I don't want you guys so think this post is superficial, but Im gonna be straightforward with the problem.
Im on my late 30's ( 37 ), I consider myself a normal straight-passing guy, not ugly, not handsome, just normal.
My body is something that I don't like. I never really made sports in my life, so I have almost no muscles, and a belly, that I hate.
During my life and during my time living in the States, I don't remember lots of episodes of rejection, maybe, because I was meeting people on Grindr, or maybe because living in a small town in South Carolina the things work a little bit different.
But then, last year, I moved to Europe. And I started going to sex clubs and their sex parties. So for the first time I experienced what is rejection. and what is like to be invisible.
=(
I went to party in Berlin last night and there were probably 1000 guys inside, and nobody wanted to do anything with me, nobody looked at me.
It looks like everybody in that club was super young and super hot. and I feel that I was the only person there that was being totally ignored.
I know the place is like a meat market and everybody can one day experience rejection, but it is something that really makes me sad.
well, but my questions in this post ( and I would honestly want to hear the opinion of my > 35 guys who are not gym rats! )
- how do you deal with rejection in sex clubs / parties?
- what should I do to improve my chances of getting laid? should I start going to the gym? is it too late for that?
- I try to always wear a t-shirt at those clubs ( I don't wanna show my body naked ), is that also a turn off for guys?
thank you