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G4P, but I suspect he's bi. He's been in str8 scenes on CF as well. -- Bad news though, he's been retired from CF for awhile now. Guess not many of the guys could handle how gifted he was down there.

Remember back when you was a kid and told not to do something? It made you want to do it more so. Same logic. We're told not to bareback. We're told not to embrace our sexuality. So, it makes us want to do it more so once we are able to jump over that initial hurdle of ditching condoms.

The words bareback and safe are contradictory to one another. If you want to bareback, then you have to accept that you could possibly catch a sexually transmitted disease. If you're not willing to accept that, then you need to wear a condom and he needs to wear one as well.

With that said, there are ways to reduce the risk:

-You can have him take an Oraquick test beforehand to screen for HIV.
-Topping has less risk of catch an STD vs bottoming.
-If you're cut, you're less likely to catch an STD vs if you're uncut and you're foreskin is intact.
-Make sure to use lube. Some guys just like to spit or go in dry, but that's far more likely to result in bleeding of some kind.
-Don't brush your teeth at least 6 hours prior to engaging in oral sex. If you want to freshen your breath, use a mint or a piece of gum instead.
-If you have an anal plug at home, work on inserting that in your ass today. If you're ass is more open upped, you're less likely to bleed as a result of being anally penetrated.
-Rimming helps to make a person more receptive to anal penetration vs just sticking it in there. 

Suggestions on how to properly bareback?
-Make sure you have properly cleaned out your ass with an anal douche.
-Make sure everything is properly clean. 
-If you're going to flip flop, each partner should be allowed to cum in the other. The whole point of bareback is either you want to put your cum in your partner or vice versa - your partner wants your cum.
-Rimming and lube, makes anal less painful.
-Personally, I perfer to use poppers when bottoming. It helps to relax your anal muscles. If topping, you want to hit them right before cumming. 

Plus, in straight porn, if it is a creampie scene there is none of this pulling out stuff and putting it back in. When a guy cums in a creampie video, he generally keeps it in till the last drop is out.

Damn! That would be my ultimate fantasy. Live in Northern VA, but would be willing to move.

I called a clinic that deals with HIV that is a few counties over from me. They only deal with people with HIV and not those that want PREP. An infectious disease specialist claims she doesn't deal with PREP and was told I should visit my primary care physician.

So, that's what I did. However, she said she doesn't know what PREP is and claims she couldn't find it on her cell phone. I was told that they would try to figure out what PREP is, what steps are needed and that they would call me back later.

So right now, I'm trying to find a doctor from which I can actually get a prescription for PREP.

I've been turned on by poz guys for at least 10 years. And I used to get hit on by them all the time or they wanted to hook up, but being in my 20's and coming from a small town, I thought if I converted, I would be dead in a matter of years. So I turned down so many poz guys it isn't funny. Now that I'm comfortable with poz guys and having sex with them, it seems almost impossible to find some poz cum. How ironic. 

Same here. Initially, poz tops used to hit on me like crazy, but I brushed them off. However, the idea of taking poz cum really turned me so I started talking to poz guys. I talked to plenty of them, but then they never followed through. Had one guy who seemed serious, but I chickened out in that instance.

They do have OraQuick don't they?!? It might suck having to pay for those tests, but you or a partner could take it in the privacy of your or your host's home and have results within twenty minutes.

I'm not trying to defend Jackson Taylor, but the kid is only 20 after all. Of course, I knew how to have sex at the age of 20, but I didn't personally know all the vocabulary associated with gay sex or the culture or what not. Also, if I needed a job, I would be willing to sign just about anything to make sure I got the job even if I disagreed with or didn't fully understand it.

I guess what I am saying is, I do think it is possible that Taylor didn't know what he was getting into and I do think it is possible that TIM took advantage of his nativity. Is it illegal? No, cause Taylor was technically an adult. But just cause he is technically an adult, doesn't mean he was an adult mentally and understood everything he was getting involved with.

Was holding out wanting my first load to be poz, but

I decided to go ahead and take the plunge and take some

loads. Hooked up with an older daddy type off of Craigslist.

He breed me twice. I'm happy that I finally took some cum

in my ass for the first time even if it was Neg. Can't believe I waited so long.

Now I am ready for some more.

I guess I am the opposite of everyone here - I had the most success with Craigslist.

Sure, I've had some lousy encounters here and there, but there was one point where

I put an ad up everyday for about 4 months straight and I got laid every single day as a result.

or that will be the excuse.

i wonder how long it wil lbe before someone holds the manufacturer liable.

I'm sure they will have a thing on there about STD's, or safe sex or barebacking. You've seen those birth control pill ads and at the end they always have some kind of warning. I'm sure they will have the same thing in place.

I support the decission, but there are problems! What if it comes positive-many people need counceling after the initial diagnosis. Yes, with time people learn to live with it, but I know for myself that I would fall of a cliff in a deep depression and would need quite some time to get my head around it. It is not going to be easy for 90% of the people to accept. There is an issue also with the fact, that the test doesn't detect fresh infection and can give you the false assumption to go bareback with people you don't know(those sexy anon hookups from time to time). That being said I think it is good and necessary, because many guys have problems(no idea why) to go and get tested-I guess some of us still are afraid to be percieved as homos at the hospital.

I am sure they will offer a number that people can call in to get counseling.

Ok, it took a little cut-n-pasting, and my columns didn't line up too well, but its the first time I've used Google Sites to create a simple page.

I think I found the majority of the Cobra Boys, but very few ever did anything either before or after Cobra. Ah well...

https://sites.google.com/site/cobravideomodels/

The one I would be most interested in returning in front of the camera is Skylar Clarke. Only did 2 scenes, but those two scenes were pretty darn fantastic. He could have a real porn career as a young dom top.

It was really amazing! We were both very excited and horny because we both hadn't cum for some days. And his cock was so hot and hard after I sucked it for a while. I can't describe the feeling I got when he slid his cock nice and slowly bare up my ass. It just feels so much better, intimate and "natural" without that condom around it. I think I'll never forget the moment he shot his first load up my boyhole. It was so intense!

Fuck, my dick is completely hard again, just by writing this message

I got hard just reading that as well. lol.

If someone else wants to take over the blog, I will give it to them as I still have the option to bring back the blog for about another 30 days.

I don't bareback anymore so that's why I shut it down.

Really? But don't you also recognize that if you're negative and want to stay that way, your health is your OWN responsibility? You should know that every time you have unprotected sex, you run the risk of contracting HIV. That is simply an undeniable fact, the same way that heterosexuals know that every time they have sex, there is a risk of pregnancy even if they're using birth control. I guess it's just the litigious nature of our society, but we truly have grown into a victimized culture where ridiculous laws have been created to protect people from their own stupidity.

This sort of thing really pisses me off, and I have a big old fat zero degree of sympathy for adults who act like naive kids and subsequently blame somebody else for their own problems. For example, we all know that smoking greatly increases the risk of lung cancer, it's printed right on the package, but many longterm smokers still get sick and then try to sue tobacco companies. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out that if you drink a fifth of vodka in 15 minutes and then get behind the wheel of a car, you risk having a fatal accident, yet some people will do just that and then blame Absolut for making the shit.

\Now, if you get raped, if the sexual act is nonconsensual, it's a different story. But if you willingly lie down with some guy and don't use protection, as far as I'm concerned, the burden of responsibility is yours and no one else's. Like my grandma always said, "play with fire, expect to get burned some day." The last time I was tested, I was negative. I bareback exclusively. Not because I'm just dying to be poz, but because I crave having a guy's hot load in my guts. I don't even bother to ask staus any more, and I don't expect a guy to tell me his status. We're grown men. We all know the score, and this ain't our first time at the rodeo. I've accepted the fact that one day I will seroconvert, and when it happens, it's gonna be nobody's fault but my own.

To answer MascMountainMan's question, stealthing is not cool with me. I personally wouldn't do it under any circumstances. I wouldn't lie about my staus either, because I'm not hung up on what others think of me. Since I'm not knowigly poz, I can't say whether or not I would volunteer the information before every fuck. I do agree that theoretically guys probably should always discuss status, but I disagree that they're automatically immoral if they don't. I definitely don't believe that not telling someone is automatically a sin of omission. I think it depends on the unique circumstances of the situation, but regardless, the bottom line is that people who want to stay negative shouldn't be barebacking.

I agree and disagree all at the same time. I agree that a neg person shouldn't be barebacking if they want to stay neg. But at the same time, you have a younger generation where some of them don't even know what HIV is cause it wasn't a part of their culture growing up like it was for us. They don't necessarily know the risk going in. Or you have some guys that are bi (who mainly stay in hetro relationships) where HIV isn't a part of their thinking like it is with people in the gay community.

You pointed out something -- if you smoke, there is a warning on the pack of cigarettes. That's why I think a poz person should disclose status in almost most instances cause a person has a right to know what they are getting into. (someone who has their hole pressed up against a gloryhole or is spread eagle in a sling are exceptions where I think it is irrelvent).

Exactly. The hypothetical poz guy should never lie, but a guy hoping to have bareback sex and remain neg is unrealistic. Most guys don't want to go to all the trouble of asking all of these questions mentioned in the quote and for that reason it's a risk that they have to accept that they are taking.

Are you neg or poz & when was your last test? That's a lot of questions, huh?!? People spend a lot more time and effort trying to hook up. So a sentence and response that should take less then a minute is a lot of work?!?

Some interesting responses. So let me ask this, framing the discussion in terms of positive duties that we owe to each other:

If I'm HIV-, do I have the positive duty to explicitly ask a potential partner if he's positive or not? Or to disclose my own status, as far as I am aware of it? Do I have a positive duty to not bury my head in the sand, but to be tested regularly, so my information is up-to-date?

If I'm HIV+, do I have the positive duty to volunteer my status without being prompted? And do I have the duty to take proper care of my health, including taking steps to reduce my viral load to undetectable levels before barebacking? And should serosorting be considered a right (that someone who's HIV+ may or may not choose to exercise depending on personal morals) or an obligation (regardless of the expressed desires of the HIV- party)?

And for anyone considering engaging in gay sex, do I have the positive duty to inform myself about the risks before getting involved?

And in the context of the discussion, should we consider the impact to the broader community (for instance, insurance, whether private or public, does end up covering the costs of HIV treatment in almost all cases)? Or just limit consideration to the personal impact on those directly involved?

Tackling each paragraph one paragraph at a time ----

Neg, poz, whatever, I think status should be discussed every time. I think ALL gay men should know their HIV status and yes that includes regular HIV testing.

I think all HIV+ partners should inform any potential sex partners of their status, even if they are NOT prompted. An omission is a lie. Whatever treatment options, or lack thereof, is the right of an HIV+ person. Personally speaking I have no qualms about a poz person having sex with a neg person (or vice versa), even bareback, but I think it should be a consensual choice for both parties cause obviously there is risk for both parties and they should know what they are getting into.

That's a tough question. Even at 30 y/o I feel like I am still learning as I go along. There is so much info and misinformation out there, it is hard to truly know everything involved in all aspects of gay sexuality.

I don''t think anyone owes society anything. I think that a person, poz or not, only owes it to himself and those that are directly impacted by that person's actions.

^^^ Post an ad saying you are looking for bareback. You should get a ton of responses.

Anyway, to the question at hand, the word gangbang or orgy is probably stopping it from being listed under m4m.

I would try posting an ad saying something to the degree of bottom looking for loads, as many and as often as possible.

Then for whoever responds tell them it is a gangbang setup.

Not on BBRT, but when cruising on chat sites or manhunt, a4a, gay411. etc. I just don't get how a guy can ask for my status once I said that I bareback. Clearly neg guys who are horny but don't want to risk it! I love that they are willing to believe in my answer and that if I say neg, then I can co over and shoot in their ass. I haven't lied so far, but tempted to start. I'm undetectable but hell, why is it that it is my responsibility to assume the risk! Especially in anonymous random sex encounters, if you willing to get juice in your ass, then manup and understand the consequences. if you insecure, then just don't bareback!

Just ranting here, since posting here is like preaching to the choir (but hell, preaching to my choir feels good.)

Steve

I think their is blame, responsibility to go around on both parties, but if I had to weigh it, I would say the majority has to go onto the poz guy. You ask why is your responsibility? Simply put because you know better more so then anyone else since you are poz yourself.

Now if someone has their ass backed up against a gloryhole or in a sling in the middle of a bathhouse or sex club, that's a different story.

If someone asks and you dodge the question saying something else, that is a lie IMO because you are implying being neg. An omission, or twisting things around is a lie. Here's a little food for thought. Sometimes I don't like posting my pic on Craigslist, but I always let people be aware that I am an X-Large Chub in the ad itself, because I think any future sex partners have a right to know before I waste their time. I just wanted to see how many responses I would get if I omitted the chub part. It was at least 4 times more. Yeah, it sucks not being able to have as many men to choose film, but it is the adult, responsible thing to do. --- That's how I feel about HIV if that makes sense.

This is a sore subject for me. I believe that if you're poz, you have a responsibility to disclose your status every time you are about to bareback. HIV is a lifelong commitment and anyone that a poz person is about to fuck, has a right to know what they are getting into. Yes, it does suck and maybe you want to say it is unfair or whatever, but it is the right thing to do.

You should have token a pic of your ass for us. Maybe next time?

Cam4.com?? Go bare and make some money while you're at.