Snarkybitch

When a guy is in me bare I just feel more connected to him than if there's a condom between us.

The biggest I ever took was 11". It hurt like hell at first, but then I had the most amazing orgasm. I would never want to date a guy who was that big, though.

I have to say that barebacking does feel better than using a condom, but it also feels amazing to trust someone enough to allow them to fuck me without a condom.

Depends how well I know the top. But usually I prefer my sex vanilla, but passionate.

Took 11x7 once. I was a bit drunk and very horny, so he went in fine and it felt amazing. Until I came and I felt an indescribable agony, so I demanded he stop. He did, thankfully.

If the second top wanted your best BJ, he would wait until you were not otherwise occupied. He wants you to get his dick wet, but he's mainly there to watch you take that cock in your ass. Hopefully, he wants the next ride.

Pretty much this. If I'm allowing myself to be spit roasted, I assume the guy wants me to get his dick wet so he can fuck me with only his spit and the previous load as lube.

Everyone I've ever met who was HIV+ would rather not be. It's one thing to accept seroconverting as the cost of the lifestyle you want to lead, but glamorizing the disease strikes me as unimaginably foolish and self-destructive.

Generally 'hole' or 'ass' though if I'm feeling really sleazy I'd let him call it a cunt.

Face to face, so we can kiss, and I can see how much he loves fucking me, and he can see how much pleasure or distress I'm in, and modify his conduct accordingly.

When I was first noticing guys, I always wanted their penises inside me, not really so much about having my penis in them. Though I've become more versatile, I still prefer bottoming to topping.

Yeah, if your anus is bleeding fairly frequently, you should talk to a doctor, not random guys on a website.

I like keeping the issue of personal responsibility in mind when it comes to stalthing and HIV-status.

The guy asking for the kind of sex he wants is being responsible. If you (the general you) don't want the same kind of sex, the appropriate response is to move on. It's not like it's hard to find hot guys willing and eager to go bare.

'I know better than he does what he really wants' and 'he was asking for it' are still bullshit.

That's pretty much what a rapist says, in any event.

There has to be places for men who want to live their most secret fetishes.

No. You don't get to put someone else at risk just because you think it'd be really hot. If your sex partner asks for a condom, your choices are either to use the condom or decline to have sex with them. Period. Barebacking's great, but only if all involved are on the same page; if you have to resort to deceit to bed someone, that's a sure sign you probably shouldn't be doing it.

Well, since I like to be verbal, or at least vocal, in my appreciation of the guy who's fucking me, I prefer that he return the favor and let me know how much he's enjoying himself.

You make a good point. What is up with so many bottoms wanting degradation anyway? I will do it, if that's what they are in to, along with even the physically rough stuff, hell I really enjoy it. but sometimes it seems like they really have no self esteem. I like to know ahead of time what the bottom expects. With you, I'd personally, based on this post be more cuddly, having you set the tone and pace.

That sounds awesome. From what you've posted I'd probably quite enjoy bottoming for you. And don't get me wrong, I can take a dick, and thoroughly enjoy giving pleasure to another man. But I need some foreplay to open up, and if a guy's a lousy kisser, he's just plain not getting my hole.

Would have thought, would have hoped it was illegal in each state. A scumbags action, even ina darkroom, with a guy with his ass in the air. If a bottom wants a condom then let the top use a condom, or move on. There are enough fools around to take a poz or questionable load.

Exactly. It's easy enough to find a willing hole that you don't have to bareback someone who doesn't want to. Stealthing is the vile act of a scumbag.

Also, if you want to be a better top, it might help to bottom some. It'll teach you some empathy.

I sort of approach this place by assuming that the most outlandish posts are either a fantasy or were written by a sociopath.

Yeah, the steps seem to be:

1) Find a sex club

2) Have low standards

"When a top isn't on top of me. Or when a top asks me if I'm ok."

"I hate that tops feel like they are superior to bottoms"

"My main one is when they try doing stuff with my dick."

"Kiss. I like taking your spit."

Good lord, no wonder there are so few tops--there's no winning. I think they all just gave up trying to please you lot. :-)

Different bottoms have different needs, just like different tops are different. This can't be a surprise.

Fellow Tops: Let's work together and make ass-to-mouth mandatory, just like getting head before a fuck. If a bottom doesn't want to suck your dick when you pull it out - you make him do it, no matter what condition it's in. In my experience, 99% of bottoms will suck your cock if you put it in their face, straight from their asshole or not. The more we force it upon them, the more standard practice it becomes. So bottoms - be forewarned you will be sucking sloppy dick from your hole. I suggest you clean out accordingly.

I think if a guy tried that with me I'd bite it off. I have to say I don't get this need some guys have to humiliate, degrade, and hurt the men they have sex with.

I'd find it kind of annoying. I'd put up with it if I really loved the guy and it was something he really needed to get off, but it'd probably be best to fuck me doggy style in case I couldn't stop myself from rolling my eyes. And I probably wouldn't be able to get off, so I'd have to insist he rein it in at least sometimes.

For a hookup, I'd instantly end the session.

It sounds to me like the two of you had differing needs for your relationship, and it's probably better for you two to go your separate ways. I mean, to me it doesn't seem like he was asking something unreasonable, but if it's not what you want to agree to, it may be best to end the relationship.

But reading responses from most of the bottoms in this and other threads, that would appear to be how most bottoms want to be treated. I understand though. I like those I date to be equal, and try to treat them that way. Now a fuckbud, I'll go with what turns them on, and makes them want my cock more. A random bottom, like at a bathhouse, I am more likely to not care.

I think bottoms with healthy self esteem would reject a top who thinks he's superior just for being a top, or a top who shows no consideration for the bottom's comfort or pleasure.