Gang Bang Etiquette

[einathens]

i think if you're only interested in opinions affirmimg yours, and not in actual discussion, you should specify that in your posting.

[AlphaMale]

Damn. Just trying to gauge peoples experiences in gang bangs. Was not inviting you to analyze me. Not sure why you guys get all angry. Topic was gang bangs not me.

Sorry I posted at all.

[GermanFucker]

the bottom at the gangbang gets to set the tone and the rules. top are easy to find.

Judging by the number of total bottoms desperately trying to set up gang bangs, I'd disagree. It's not enough to just hold your ass up in the air. Setting up a good gang bang is a really hard thing. Because many bottoms don't get what a gang bang is about. Of course, the bottom is the center of the sexual activity. But a gang bang is not about the bottom. Gang banging is a team sport. It's about the comradery among the tops. It's about boys being boys and enjoying themselves in a group. The question is not only: Does the top want to fuck the bottom, but also: does he want to continue fucking in the other guys' cum?

Only if there's chemistry among the tops, if they have a similar mindset, the thing can turn into a really great gang bang.

a gangbang is a shared sexual experience. if you can't wrap your head around the sharing part, maybe you shouldn't go. or maybe you should arrange to be the first one in and then leave.

As with all good sex parties, rules are key. Plus knowing which rules to enforce strictly and when to be lenient. (E.g.: If I have a nudist party with 50 guys and allow three guys to keep their boxers on, I might make 3 guys happy, but will piss off 30). If there's to be no playing amongst the tops, say so beforehand. Also, if all the cum has to go into the bottom, make that a rule.

Many bottoms just want to be fucked by a huge number of guys, so they tend to invite as many guys as possible and don't really care with what kind of mindset and expectations they come to the scene. Let me be clear: Such a gathering IS NOT A GANG BANG. A gang bang doesn't consist of individuals, but a team.

Damn. Just trying to gauge peoples experiences in gang bangs. Was not inviting you to analyze me. Not sure why you guys get all angry. Topic was gang bangs not me.

Sorry I posted at all.

Games need to have rules, agreed. But you also need to have team players. If you don't have guys that know each other for a long time and play well together, you need to be a bit a bit easy going and not easily frustrated.

A team effort requires both: Working together according to a set of rules AND being tolerant / helping your team mates.

[breedmeup]

GermanFucker has it, even for me as a bottom. Its about being taken by the team. I also agree its not about the cumslut (bottom).

[very evil slut]

Typical for tops to think that any sex experience is about them.Yeah right,keep on dreaming about control and just 'holes'.If it makes you happy, I have no problem with people living out their fantasies-but just for the record:We bottoms need dick and you shouldn't forget that you need a bottom and if someone has issues with 'RESPECT' he can use his hand.That I had to say about, how apparently it is not about the bottom.As for the original topic,you should probably make it clear that this is not your kind of stuff, but on the other hand-to wait just for your turn it's quite a long time and many guys go for some action till their time comes.Relax and take it easy or just say:No,I am not into this.

[GermanFucker]

Typical for tops to think that any sex experience is about them.Yeah right,keep on dreaming about control and just 'holes'.If it makes you happy, I have no problem with people living out their fantasies

If you're referring to my posting, you clearly didn't unterstand it. Not all sexual activity in general is about the top. A gang bang, however, is about (tops) GANGING up on a bottom and banging him as a team. Otherwise it's just a guy taking loads. Which is also ok, but no different from one-on-one sex, only that it's repetitive. But such is NOT a gang bang.

If you have a gang bang with 9 tops, that means that 90% of the mood, the chemistry, the scene depends on the tops. Of course a great gang bang needs a great bottom. But even a great bottom has his limits and can hardly turn the thing around if 90% of the attendees don't play well together.

I'm not saying all sex is about tops (a gang bang however, is). I'm saying many bottoms don't know the difference between taking loads and a proper gang bang.

That I had to say about, how apparently it is not about the bottom.

In that sense it's really not. 10% bottom is not more important than 90% top at a gang bang. Anything else would be megalomanical. Only if you break it down into 10 times one-on-one sex, it becomes about the bottom. But then it's no longer a gang bang. It's like saying that a dom doesn't respect his sub enough. In life and in general he can respect him plenty, but when it comes to S/M, it's just the rules of the game. In the same sense a gang bang has a certain dynamic, it's not an arbitrary thing.

If you find a proper gang bang disrespectful, noone is forcing you to participate in one. But you shouldn't make the mistake of generalizing: A gang bang is not the only way to have sex. Neither should you judge the participants in a practice you don't necessarily like or understand.

-but just for the record:We bottoms need dick and you shouldn't forget that you need a bottom and if someone has issues with 'RESPECT' he can use his hand.

My goodness, 98% of all bottoms don't stand a chance against my right hand. Respect is not about giving the other guy what he wants or pretending to be something else. I respect my partners enough to be polite, open and honest about me. Then you can like it or not.

[very evil slut]

@ GermanFucker

About gangbangs-you actually nailed the math!My third and till now most crowded one was with exactly 9 tops last year(August) in Wiesbaden.I don't organize gangbangs every weekend but with 5 so far, I feel pretty comfortable with my experience.That with the 98%-da kann ich nur sagen:Mein Gott, du bist ein ganz großer,was?Ich zittere vor Angst und deiner rechten Hand.Respect has relatively little to do with being polite-I am polite to 80% of the people all the time-that doesn't say much.Being honest-there you have it right,that has to do with respect.About S/M and the rules of the game-I was a total sub at the start of my sex carrier, but strangely ALMOST ALL tops transferred these rules of the sex game in real life, talking and acting about 'property',' their hole',etc.Some even described to me what 'being slut' is, despite the fact that they probably never experienced a dick inside them.I really have to laugh about this.With time I just stopped putting up with this kind of shit and moved on.I know it really destroys the 'I am in control-I am the real man around here-you are just the pussy' feeling of many tops, but the hole is not yours till I say so-everything else is in your head,which is perfectly fine with me.Half of the sex runs in the human brain anyway.

[GermanFucker]

@ GermanFucker

About gangbangs-you actually nailed the math!My third and till now most crowded one was with exactly 9 tops last year(August) in Wiesbaden.I don't organize gangbangs every weekend but with 5 so far, I feel pretty comfortable with my experience.

For your age your level of experience is quite acceptable, indeed. But you're still completely missing the point, maybe because you had some bad experiences with other "tops". I was never talking about control, ownership etc. I was talking about chemistry (not chems *LOL), "vibe", an intuitive rhythm.

Look, I'm not excluding the possibility that you got it right. Because you knew the other guys or instintively picked the right ones. Good for you. But I've been invited to many so-called gang bangs which turned out to be consisting of one bottom trying to get fucked by as many guys as possible. That's nice for him. But not a gang bang. No chemistry among the tops, everyone just trying to fuck the bottom and then get the hell out. Not very hot. Not very hot at all. A deflowering is about the bottom. Doesn't mean the top is just a dick or not important. It just means that the whole thing is only enjoyable if you get the bottom to feel comfortable, just like gang bang tops need to be comfortable with each other.

That's the difference that turns a run-of-the-mill breeding into a gang bang. And that's why a gang bang is about tops. Has nothing to do with dominance, ownership or control.

That with the 98%-da kann ich nur sagen:Mein Gott, du bist ein ganz großer,was?Ich zittere vor Angst und deiner rechten Hand.

I think you didn't get the joke. That was not a threat of violence, just an admission that I'm a prolific wanker. Sex with a guy should be more interesting than sex with my right hand. Most offers I get frankly aren't. I got my pride and preferences. Before I bang some meth head I much rather watch some porn or think back to some awesome fuck I had before and just start rubbing one out.

With time I just stopped putting up with this kind of shit and moved on.I know it really destroys the 'I am in control-I am the real man around here-you are just the pussy' feeling of many tops, but the hole is not yours till I say so-everything else is in your head,which is perfectly fine with me.Half of the sex runs in the human brain anyway.

The point is: I'm a rare specimen. I'm a real man. I am confident in myself so that I don't need to control other men just to nurture my ego. I have unbreakable willpower without being bossy or domineering. I'm usually in control because the other guy wants me to be in control. I am an alpha male not because I strive to be but because every fiber of my being is made of alpha-male stuff. It's just my purpose, my mission, my spiritual essence.

I like sex. I like it a lot. But I don't have to have sex - with you or any other guy - to feel self-worth. I will not pretend to be someone else just to get someone into bed. If you don't like my style, you don't have to spread your legs (same goes the other way round: If you're not my type, I won't bang you). I will respect you just the same whether we have sex or not. Because every human being deserves respect. Doesn't matter if you're the "head bitch in charge" (rotflmao) or the cashier at ALDI's. Respect is something one innately deserves, not something you demand.

Call it the Zen of fucking: Letting go your ego and just enjoying the ride.

[Fucksurrey]

No have to say a gang bang or gang fuck is using a willing btm cunt and loading or charging them up. An orgy is all over fun for everyone in every way etc. I have actually been to some good orgies which then turned into a gang fuck when a btm has become the centre of attention.

Have to say when I fuck, I prefer to concentrate on the arse and rather not be distracted. When being the btm, I love other guys shoving their cocks into my mouth, suckin my dick etc while I get serviced.

[blackserpant666]

thank you for training those who need to know this stuff.........I totally appreciate this because I am out to make sure to get as many loads as possible and make those tops happy campers

[hungtopinky]

I've never been at a gangbang before, but am curious about trying it one day. I think I am more a one man show, but it would be hot to try tag teaming a bottom sometime! I think the best gangbang would be cool, laid back guys, who aren't necessarily Adonis, or perfect, so everyone feels more at ease, and everyone is there for one reason and one reason only...to fuck and seed hole!