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Whenever I’ve bottomed, I’ve found it so so much easier and more comfortable bb. I think the pre cum really does help massively, but also the lubes which work best for me aren’t compatible with condoms. I also think my body just doesn’t like condoms or react well to them. As a top, I hate them. I can’t feel anything with them and they kill the mood. Can you even believe some guys have asked me to suck them wearing a condom?! The mere thought of it makes me feel sick! What’s wrong with some guys? Men are meant to fuck bb, it’s a fact of life. I’d never go back! The day I decided to go exclusively bb was the best day in my sex life.

Only two comments/suggestions: Item 6 "Pre-cum is a natural lubricant that gets blocked with condoms." - The main point is true, Pre-cum gets blocked by condoms. However I disagree that pre-cum is all that most people need for (comfortable) penetration. Pre-cum is nice 'n slick, delicious, etc, but some people produce only a small amount and others drip gobs of it. My experience has been that you usually need something in addition (spit, 'proper' store-bought lube, etc) to help it out. I would change it to a bullet point about condoms requiring more and different lube. Maybe re-work part of your wording in point 8 into this revised bullet point. Something like: "6. Condoms require more lube than going bare - Condoms require lots of lube, otherwise the increased friction will damage your hole and make you hurt. Sex shouldn't hurt.. Condom-compatible lubes can also be worse for the environment than regular lubes." Item 4 "The hottest porn stars don't use them.". I agree with what you're trying to go for in general, but I'd re-word it to "The hottest porn is always bareback" and re-work the rest of the line accordingly. I've seen a lot of really hot young guys in porn that use condoms. The condom is an instant boner-killer, but the guys themselves are undeniably hot. I'd also move it down towards the bottom of the list, since this is more of a subjective point, and most of the rest are more fact-based. I'd list the fact-based points first. For that reason, I'd swap points 7 and 8, and move this one to where 9 currently is (or at least after 7). In general, I like it. It's well thought out, and I commend you for bringing this point of view into your gay youth group. Gay youth, just like gay adults, need to look at all sides of an issue and make their own informed decisions, rather than just blindly do what other people in their life tell them. In school all they hear is either "always use condoms" or "don't have sex at all". You're giving them another viewpoint, and backing it up with logical reasoning. Good job! Btw in your header you mentioned that you're out to them as 'pro-HIV'. I'd stress to your group that they can be anti-condom but still not be pro-HIV. All of the points in your list are valid regardless of whether they are on PReP, or want to be come chasers like yourself. The list is all about reasons not to use condoms. Being an active chaser is an entirely different matter (though if they want to go down that road too, that's very cool :) )