TigerMilner

I lived in Orlando for 20 years and have been to Pulse many times. My heart goes out the victims.

I list my location as South FLorida. To get more specific than that I need to know you or at least want to meet you.  This is not a hookup site so I don't care to divulge more than that. Get on Grindr if you want a guy close by.

I can make mine tight if I feel like it needs to be or if requested to do so but I find it a turn on when a top tells me to make it loose and don't tighten up.  Focusing on staying open and loose is hot and really keeps me into the fuck. 

He's a fuck buddy

Hot hole man!

Wow my score is 325.

This thread is boring. So is the OP.

Thanks for the replies. This guy isnt really the let me take the lead type. it is just weird cause i can take a good hard fisting with no issue, but this cock just hurts/. Every thrust just hurts deep in my guts. We have met twice and both times I just bite the pillow and take it. He wants to meet again in a bit so i am gonna try to lube up and stretch out ahead of time.

If it hurts it means you are not opening up for this guy. Since you can take a fist, you obviously are skilled in that area. Maybe you just don't like this guy? Maybe that is why you are not opening up for him. Could be a subconscious dislike.

I've been hooking up with this new guy who is very dominant and likes to tell me very specifically what positions to move into and when. I mean very specifically. He wants my hole at his perfect height for maximum penetration and he knows how to get there. It is hot as fuck. One thing I've noticed is that when I'm on all fours, ass up face down, he always instructs me in his deep sexy voice to put my feet together, then to put my knees together, since I instinctively spread my knees for better stability. I've never liked the position with my feet together and my knees touching and my chest on the bed. Besides being less stable, I've always felt it sort of feminizes me. I mean in that position your hips are wider than your knees and your waist, which is feminine. Maybe that is why some men like to breed in that position. You do have to give in a bit in that position because when he takes your hips in his hands and starts pounding you he is in total control of your ass. This guy and his big black cock have made me a new fan of something I never liked before.

It made me wonder? Do you do doggy style with your knees open or together? Or do you let him decide. Open lets him stand directly behind you with his legs together. Knees together lets him stand directly behind you with your feet between his slightly spread legs. Feedback? Am I the only one who thinks about crazy shit like this? Tops your feedback as well, please.

I'm a top who prefers you to be loaded...nothing feels better.  And if you aren't--well, I have cum loads in the freezer to prime the chute...

Me too!  Freak.  lol.

My daily use lube is Wet Platinum. I also enjoy vaseline for fucking and have recently been turned on to Coconut Oil. It was great.

Yeah you might be selfish, but I think it's hot. Like others have said you might not be husband material but when I'm looking to get fucked, I can always go for a man like you. Keep it up. Keep it hot. Keep coming back for more. When you find a bottom you particularly enjoy, find a way to be good to him. It's not beneath you and it will keep him coming back. Try me.

Ok, so who besides me bought a gift for a fuck buddy?

After you are there 30 minutes you will know every bottom in the place. And all three tops.

Thanks, Tiger. I'm sure if I ever hooked up with you I could just slut you out how I like.

Yes Mike, I bet you could. Try me.

Have him start out by sitting on it. Its easier on the bottom and allows him some sense of control. Once he is bouncing up and down on it, flip him over and fuck the hell out of him.  He will love it. And like Felching Pisser said, rim him first.

It is true that some bottoms are aware of the STD risks of precum. But equally true, there are bottoms who are fully aware but they tell the top not to cum inside them....for other reasons. For example a bottom told me this past summer that he uses the line ("don't come inside me") as a weapon to keep tops from thinking he's too "easy". And I recall once hearing a bottom say he uses the line because he wants all tops to know that cumming inside him is a privilege not a right!.....that way the bottom maintains some level of control over the dominance of the top. But my feeling is that there's never a good reason to tell a top to pull out.....not before and not during the fuck session. And bottoms, please don't expect be to negotiate (beg). Please don't expect me to educate you about precumming. That's not gonna happen....especially when my dick is rock hard and throbbing for your hole. That's no time to negotiate. That's no time to educate.

Fuck that snotty bitch man. Get a real man to fuck. He'll take and appreciate it.

If you want to go all in, find the nearest bath house or sex club and go on a weekend night about midnight. Its a buffet. And you might wind up the main course. It is so much less hassle than setting things up on a app or website.

I have never, and would never deny that pleasure to a man. Makes no sense. And I hate to see it in porn. Shoot the load as deep as you can get it and pound it up in there for good measure. That is what breeding is all about. I love it when a man cum's inside me. The ultimate intimate connection.

I don't know that we fear falling in love (or loving someone) so much as we fear what most feel is the inevitable heartbreak when it ends. It's easier to keep the wall up than to take the risk of getting hurt. Not letting feelings in removes the getting hurt equation. But what we end up doing is sabotaging ourselves and any potential for a relationship from the get go. If we go into it believing it will end, it will end. And that heartbreak WILL happen. I read where they did a study in regards to relationships and sex. They found that if you have sex on the first date, your chances of that relationship lasting drops to 10%. So PhoenixGeoff hit on something when he talked about trying the old fashioned dating scenario. I know that's what I've wanted to do for quite some time now. But as he stated, try finding someone else who wants that. I've had no luck. But back to the fear issue... I may be wrong, but I think getting hurt is the real fear. Yeah. We get in our comfort zones too. Don't want to change for anyone. But fear is the bitch. I think it helps keep us in those comfort zones. I'm not fully awake, so I hope this makes sense.

Don't the falling in love and the heartbreak of it ending go hand in hand? They do in my experience. And you definitely are on to something about the fear. I fear a relationship. But I also fear growing old alone. Which do I fear more is the issue.

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Steve Richards and Matt Sizemore for me. And in fact all of the others mentioned.

Matt Sizemore does it for me too. Love that fat cock and the way he growls when he cums.

So I'm curious:  what would you think if either your daughter or son decided to follow in your footsteps and go into making porn (with or without knowing about your past)?  Or if they started leading a promiscuous lifestyle like most of us here have done?

 

I will gladly cop to a total and complete double standard when it comes to sexual morality for gay men vs. straight men and women.  Behavior that seems normal to me in gay men seems creepy to me with straight guys.  And downright wrong for straight women.  Yeah I've got a double standard when it comes to men and women too...

 

I find it fascinating that you've led the life you have with two kids in the house.  I'm not sure I could do that; I'd probably feel obliged to set my own desires aside for their benefit.  Maybe that's where the double standard comes in for me...having kids (actually or potentially) really changes the calculus when it comes to sex.

 

At some point, they're probably going to find out what you've been up to.  Is that something you dread?  If not, why are you hiding it?

You raise some interesting points. First, it would depend on why they wanted to do porn and where they thought it might take them as to how I would feel about it. But, I did a better job of raising them than my parents did with me so I doubt that they would go that direction. Then again, I never expected to become a porn star in my forties either lol.

You comments about me living the life I've lead with kids in the house and about setting my own desires aside for their benefit requires commentary. First, my two youngest were only 5 & 6 years old when I became a single dad. I was also dealing with cancer at the time. Focusing on them, and their loss, was my number one priority. I became a stay at home dad so that I never had to send them to day care. They were my life. That first five years I went without sex completely. Five years. So yes, I've put my own desires aside for their benefit anytime and everytime it was necessary. To look at my internet personae would give a different impression, but that is just about getting men off. It's not a biography. I'm a damn good dad and I've got three amazing human beings as proof of that. My kids are awesome people. I believe they are who they are because I raised them with unconditional love and acceptance. They have never known neglect.

I started dating men again when they were in middle school. Not recklessly or in a promiscuous way. At least not that they ever could see. Oh sure I'm a total slut in the bedroom, but kids don't want to know that about their dad. I've relaxed a bit, maybe too much, since they have been in college. I mean they are adults now. But I realized recently that I must be more discrete for the simple fact that I don't want to set an example for them of being promiscuous. At this point they think its funny and cool that dad is hot, but I don't really want them thinking of me that way.

As for you question about my fear of them finding out about my porn career, yes I fear that. I never expected it to take off and become what it has. I have people in real life who have known me for years as a committed single dad and who also know my online identity. Some of them think it's awesome, others have asked if I've lost my mind. All I know is that I just don't want it to hurt them. I do not want to shock them. I don't think they would actually watch my videos, I mean who wants to watch their dad have sex? I just hope that if they do ever find out, that they will just be impressed by the success I've had with it. And I will position it as an erotic art experiment, and hopefully they will just roll their eyes at me and go on. It's my siblings I worry more about finding out. My kids will love me no matter what.

I also fear what it might do to my real career. Do people want to buy art from a porn star? It could ruin me. Then again, it didn't hurt Andy Warhol or Jeff Koons. Who knows, it just might be the thing that makes me valuable. I don't know. I'm just along for the ride to see where it takes me. And having a blast.

This really struck me.  Obviously the two of you had some kind of chemistry going on both sides.  But you really felt that you couldn't acknowledge that.

 

The word "love" has many different meanings.  We love our parents and (if we have them) our children.  We love our friends, though typically we don't use that word.  But real friendship is another kind of love; Cicero thought it was the best kind.

 

We're drawn to people we're attracted to sexually, something we might call lust or desire (that's what that guy Cupid is all about...desire, hence cupidity, meaning greed).  One step up from that is the hormonal experience that we often call romantic love but that is still, I think, kinda rooted in desire, just desire for the whole person, not just the appearance.  Or perhaps desire for children and family.

 

And then Christians talk about agape love, unconditional, God-like love (C.S. Lewis is the man to read about that).

 

But all of these kinds of love are really about different ways that people form bonds between themselves.  I find it really curious that you resisted expressing the reality of that bond (regardless of how one-dimensional the relationship may have been). 

 

The whole anonymous sex thing is curious too:  it strikes me as a total rejection of any kind of bonding between people, in the extreme form (darkrooms, blindfolds, gloryholes) even of the kind of lust that's entirely based on appearance.  Sex completely and totally divorced from love of any kind whatsoever. 

 

I wonder what it is about those bonds that we fear so much.

You really nailed this. Why do we fear those bonds so much. I know I often wonder if my fascination with anonymous sex with multiple partners is based a my real fear of falling in love again? My best friend pointed out to me once when I had an issue with my most regular fuck buddy who inspired this post, "It may not be a good relationship, but its still a relationship" after I pointed out the NSA part of situation. My no strings attached fuck buddy actually did have strings after about 3 years. My love for him terrifies me.

Interesting discussion here. We are seeing that there are many levels to it.

 

I do have fuck buddies, including some that I would like to see more often than I do. What makes it work is that we're both free to choose if we hook up or not. There are no hard feelings if either can't or doesn't want to fuck. Just try later. I even tell them when I'm dating someone so they know I may not be as available.

 

The act itself is simple. He asks can I fuck you? I say yes. He comes over. He fucks, cums in me, and makes a little small talk while he dresses. And then he leaves. No follow up texts. No catching feelings. 

 

I'm fiercely loyal to my longstanding fuck buddies (there are some I've been doing this with for over a decade). I don't talk about them or reveal their identities to others. They get priority over new sex partners. 

 

The only thing that's a challenge is I've got a couple of fuckbuds who are hung and I am not a size queen. I try to be diplomatic about it but sometimes all I really need is a nice 6-7 incher. I'm not always in the mood to have a telephone pole in my ass. LOL.

 

Seriously though, there's societal pressure to not have these types of fuck buddy/booty call arrangements, but I actually think they are very important. Not only are they efficient when you are both horny, but fulfilling in other ways. Admit it - we all get a bit tingly inside knowing that there are these guys out there that find us sexually attractive, that we're sexually compatible with and who think of our asses or dicks when they want to get off.  

You get where I am coming from in asking this. I know what a fuck buddy is. That was never what I wanted out of this post. But you got it. That these "Semi-relationships" are important to us. How important? You said "no catching feelings". Most of mine are that way. A few I actually like. Only really one I do things with and think about all the time. How do you keep from "Catching Feelings". I'm afraid I've already caught some. And I really do not want to have a significant relationship with this man. Yet I think about him all the time. And I have to admit, I love him. I'm not "in love" with him, but I do value him enough to call it love that I feel for him. How did I catch that. Fuck.

I've done with condom guys. Lots of lube is necessary or the two condoms kinda stick to each other and the guys don't get that amazing feeling of another hard cock slide alongside theirs. One condom one raw works better than two condoms.