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Buena Vista Park, fully. Usually gets busy near 10:00-11:00 PM and 4:00-500 AM but stuff could happen anytime. 

If its 70° on the Pacific coast side of SF (in the Avenues) I would recommend a day at Marshall’s Beach. It is a hell of a climb down but once there we take our clothes off and find our courage.

Bring a nice jacket regardless. Unlike the rest of the United States, we have a marine layer that has the effect of dampening our atmosphere by creating fog and cool ocean breezes. I say if you want warm, this is not the time of year, weatherwise to come to San Francisco. There are very few warm nights. 

Welcome to San Francisco. Don’t leave anything behind in your rental car on the street. Paperclip, empty bottle, etc. You’ll be bipped. Don’t get bipped!

Yes. Being 5’ 8” and 120 LB I get raped whenever I’m with a (unknown to me) rapist and we end up alone together, when they can get away with it. If this scenario presents itself as long as they don’t try to harm me (happened twice) I don’t fight back and I let them finish inside me. I also had friends invite over someone who has ended up raping me while they watched, and I don’t mind that as long as they are not violent. I have however been violently assaulted, strangled, and nearly killed by my rapist and that’s not cool. If you rape me please don’t be so violent. I’m not going to report your need to blow your DNA in me, if you respect my boundaries.

I have been raped 6 times.

I know that your Norvir or Cobicistat boosting your Protease Inhibitor (or in your Genvoya) will also provide a major boost to Viagra too.

In 2018 I tested positive on July 24 with a 4th generation antibody test. Confirmation test was Negative, and the second confirmation was also negative.

Tested positive ultimately in September when they retested the sample done at the same time as the other two. (Was in a Research study) Ask your doctor for one of these. Indeed, they are also called HIV 1 RNA Test. These are accurate with less than a week of time after exposure.

I’m generally in agreement with what you all are saying but I want to make a further point that this iteration of San Francisco will not last. 

I won’t deny that the “scene” is on life support, in need of serious care to be sustained at a level we expect, and enjoy - especially in the fetishes we enjoy.

San Francisco was able to be sustained miraculously before and during the pandemic, until yes - Mpx struck. But it wasn’t just that, it also was a large number of minor things that f’ed up everything:

1. Opportunities. Since the cost of living in the Bay Area remained high throughout the pandemic compared with other North American cities - many people, especially queer people working in Hospitality, Retail, Tourism, and Travel  had hours cut or made substantially less money; ultimately choosing to move away.

2. Events…. And places to have them. It got boring. Many LGBT+ venues closed down permanently, from Watergarden to The Stud, and the rest remained shut down for a lot longer than anywhere else in the Western world.

3. Retirement. Quite a few longtime promoters and venue operators threw in the towel. Time to retire. All who is left need to step up to put in the work, or if time is not a possibility- provide oversight, and financial assistance to make it happen. If anyone has any good ideas, I am happy to help do some of the work on this. It takes a village quite a long time before results happen; and San Franciscans generally accept nothing but the best from the get-go. This is a town where first impressions make or break you.

4. Tourism to events we have doesn’t happen when we have few events. We have Folsom / Dore, we’d be anemic without it. Did anyone go tho the Castro Street Fair? Did Frameline happen this year? How was this past weekend with Halloween events? I honestly don’t know.  What’s the draw for tourism when it is impossible to get here and then have little to do once here? Gay Tourism is a huge part of our hedonistic lifestyle and culture. San Francisco was the best sex tourism pilgrimage this side of the Mississippi, now maybe more like this side of the Sacramento River Delta. What is unfortunate is that our Queer nonprofits and City tourism agencies are not doing enough to stop the decline of Queer tourism, or marketing our assets like before. If, in 2024, the BOS expect us to rubber stamp their reelection efforts they are going to be in for a rude awakening.

5. AFFORDABILITY 55K in San Francisco left during the pandemic, but really, how many were queer? How many of us are forced to live outside of San Francisco due to high housing costs? How many times can you remember that “BART Ride of Fame” on a Monday Afternoon, sweaty and gross because it was 97° during the walk from your weekend mess to South Hayward, Walnut Creek BART; or worse, the trip from East Palo Alto - on University nonetheless - to sneak on Caltrain but hide in the bathroom from the fare inspectors, cause you lost your wallet (stolen) and had no way of getting back to SF, or possibly Oakland, and Uber wasn’t invented yet. Maybe this shit was unique to me, but the 55K number was also *only* unique to San Francisco. Hundreds of thousands of people left the Bay Area. Its too unaffordable for LGBT+ that were already here, and Generation Z doesn’t seem too willing to give SF a shot, save for some who don’t mind a good bit of work.

6. Crime. I moved from the westside of SF to live alone downtown and I have to say, it’s essentially a bit overblown. Lower Nob Hill gives one all of the downtown experience. In this area some affectionately call the Tenderloin annex, crime is unfortunate but rare; mostly limited to theft of property, not violent acts. Still, it could be better and safer. I tend to avoid the walk alone at night when I’m needing to go south of O’farrell and much of the TL East of Larkin to about Jones and McAllister.

San Francisco has always been a boom and bust town, but each time people step up and start over. This has to happen or else we will have our own queer SF doom loop.

They must tread lightly and carefully with this kind of activity going forward. The constitution of California does protect the right to privacy, and this sort of activity is illegal under the CPRA if the user has opted out.

If a California resident has opted out of having their data shared, this would be a blatant violation of the rights afforded to them by the California Privacy Rights Act, which is now fully in force.

The Act, which was formerly known as California Proposition 24 (2020) specifies the types of information that we can block businesses from sharing, including everything from health, genetics, race, ethnicity, sexual orientation, sex life, union membership, religion, philosophical beliefs, and also precise geolocation data. 

This law expanded the previous law, and went into effect on January 1, 2023, applying to personal data collected on or after January 1, 2022. The intentions of the Act, according to Wikipedia (because I am lazy) are to provide California residents with the right to:

Know who is collecting their and their children's personal information, how it is being used, and to whom it is disclosed.

Control the use of their personal information, including limiting the use of their sensitive personal information.

Have access to their personal information and the ability to correct, delete, and transfer their personal information.

Exercise their privacy rights through easily accessible self-serve tools.

Exercise their privacy rights without being penalized.

Hold businesses accountable for failing to take reasonable information security precautions.

Benefit from businesses' use of their personal information.

Have their privacy interests protected even as employees and independent contractors.

California residents, take advantage of your CPRA rights!

I routinely request that companies that track me, data brokers such as LexisNexis, and advertisers delete all of my personal information.

I had resistant shigella a few years back and it was the worst thing I’ve ever had to endure. 105° fever and no antibiotics were working. I almost died, and was rushed into the ER without wait. My immune system literally had no help. They tried several IV pouches of antibiotics and none of them worked. The antibiotic resistance testing in Petri dishes had little activity on the shigella strain. I was admitted for two days. The second time I had it, fighting it off was a little better. Miraculously I still had some T cells floating around with a memory of it. 

Eros is closing up shop and moving out of the Castro.

I’m foolishly optimistic.

[think before following links] https://brokeassstuart.com/2021/11/15/after-30-years-sfs-only-gay-sex-club-is-moving-eros/

Never can go wrong with a Nasty Pig baseball cap.  Discrete but very obvious for the right person…

SF is suffering. I wanted to mention the state of things as a whole in relation to the LGBTQ community; to give everyone an idea about what is causing SF’s woes.

Its quiet here lately. Our COVID-19 response was aggressive and saved lives, but at the expense of everything that makes SF fun. Canceling or gutting Pride (two years running), Dore, Folsom, Keeping bars closed for an eternity, cancelling all large block parties and club events… If you can think of it, it’s been cancelled.

Gentrification has been flipping the City into a very sterile version of itself. Many LGBT Businesses or venues that host LGBT events and parties are gone forever- The Stud, Mezzanine, Sound Factory, Lucky 13. We lost sex clubs 442 Natoma, Blow Buddies, and one of the very few Bay Area bathhouses - The Watergarten in San Jose. There’s Steamworks Berkeley, but lately leave disappointed every time I visit.* Feels like all thats left is Catalyst, Folsom Gulch Eros, and Buena Vista Park. We can still shop Mr. S.

There’s a genuine effort to save some what’s left, preserve historical sites, improve existing ones, erect monuments. Other than the fact we might get a bathhouse in SF, everything is about preservation - as if there is no chance in hell we’re getting anything new.

This is a hostile town for younger LGBTs as its increasingly out of reach for most who want to move here. Even having the title with the largest drop in the US from pre-covid rental prices, we’re still the most expensive major U.S. city to rent an apartment. It is as if SF doesn’t register on Generation Z’s radar. No influx of younger non tech LGBTQ to replinish retirees, especially in the creative arts, Government, NGOs, or for tourism and hospitality. Enrollment is down at our universities.

Why does this matter? With a lack of diverse, fresh opinions and talents, SF loses its appeal. Its not Edwardian painted ladies’, the hills, the fog, that make SF special. It’s our people.

People of all ages are leaving. Even tech workers who generally can afford it here are choosing a different path. If people are able to work remotely, theyre likely to be leaving or have left. Even so, rent prices are still too high and nothing has changed that.

Where’s everyone going? A few of my friends and acquaintences are moving to Palm Springs, or an hour north into Sonoma County, while the majority are mostly high tailing it to Los Angeles. Other places I have heard Include Chicago, DC, Pittsburgh, Berlin. 

One area that bucks these trends; what SF has been long known for, for better, for worse - recreational things. There’s absolutely zero chance of the District Attorney prosecuting individuals caught with drugs. With low costs to obtain; this is key because one is holding quite a lot more here for the same amount of cash elsewhere; and obtained with relative ease. SF remains an economically affordable place for a “Methventure.”

It’ll be interesting to see a few years removed from the pandemic what SF will be like. Will younger, kinkier, sleazier, LGBTQ flock once again to SF? Will SOMA get a bathhouse? Will the Eagle survive long enough for the leather monument out front to stay relevant? What about Powerhouse? Badlands is now Sadlands - Will Castro be on life support or thriving? Will we house the homeless? 

Right now, theres still fun to be had; but I get this eery feeling SF’s best days are behind us.

15 minutes ago, DarkroomTaker said:

Does it cover purposly damaging condoms to infect people, like some of the threads confess on here? 

or if the condom does break, what’s to say you don’t get accused of tampering?

5 hours ago, skinster said:

If approved, the measure would amend the state’s civil definition of sexual battery and make stealthing a civil offense, meaning victims could sue their assailants for damages.

This will limit the effect.

For one, Plaintiffs will need to secure a lawyer. Unless they come from money, it is limited to NGO Legal Defense Nonprofits or volunteer attorneys.

“Sucking blood from a stone. ”The bigger issue is one has to have assets to take away. It would be a waste of time to sue someone flat broke. Sure there are wage garnishments and bank garnisments; but those can’t take all the defendants money. If one has nothing, he’s got nothing to lose.

Thanks guys.

I was inspired yesterday to write this after I “played the tapes back from the beginning.” As I generally have “Positive”* on my profile, I always wonder if people look at that when they decide to spread open for my poz spunk. 

I considered the various outcomes if I relied on only web profile disclosure, if I bred this hot early 20something who only has only “Negative” on his BBRTS.

This is a likely scenario.

I probably will disclose again to him; as I have a medium viral load around 50,000cp/mL. I will usually also just flat out ask if they are bugchasing.

I also like to practice writing. A piece like this I bet has been done, but its rare. The postscript was trying to imitate BBRTS Messaging; the way they thread messages is not conducive to storylines, itd have given the ending away.

*(or Poz+Hepx whenever I catch a nice strain)

What a great day.

We didn’t discuss it beforehand, but I noticed your profile said “Negative” when I got your initial message. I assumed you also saw my Positive status when you viewed mine. This passed muster for HIV disclosure, at least I believed.

Before I get into it, It’s comforting to know that we both understand how desirable HIV is to enlightened men. The fear I have is living in fear about the thing that actually (quite literally) forms a permanent bond between men; one of many connected bonds which form a chain of men engaging in natural uninhibited bareback breeding inbpursuit of ecstasy. We achieved this goal today. 

Literally our HIV represents both a tragic consequence of, and a living tribute to, the history of legalized pure unadulterated male hedonism.

As I started to get close, I loved that no words were said. I think poz talk is odd; seems you feel the same. The nonverbal nature of pozzing just is not conducive to spoken word. We may be in the minority here.

I flipped you back to missionary just in time for me to look into your eyes out of respect, as my poz cum flows into you.

There was an intense rush of frightened euphoria through your body when I started to ejaculate in your HIV negative fuckhole. Your hole tightened; I came into you harder..

Pulse after strong pulse of cum, a magnanimous feeling of being in full ownership and in control of you overcame me, as I thought about being your Alpha Gifter. As I near climax I reflexively close my eyes tightly from the ecstatic pleasure shock in all extremities. 

We then locked eyes; this time with more intensity and clarity. I felt as if they were a portal allowing me to gaze deep into your soul.  As I stared I was overwhelmed by, and rewarded with another simultaneous wave of complete nirvana; from an unexpected deep empathy for you eminatting from a dark and twisted place of love in my heart. I realized in this moment in time, I was you, and I am you. As the cum entering you broke your inhibitions, you had the same feeling. Like my hands did at your throat per your earlier request, It took your breath away.

My strong empathetic emotions combined with my complete domination of you undeniably created the most intense feeling I have ever felt at once. These are the kinds of intensities Christians try to warn about in the book of Genesis. I may be agnostic but believe it - these are too powerful and too superhuman. Us humans are not supposed to feel like this. Then it occurred to me. I was God. 

Or maybe it was the Methamphetamine creating a “god complex.” Whatever It was, it always will be my apex of self actualization. As I pozzed you, it was evident you saw this feeling of self actualization overcome me. This may seem like a selfish observation to point out, so let me explain.

These emotions during infection sex are the most beautiful emotions a HIV+ Giver is himself rewarded with. That was your gift to me, thank you. This is why we exchange a life of good health to be positive. It may be the drugs that make me feel this way, but it is definitley the sex that broke us.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Bottompup wrote:

Ummm… I wasn’t bugchasing… oh dear.

I mustv’e switched the profiles up when I made more than one plan for today, in the event one of you was a flake.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

sleazypoztop86 wrote:

That is the most San Francisco explanation i’ve ever heard.

On 8/29/2021 at 11:25 AM, onlyraw said:

although he would never be able to touch his cock - but I love seeing a sub hard while he is getting fucked

Bottoms should never touch their dick when getting fucked unless given permission to.

Maybe  I’m an old fucker (mid 30s) but I know that my focus should be constantly monitoring my fuckhole; as to ensure you stay in - and ejaculate inside me - when its time. You can play with my dick though.

I forgot to update my HIV and HepC results from several years back.

On 7/24/2018 at 12:13 AM, R86 said:

HIV - ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ find out this week

Update - Tested Positive.

On 7/24/2018 at 12:13 AM, R86 said:

HEPc - ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ See HIV.

Update - Tested positive

On 2/26/2021 at 1:11 PM, DirtyguyUK said:

Had shigella from rimming a few guys in the sauna

A few years ago I caught a strain of Shigella that was resistant to antibiotics.

It came out of nowhere with a fever of 105°.  I almost died from that. Low CD4 plus this had me in bad shape. After a week in isolation, 10 bags of Intravenous rehydration and three days of constant diarrhea, my immune system finally came through and got me stable enough to go home. They never had working antibiotics for treatment. I’m lucky my immune system was working.

Honestly, eating ass is the riskiest thing I used to do for sex. 

The World Health Organization has suggested that people who cannot easily access either Truvada or generic Truvada can safely consider (what would be considered an off label use in the United States) a Rx regimen consisting of these separately dispensed HIV drugs: 

generic Tenofovir (TDF), one of the HIV drugs in Truvada.

generic lamivudine (3TC), which is nearly identical in chemical composition to emtricitabine (FTC), the other drug in Truvada.

The significance of this cannot be underscored enough; as both of those drugs are nearly affordable out of pocket for most in the U.S. to buy both generic without insurance - and the WHO is willing to go out on a limb and suggest this as an option for avoiding infection with HIV.

A pilot study of 40 men who have sex with men using TDF/3TC for oral PrEP was completed in Brazil with zero breakthrough infections reported by completion of the study. Though it has not been through a proper phase 3 trial, its considered an option in countries where TDF/3TC makes more sense.

Why is nobody doing a full study on the effectiveness of TDF/3TC as PrEP? Clinical trials are expensive. Truvada was under patent by Gilead when they paid for the study proving efficacy as PrEP. The payout was coming at the completion of the study. With generics, there’s no financial incentive for a company to investigate a novel prophylaxis treatment with an existing generic drug; there is no exclusivity period for the drug once efficacy has been proven. Short answer? Money!

What does this have to do with side effects and efficacy of generic Truvada? If the WHO is that confident in an alternative treatment being the same and just as safe (even San Francisco health department pushed before generic Truvada was on the market) then Generic Truvada won’t be too different an experience than the name brand. I also wanted to put it out there as an additional option in case it would be helpful.

(Remember, this is not my recommendation! I do not give medical advice. I am not your doctor - as someone who has HIV, ask someone else how you can prevent HIV. I’m not an expert!  An infectious disease specialist is a good start for gathering their thoughts about this WHO recommendation.)

Cabotegravir is a new injectable that only requires monthly (or even less frequent) dosing.

As opposed to the current PrEP regiments consisting of “reverse transcriptase inhibitors” which convert HIV viral RNA into DNA, this is a “integrase strand transfer inhibitor” which prevents integration of viral RNA into the nucleus of a CD4 T-cell.

It’s approved for treatment currently in combination with long acting rilpivirine (an RTI) and on its own has been proven to work as PrEP.

[think before following links] [think before following links] https://www.who.int/news/item/20-05-2020-exciting-new-results-from-long-acting-prep-study-show-it-to-be-effective-in-preventing-hiv-acquisition-in-msm-and-transgender-women

Haven't seen it’s approval from the FDA as a PrEP alternative; I’m assuming that it’ll happen sooner or later.

You can be asymptotic and still shed the virus. An outbreak is not required.

Generally, if you have HSV1 you’ll probably not get HSV2 and vice versa. I had neither until I contracted HSV1 near my asshole from an asymptotic carrier giving me a rimjob.

Herpes is hard to avoid I’m afraid.

On 8/23/2020 at 1:49 AM, FaceLoad said:

It's out of business: [think before following links] [think before following links] https://www.ebar.com/news/latest_news//294955

I saw that they had closed. Like Chicago’s Man’s Country, end of an era folks. Unlike Man’s Country, this was as unceremonious as it can be. Eh Pandemics. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

I wonder if they even attempted to sell the business. Because they permanently closed, that’s the end of bathhouses on The Alameda - either in San Jose or otherwise. I’d be shocked if any community in Santa Clara County would permit one to open again.

San Francisco just repealed restrictions on bathhouses operating in the City in place since 1984.

The abandoned Pottery Barn at Market and Castro would be a good location; and neighbors would protest only if it was housing.

Less risk of getting robbed then at BV park.

Note: I am not a medical expert. I recommend discussing this with an infectious diseases specialist.

Hepatitis A is spread through fecal-oral transmission - just as easy as HIV to transmit if engaged in rimming.

Hepatitis C is spread via blood to blood contact. HCV is a bit more challenging to catch through sex then HIV, but still possible.

Hepatitis C is not spread through semen, saliva, tears, sweat, or urine.

Most commonly, hepatitis C is spread through sharing drug injection equipment.

For sex, things that cause bleeding for a top or a bottom can increase the risks of transmitting the infection - which can happen in either direction. For both top and bottom - warts from HPV, hemorrhoids on the bottom, and irritation/tears in the rectum from fisting, intense pounding during sex, a lack of lubricant, or a tops’
cock piercing increase the risk of Hepatitis C transmission. Some people get Hepatitis C through sharing sex toys without washing them off.

HIV is sensitive to the hostile environment that exists outside of our bodies. If exposed to air, it will die off in minutes or hours.

Hepatitis C is a much
more durable virus. It can survive outside of the body for up to 4 days. If in a syringe of leftover drug and blood, it can infect for several months or longer.

I’d suggest getting tested for Hepatitis C. Ask for a viral load test; it can take a long time for the antibody tests to determine whether if you are infected or not.

Being HIV+, I’m very in tune with my body’s functioning on a day to day basis. I started noticing signs of infection; but all of my antibody tests came back “non reactive;” a viral load test will directly determine if you have an active infection of the virus. 

Also, stay calm. If you are hepatitis C positive, there are several treatments on the market that cure the infection in 8-12 weeks. They are well tolerated with no side effects. Don’t wait for the virus to become chronic to get screened and treated; it’s nasty long term.

11 hours ago, KinkyBiNature said:

yes, I concur, Mostly at the steamworks (Berkeley) and sometimes at the Watergarden San Jose.

Got to be careful about the Watergarden; they’re a little more adamant about safe sex then Steamworks Berkeley in my experience. 

It’s like the Watergarden sexually and spiritually exists in the early 90s. I always feel obligated to only fuck in private there; cause I don’t let men use condoms in me. I won’t be putting one on either.

PrEP - “Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis” works to prevent HIV infection in HIV Negative individuals. Includes two commonly used HIV Medications - either Tenofovir Disoproxil Fumarate and Emtricitabine (Truvada) or Tenofovir Alafenamide and Emtricitabine (Descovy).

While the “PrEP” regimens (Truvada or Descovy) are commonly used In daily HIV Treatment, they alone are ineffective at controlling HIV infection. They must be paired up with an additional drug (1 or more).

Since there’s no chance of preventing HIV infection in “Persons living with HIV” (PLWHs) we don’t use the term “PrEP.” 

Therefore, The interchangeable terms used for HIV Treatment are:

HAART - Highly Active Antiretroviral Therapy

or

ART - Antiretroviral Therapy 

Someone adherent to taking their HAART or ART Daily and have obtained an “undetectable” viral load in blood would be considered to be practicing “Treatment as Prevention” or “TasP.” 

Fuck flu was awful. Eventually was bed ridden, No energy, nightsweats, I felt like I lost control of my prefrontal cortex - No executive function. When going through the motions of the day, I had no clue why it was important. 

At one point I felt like death and went to the ER. They performed a white blood cell count; A few other tests - but no HIV test. As it turns out, they couldn’t determine what it was. They sent me home pending test results.

This is the WBC Count result a few days later:

Indeed white blood cell count was low. By the time this news arrived, I was almost recovered from the flu.

It lasted for about 3 weeks.

Two weeks after it subsided, call came in from my PCP. They ran some more tests with my authorization.

Indeed, I was Positive. 

Initial viral load:

I still have nightsweats every night.

On 2/12/2020 at 4:01 AM, ballerva said:

I'm often gassy (yuk) and I've had hair fall out of my head in clumps.

Me too. It caused some of the worst gas I’ve ever had. Additionally, the psychiatric side effects of this drug ultimately caused me to discontinue the drug prior to the end of the first month on it. I had night tremors that were exceptionally violent, and seemed to follow a progression of the  story line night after night. 

When it got to the point that I didn’t wanna get to sleep out of fear, I called my doctor to inform him that I have discontinued Biktarvy.

My doctor then switched me over to Symtuza. The is a wonder drug that works with no side effects. It is resilient enough to work with multiple HIV mutations. It still contains Descovy (just like Biktarvy) but replaces the main drug. Indeed, the dreams went away after this.

In my experience the integrase inhibitors such as what’s used in Biktarvy or Tivicay seem to be pretty psychoactive. 

I have such a massive viral reservoir it takes very little time to get me detectable again. I always have a random low level viral load such as 56, 92, 94. At one point my doctor wanted to take a stab at getting my Viral Load down to really be undetectable; added Tivicay to my regimen.  Pretty quickly the odd dreams came back. Nothing terrifying; definitely weird.

YMMV.