i cant cum

[tightass1991]

when I meet people im a bottom but I cant cum when an wanked or sucked or even when I fuck someone but I can cum when im on my own can anyone help

[Idigholes]

Try to not even think about cumming and enjoy the wank, suck or fuck. The thought of an orgasm (whether it is you or your partner that is wanting it so badly) can trip up the natural progression towards shooting. For many years I had the same issue. Could top for hours and hours without shooting. Finally let go of my dream to flood a bottom's guts and before very long I started having not just one but multiple orgasms. Be easy on yourself and don't put that kind of performance pressure in the mix.

[tightass1991]

Try to not even think about cumming and enjoy the wank, suck or fuck. The thought of an orgasm (whether it is you or your partner that is wanting it so badly) can trip up the natural progression towards shooting. For many years I had the same issue. Could top for hours and hours without shooting. Finally let go of my dream to flood a bottom's guts and before very long I started having not just one but multiple orgasms. Be easy on yourself and don't put that kind of performance pressure in the mix.

thanks for that I think that will work

[haireebear]

Dan Savage wrote about this. It's possible it's linked to excessive masturbation. You cum when you're pleasuring yourself and are used to that. You perhaps have conditioned yourself to cum in a certain way and in specific circumstances. He had recommended cutting down on the masturbation and the same routine. Just a thought....

[tightass1991]

Dan Savage wrote about this. It's possible it's linked to excessive masturbation. You cum when you're pleasuring yourself and are used to that. You perhaps have conditioned yourself to cum in a certain way and in specific circumstances. He had recommended cutting down on the masturbation and the same routine. Just a thought....

thanks that is good to I do wank alot

[Deaner]

I have the same problem. I jerk off too much too.

But I've learned to appreciate the difference between shooting my load, and enjoying the company of another man. Body contact stimulates my mind and body, but not my cock, and that is okay.

[bearbandit]

Similar problem here: diabetes has worked its magic on the nerve that controls erections so I'm pretty unreliable as to whether I can even get it up which accounts for my bottoming more and getting more into discipline when topping. Viagra works BUT I rarely cum with a Viagra hardon (I've got some Cialis to try next time). When I do finally manage to cum it's about eight hours after I took the damn drug so if he stays over he's liable to wake up with a dick in his arse (I can think of worse ways of waking in the middle of the night). Whether I'm using V or not the thing I've learned is that it's the journey that counts, not the destination. Top or bottom I want the guy(s) I'm with to have a good time and want more...

[asian87]

Dan Savage wrote about this. It's possible it's linked to excessive masturbation. You cum when you're pleasuring yourself and are used to that. You perhaps have conditioned yourself to cum in a certain way and in specific circumstances. He had recommended cutting down on the masturbation and the same routine. Just a thought....

Have to agree with that, well maybe except for the masturbation part haha