  He has a hardon, and this time you decide that his erection makes him your type.  Right there for all to see, you turn around, rub your ass against his cock, and pull your cheeks apart.  He penetrates your pre-seeded hole, give you a nice fuck, and gets off in your AIDSHole.  That is when you realize, "yes, I am a cumdump" -- and the stirring in your own cock signals that you should have given in to that guy's advances (and your deepest urges) long ago.

Above sums it up very well.  Bottom line - you WILL know it when you get there.

I find that attitude really hard to get my head around. Why would he want to 'knock up' as many other bois as possible?

 

Having reached sexual maturity at the height of the AIDS epidemic, I find it impossible to understand why anyone would want to pass it on, or would want to get infected. Especially now that we have PrEP. I guess it's an age thing. Having never experienced the fear and the loss of close friends, he just doesn't see anything wrong with it.

Think you answered your own question.  These guys weren't around so they can't reference or understand that history.  It's become an entirely different scene than we ever knew, or expected to encounter again in our lifetimes.  Their fantasies and actions (and ours to some extent) are the product of the new facts not the old ones.

You nailed it- Addition.  I've seen it in Philly, DC, FTL - my usual haunts.  Amazes me they pay money to go into the bathhouse, then sit there on the phone.  

Of course mostly "they" are way too pretty and self-consumed to ever fuck with the likes of me, so I guess it's really not a loss ... lol.

. Then again, they will probably keep staring at their phones and will pass you without even seeing you....

That's basically a night at the bars and baths now, isn't it?  Amazing how many guys are there just on their phones looking for a connection rather than actually trying to make one.  Guess it's an age things .. remember when phones had telephone cords???

The former leather rack on Connecticut Ave just above Dupont, is apparently still the same basic store.

Now called Bite the Fruit.  1723 Connecticut Ave NW

They should have it all.  Been meaning to get there but haven't make it yet.  Let us know if you go.

As a bottom since I was 5 years old, I can say that finding a guy with a nice or decent size cock is quite difficult. When you were born with a dick that is small, of course you want to find a top or versatile with a dick that could actually fuck. I know there are a lot of tops with big dicks that are now deciding they prefer the bottom bunk and it is hard to find a top anymore. Especially from the younger generation. I know the feeling of someone who wants to be bottom and getting fucked but it is difficult for those of us who can not achieve an erection even with pills.

AMEN!  Breaks my heart to see a big dick bottom, but I feel their pain and desire.  

FWIW, I hear that Donald Trump may outlaw big dick bottoms!  One of the few things where I agree with him ...

Surprisingly one thing discovered in the American trials and use of truvada in HIV- men is something that I've been screaming blue murder about for years: I don't care what the doctors say, but the emtricitabine component is capable of causing CNS effects, specifically it can alter dreams. Many HIV- men have reported in increase in dreaming and in trippy dreams that sound like efavirenz dreams, which has resulted in some doctors actually believing HIV+ guys about their bizarre dreams.

 

I go through spells with the dreams - maybe for a week, then none for 2 weeks.  Been like that on/for now for almost a year since I started Prep.  I was always a dreamer somewhat, but now dreams are truly fantastic .. I can still describe some days or weeks later.  It's like a trip on LSD or something must have been.  Not terror filled, but long and detailed, and crazy.  Poz friends always say it's the truveda in the Prep.

Looking for Toronto hotel/motel/sleazebag suggestions.   Planning first trip. 

Let us know how it goes.  Like everywhere, GHole can be hit or miss.  I've had a few good hits there for sure, but more on the off days.  Not done CU there, but have done Code and few others.  The parties seems to be a bit over the top .. everyone looking for the next perfect dick, and no one actually taking a dick.  Maybe it's fun in the summer outside?  I do like the dark corners and random play.

No talk fuck pretty much describes 90% of my gay sex life as a bottom. Hook up sites have kind of modified that as there is written exchange before, but when a guy wants to talk on the phone ahead of time I don't want to get into that. The written word has never had that effect, kind of like an ad on a bathroom wall for me. I put out an explicit ad: "anonymous walk in breed and go. you find me face down and naked, door open. walk in, slide in, cum and go." 

 

Cruising is different and has a whole different means of communication, like others, I find no verbal communication is necessary... I just offer my ass. When I lived on the east coast there was a park with a 150' pedestrian bridge that I'd cruise at dusk. I'd stand in the middle and look out over the water, my back to the walk way. When I'd see a guy step on to one side of the bridge to cross, I'd lower my shorts just enough to show that I had nothing on under, exposing some of my crack. I'd have my hands in my pockets, so if he paused or I could feel his eyes on me, straining to see if what he was seeing was real, i'd lower them another inch. More often than not, he'd walk up behind and pull them down the rest of the way, exposing my ass finding is lubed and wet, another invitation. He'd breed and be on his way.  I love that kind of visual communication.

woof.  very hot and familiar from days past.  unfor, the net seems to have killed off so much of that cruising.  or maybe I just got older???

Wondering - would a Dr. blowing off a request for Prep from a MSM patient be close to malpractice if the patient converted?

 

lol, yeah, I have encountered this. My guess is you're prolly dealing with a guy who is married or in a relationship. He gets off work at 5 and has a window of opportunity to fuck on his way home from work, but cannot show up home 3 hours after getting off (work).

x2.  I have several regulars like that .. married or attached to SO.  They are boned, see a 30 min window to get relief before their guilt/denial/SO comes back into the picture.  Do what I can for them, but not always.  

Good thread.  I would generally say its a bottom's resp to be prepped and ready for a top, anytime, anyplace.  And, I take real pride in being clean and ready, something I work at.  But reality is - we all know whats going on - prep takes time and effort, and its an ass, not a pussy, that he is sliding his dick into so shit happens ... no pun intended.

All week, I've been steaming over an infrequent recurring fuck with incredible top I see at local ABS when I am in town.  Everything about him makes me melt - a big man, with a huge dick, and a bad attitude.  And he knows it and torments me.  It's a long story over past few years, one that could be posted on its own here.  But it's rare that he will fuck me, even though I basically beg him sometimes.  But when he does, its rough and raw, and yeah, stuff we dream about.  But he doesn't cum, and in the end he always freaks because of the lube smell on his dick (it's gun oil, no smell.), or worse if there is any hint of more smells.  He supposedly is bi, lives with a woman who can tell what's going on.  I'm fine with that, whatever, we all have our stories.

So same deal this week.  I'm cruising by ABS, really iso a bj for myself after a recent fling ended on bad terms.  He's there, we talk as usual, we end up in booth doing everything imaginable except, this time, he gabs me and tries to fuck me.  I am a proud and committed bottom, but I honestly did not want it, I wasn't in that head space, but he forced it and I assumed my role for him.  I had prepped that day, just in case, which is how I could tell I wasn't in that head space.  But he's basically raping me and I can barely think.  

Yeah, I'm hard now thinking about it, but I wasn't then.  It hurt, things tore, and I could tell things weren't going well higher up inside me.  I finally got him out and realized there was blood and more. He tried to go in again but I stopped him and showed him what was happening.  He freaked, took off to bathroom and left me there, feeling like shit .. no pun intended.  After a lot of thinking, I decided that I just won't engage with him next time.  But like a moth to a flame, I will, we all know that.

Bottom line - we're animals and shit happens.  I guess we just have to go on.

Will you define/expand ...  decreased tolerance for (and enjoyment of) alcohol         I tolerated alcohol much less. 

Makes you sick?  Bad hangover?  Just don't like taste?  Feel effects sooner?    Reading online seems to be a few hits on all of these so curious about experiences here.

Thanks.

256.  But as others has said, that's over a lot of years.   Great list to keep handy.

So what is CLAW like?  Thinking of going for the first time.  I've done MAL and IML many times in the past, waaayy too much attitude and modeling for me now.  Not shy type here, but it gets old.  Is CLAW a bit more real or at least fun if you're not drugged out or a NYC muscleman?  Just looking for something actually fun.

Looks like all hotels are in same area, and I don't need to be smack in the middle of it, so that's fine by me. Comfort Inn is now last option, will I be sorry?

Also, may take new bf/fb as a learning/sharing experience ... make sure he knows what he's signed up for by trying to date a whore ...