Do YOU mind?

[Inception]

Depends on the scene/place. At tubs or anon with a top you don't know, do you really give a shit about pleasing that guy or about pleasing yourself? What's the likelyhood he's someone you'll hookup with again? In that kind of scene just get what you want out of it - he's nothing but a walking dildo. OR if he sees that you ar hard and wanking he might want to bend over and take it for a while as well.

With a regular fuckbud, or someonewho has the potential to become one, communicate with him to learn what will make him happy.