Am I destined for a life of promiscuity? / What are your experiences with promiscuity later in life?

[socalbttm]

I wanted to get some feedback on something I've been thinking about for the last few months. 

I'm 35 and I've come to realize it's been at least a decade since I last "fell in love" and I'm not even sure that's what it even was if I'm being honest. I'm not actively dating and since the pandemic I've become much more active on X/Twitter and on gay sex apps. It's been a really good experience for me. I've really become more secure in my sexual wants, needs & interests in my 30s; I get attention and explore my sexual interestsc with less self judgment and I feel like I've really leveled up my sex life as a result.

The thing I'm wondering, is that maybe I shouldn't expect to fall in love in my lifetime, or at least in my immediate future.  I'm having fun, yes, but I often find myself thinking maybe I should be pumping the breaks and  begin settling down. I understand the benefits of having a partner and that is something to consider but I've never been a hopeless romantic. Never had in a phase where I wanted a man or where I crave being in a romantic  partnership and I'm okay with that. I feel satisfied with my status quo but I also don't know if I'll reflect on this part of my life when I'm older and  realize that I had a false sense of comfortability and maybe regret not seeking out a partner.

Don't get me wrong, I love having fun but I'd like to ask you guys about your experience(s). Do you regret not settling down "in your prime"? I always thought in the back of my mind that maybe some people are destined to be "hoes for life" and there's nothing wrong with that from my perspective. I find myself on that path and have honestly thought this about myself. Not in a derogatory of course but just as a matter of fact. Tbh, I feel pretty neutral about being partnered-up, since I don't know what I'm missing in terms of knowing what that feels like. I know my looks will fade one day, but I want to know what being promiscuous is like past 55? What's the scene like at that age? I guess I just want to know what I could potentially be in for 😂.

Edited April 23 by socalbttm

[RawNYTop]

If you're curious about what promiscuity is like after 55, it varies depending on several factors. Maintaining your physical fitness is crucial. I've prioritized exercise throughout my adult life and, at 60, I still look pretty good. I receive attention from younger guys aged 18 and above, seeking a "daddy" experience. While men your age may express interest too, the majority will likely be younger. Engaging with younger men can be enjoyable, but I often find we lack substantial common ground for anything more meaningful. Expect to flirt with younger, attractive men, yet also anticipate rejection from many of them.

As you approach 50 and beyond, you begin to feel the effects of aging, which can present challenges in the bedroom, particularly with more adventurous positions. Morning arousal may be high due to testosterone levels, but those available for encounters may primarily be retirees, while younger individuals are typically occupied with work. Additionally, you may lack the energy to pursue late-night rendezvous; personally, I often find myself on the couch after dinner until bedtime.

My advice? Make the most of your prime for passionate encounters, then seek a partner to share life's milestones. Experiencing them alone can be disheartening. If you're fortunate enough to find someone who loves you and is open to occasional fun on the side, you can enjoy the best of both worlds.

[KindaBasic]

Destined? Don’t you mean privileged?