Bottom needs advice

[DutchHairyBigBot]

Hi, 

I’m a chubby bear bottom in my thirties from the Netherlands who loves to bb and I need some advice (only have some belly fat). I often go to the Sauna NZ in Amsterdam and i’ve noticed a lot that guys touch my hole in the darkroom and then they just back off! It happened so many times the past few months. Its so annoying and it makes me feel as if I’m not  good enough. 

And yesterday I first went to the Eagle (Cum Hunks)  and left after 1,5 hour and then I went to Club Church (SOS) and left that party after 2 hours aswell and the reason for leaving early was that I didn’t even get as much dicks as I expected and now I’m really doubting myself! 

 

What could the reason be? I’m actually quite concerned about this thing. Should I get a boyzilian and wax my butt? Should I lose weight? Or am I going to the wrong parties/places? I love meat market, FicktutenMarkt, glow code and Fuckboxxx! 10 years ago I hadn’t discovered bottoming, but I had always men around me in the sauna and cinema, but nowadays I dont get any attention anymore! Whats wrong with me? I can assure you I’m not ugly, but I feel so bad! Please help me! 🙏🏼

Edited Monday at 06:56 PM by DutchHairyBigBot

[WorldwidecumBB]

I know what you mean….. 😪 

[020pa]

On 4/28/2025 at 8:53 PM, DutchHairyBigBot said:

Hi, 

I’m a chubby bear bottom in my thirties from the Netherlands who loves to bb and I need some advice (only have some belly fat). I often go to the Sauna NZ in Amsterdam and i’ve noticed a lot that guys touch my hole in the darkroom and then they just back off! It happened so many times the past few months. Its so annoying and it makes me feel as if I’m not  good enough. 

And yesterday I first went to the Eagle (Cum Hunks)  and left after 1,5 hour and then I went to Club Church (SOS) and left that party after 2 hours aswell and the reason for leaving early was that I didn’t even get as much dicks as I expected and now I’m really doubting myself! 

 

What could the reason be? I’m actually quite concerned about this thing. Should I get a boyzilian and wax my butt? Should I lose weight? Or am I going to the wrong parties/places? I love meat market, FicktutenMarkt, glow code and Fuckboxxx! 10 years ago I hadn’t discovered bottoming, but I had always men around me in the sauna and cinema, but nowadays I dont get any attention anymore! Whats wrong with me? I can assure you I’m not ugly, but I feel so bad! Please help me! 🙏🏼

Never ever doubt yourself. It can be just "not your day" sometimes. I am more of a top and sometimes I am just not motivated while walking around in the darkroom and sometimes I am horny as fuck. High expectations will cause disappointment.  Don't change yourself, it will undermine your self esteem ever more.

[Barebacksletje]

I think you were unlucky. I had evenings in the Sauna that I was fucked many times and there were evenings that nobody fucked me. My ass was air up, smooth, lubed and open. Men touched my hole and left. Happeden more than ones. Soooooo disappointing. Almost wanted to shout, Plese fuck me. Which days do you go. The fridays and saturdays are the best days to go

 

[cumdumpbear]

Speaking as a stocky 50 year old bear guy, I’ve had days where I’ve had very little and then days where they’ve been queuing up to fill me. There’s no rhyme or reason to it, some guys like me, some don’t. Just like I like some guys and not others. 
 

I’ve learnt when going to the sauna not to expect anything. If you go thinking you’ll be walking out a dripping mess, you’re bound to be disappointed. 
 

Go, have fun but expect nothing but don’t be changing yourself and try not to dwell on why you’ve not been fucked too much. 
 

My top tip - make sure your arse is clean. 

[VersGuyAnon]

I echo what has been said already. Some weeks I go to the sauna and nothing (not even someone touching me). Other times I get plenty of action. What I do know is i do have to be in the mood, rather than just going thinking I may as well go to the sauna. I'm convinced I/we give off vibes that make a difference. 

In terms of losing weight or shaving or anything else like that ... it's up to you, but I'd say only do it if it's what you want. Don't do it to try and please others. A lot of guys like hairy arses. If I'm in top mode, I much prefer them to the stubble of a shaved arse.

I'd focus on the events you like going to, accept some days will be better than others.