The Temple Of Cum doesn't have many men who are in relationships, or if they are they're in open relationships. In other words, "Cheating" probably isn't an issue worth writing about there. So I thought I'd share some of my thoughts on the subject here, just for fun.

There was a time I was fool enough to accept the idea that Gay men should emulate the failed model of monogamy ostensibly practiced by Straight people. I consider that time 8 years of my life--especially my sex life--wasted.

Or LARGELY wasted at least.

The fact is, I cheated. And towards the end I cheated often. In fact, that's when I first discovered and fell in love with anon, Bareback gloryhole fucking.

Of course after every time I'd sneak out and score some raw loads I felt tremendously guilty. It didn't matter that my Ex and I hardly ever had sex, or that he was a douchebag in his own right; what mattered was that I was conditioned to believe "Cheating is wrong." And that cheating BAREBACK was very, very wrong because it put another at risk.

It took me a long time to call Bullshit on such naive and self-limiting ideas. What made me finally do this was realizing that the REAL error was pretending at monogamous relationships in the first place.

The fact of the matter is: Men are not constituted to be monogamous. Simple as that. It's evolution. So, to enter a 'monogamous' relationship--especially when it's two MEN--represents an act of such stupidity that it's almost not worthy of comment. It's a form of mutual self-delusion. A kind of wishful thinking best left to romantic comedies or morons.

So now when I look back, my main regret (apart of being in a relationship at all) is that I didn't embrace cheating and do it MORE often. Fact is, maybe Breeding my Ex after slutting out my own ass would have been hotter do to the secret knowledge that I was "putting him at risk."

Sex without risk isn't very fun anyway. So I'd have been doing us both a favor.

I guess the moral of the story ... There is no "Morality" in sex at all. We delude ourselves by trying to impose ethics where it doesn't belong. We limit ourselves too.

Which inspires me ... to write a post at the ToC about being an "Unethical Slut." Hmmm ... could be fun!