Gym Help

[truckersdelight]

I belong to a gym and in the sauna the guys just usually sit how can I signal to others that I am a Bottom and that I am looking ,

I would like to hook up with a Top and be owned by that top ,do as he says

like take care of his needs and his boys if thats required

sorry for all the questions but I do not know the signals when I might get one,,,thanks

Fitchburg Ma here

[atllkg]

From my experience, if the guys in the sauna aren't sure who you are they may play it safe; they may be thinking you're a cop/management or someone who may not respond well to having a guy come on to you. Easiest thing to do is strip down, no towel and show all you got. If you're sitting up with your cock showing, get hard. If there's room lay out on your stomach with your ass up. When a guy comes in, look him in the eye and smile. He'll take it from there or send you a signal that's clear.   You may have to put on a little show and play with your hole. Most of the time if the top is interested, he'll just spread his legs with a hard piece of meat for you. It's your job to go over and service him.

[loadgiver]

On 1/1/2017 at 11:24 AM, truckersdelight said:

I belong to a gym and in the sauna the guys just usually sit how can I signal to others that I am a Bottom and that I am looking ,

I would like to hook up with a Top and be owned by that top ,do as he says

like take care of his needs and his boys if thats required

sorry for all the questions but I do not know the signals when I might get one,,,thanks

Fitchburg Ma here

Somehow there have been no doms answering this, so here's the real answer. Look at his crotch a lot. Make conversation with him and while you do switch back and forth from eye contact to crotch. Find a natural way to make the conversation about his body. The easiest way to do this in a gym is to ask him about his workout. Ask him what he did today, tell him he's clearly taking the gym seriously because he looks fit, ask him if he gets sore from the gym and what helps, compliment a muscle and ask him for advice ie "what's your routine for chest, I wish my pecs were as good as yours". This technique will play out well for you regardless if you blow him most people will enjoy this conversation but many will get horny from it.  That being said if he's giving one word answers and/or looking away from you the stop tho. He's there because he wants quiet and it's your job to give it to him what he wants.

The approach for a top is very different so look out for signs he's putting on the moves. When I want someone to worship me in the steamroom after a workout I go nude, I make a point to sit on the upper seat preferably so I'm facing my target. If my target is also on the top bench I sit lengthwise with my back against the corner wall and my feet up toward him. I will not stare at my target, instead I frequently close my eyes or do stretches so I'm looking away. I do this so that my target can freely check me out if he's shy. Inevitably I will catch him looking and give him an eyebrow raised smirk. This is when I start rubbing my sore muscles, chest and thighs tend to get the most attention. If I can I will make "accidental" contact by touching my foot to his thigh or brushing my knee on his shoulder, this is a test to see if he pulls away. I can usually tell by this point if my target is hooked. Depending on what I want them do I instruct him to do it. "Rub my feet, lick my balls, etc." 

[loadgiver]

For clarity, I look away from my target if there is no conversation. If my target starts talking to me I look him firmly in the eyes and flex my cock as we we speak.

I also flex/ bounce my cock slightly at first and then more as I get more receptive signs. the more he looks the more I bounce and chub up.

[Ready2DoThis]

I think you could teach a class on this technique. We need more guys to know this kind of stuff. 

[loadgiver]

21 minutes ago, Ready2DoThis said:

I think you could teach a class on this technique. We need more guys to know this kind of stuff. 

I agree. In my experience a lot of guys would benefit from better cruising eticquit and technique. A lot of good cruising spots are ruined by fools thinking with their little head acting like they're in an anything goes porno. Cruising is a mix of seduction and reading signals. It pisses me off when people try to just start wanking in front of strangers or worse trying to start with touching at my gym steamroom. I like this cruising spot because its a mix of people just relaxing and people cruising. If all the chill ppl are scared off by horny fools then there's no hunt, there's no chance. And inevitably the gym management will shut things down.

[cockfun69]

2 hours ago, Ready2DoThis said:

I think you could teach a class on this technique. We need more guys to know this kind of stuff. 

This was all learned back in the day way before apps took everything online!

[verbalBTTM]

I've never had an issue hooking up at the gym, at an actual sauna. There's a dividing line in the generations in our ability to hook-up anywhere, if you grew up with out an internet connection you'll be fine anywhere, if you didn't you'll be lost.

[loadgiver]

11 minutes ago, verbalBTTM said:

I've never had an issue hooking up at the gym, at an actual sauna. There's a dividing line in the generations in our ability to hook-up anywhere, if you grew up with out an internet connection you'll be fine anywhere, if you didn't you'll be lost.

There are many young people that struggle with cruising knowledge, in my experience they are usually they type to be too timid and spook to easily. I agree this behaviour is learned from (anti-)social media and (waste time pretending to) hookup apps. While it can be frustrating because seducing them is slower (I personally enjoy the hunt), it doesn't do any harm to the cruising space.  In my experience the indiscrete and grabby type tend to be the mature older crowd, with exceptions. I can guess a few reasons why this might be but regardless it ends up with the same result, people quitting the gym, and people complaining to management. The problem is that this indiscrete cruising behaviour works for them just often enough for it to be reinforced.  To be clear I'm talking about a normal gym steam room/sauna, not a bathhouse.