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1. Insecurities and judgements in the bedroom you've gotten past.

For me, my stretch marks, when I'm not in my best physical shape, not always loving my feet (used to be a sock only, now I insist on barefeet).

2. Imperfections in a partner that don't bother you

An imperfect hole, evidence of a tag or former hemorrhoid or not being the tightest. I'll take an extended peak to make sure it isn't a wart or open cut, but I don't mind. Most body hair, scars, stretch marks at the upper thigh when back. 

I need to control when I cum

I  take too long, lose it if I hold off a bit, or don't cum at all. Its a chronic issue thats frustrating for me and my bottoms. The sex can be great but whether I cum is crapshoot these days.

How do you let your load build up and shoot when you're ready? As specific as you can be; physically, mentally, any and everything, please.

I created a similar thread awhile back in regards to cumming while bottoming. I still have the same issue but I bottom so rarely, its not as important. Tantric techniques helped me when I couldn't cum at all, but I seem to be regressing and it never fully solved the issue.

Thanks a ton.

Wish they would, absolutely. Especially Tumblr blogs. But I understand writing can be choir and not feeling inspired or satisfied with the work... especially when it’s at the whim of  readers.

2 hours ago, Pigmut said:

What does metamucil/pure do?

Bulk your stool, makes everything come out solid. Easier to clean, wipe, faster going.

Old FB’s I didn’t really appreciate when we lived near.

The over douching I used to do.

Wish I’d discovered Metamucil/Pure earlier.

On 4/14/2018 at 11:02 PM, NLbear said:

The very first time I came handsfree from getting fucked I didn't really know what was happening. I felt amazing and I was rock hard but had an incredible urge to piss. I tried to hold back because I didn't want to piss on the guy's bed while he was fucking me doggy. Thought maybe I should ask the guy to stop so I could use the bathroom. But then I saw (and felt) I was starting to leak pre-cum. Soon I couldn't control myself anymore and shot my load all over his bed. Felt incredible and I still love it when a top manages to get me to that point, doesn't happen every time.

 

Can you identify the buildup and what took you over the edge?

Thanks guys. Does the saline eventually degrade and work its way out?

He's posted himself stretching his balls and using pumps. Can anyone explain exactly what happens?

I had a fuck bud that went from nice dick, more or less average, enlarged and unnatural. It looked and felt swollen with squishy tissue when erect. Far more so than Aymeric in the pics I posted. I could barely suck it. I let him fuck me. It was a task, he could hardly keep it in and complained he couldn't feel much. I asked him what he did.. he played dumbed and didn't wanna talk about it. I have little patience for bs that insults common sense so I just let it go.

Before

After

You can get in me without much of a fuss with some mild patience but I’ve also been gangbanged and fucked for awhile and told I have a “good SnapBack” after a break or follow up rounds 

I, too have a little loose skin outside my hole for whatever reason. Careful not to tug it.

The question at hand, I tell guys to slow down when we start. I don’t like a lot of lube, the less the better, so that’s the trade off. Just as when I’m topping, I like to feel you open me up inch by inch and let me get comfortable so we can both relax and let go. I’m not abnormally tight or a whiny bottom but I do need a minute or two to stretch open.

I’ve said no. It helps when you’re with a partner or your own little group and you guys can tag and flip each other or invite others in. In my case, it’s been me and the bf in our room and others entering or getting too close. Or us in public with a friend and a group.

also having public sex, don’t mind an audience, but be respectful and keep your paws and other extremities at bay unless you’re invited in.

I shave my balls. Trim my arm pits, stomach, taint, ass, hole, upper and inner thighs. 

I leave my pubes as is. I don’t like going super low due to hair bumps and they’re too patchy and curly for a trim to really do much appearance wise. I wish they were thicker.

Other guys, I like some fur. Especially if it’s dark and curly. Not too much. If you’re naturally smooth, cool but guys who shave/wax, not too much. I love the feeling or crack hair against my dick and even when I eat ass.

3 hours ago, Chargedup said:

depends where i am. texas i’m a top and california i’m versatile and pick teams depending on my mood. can go from top to cum whore in 0 to 60 hahaah

Literal same down to the location. 

5 hours ago, einathens said:

I don't think you can or should convince someone to play raw if they don't want to. 

And I'm against stealthing.  

I think you tell them that you don't fuck wrapped and let them decide whether they want to play with you. 

This.

I’ve recently experienced this with four guys. One of which I’ve fucked before but he’s still at odds with his desire to take loads and being more conservative. 

Another, we didn’t meet due to time constraints but he suggested start wrapped and feel each other out and go from there. I was ok with that since he seemed like a solid guy.

I respectfully but firmly state my preference and it isn’t worth my time it to play wrapped or just get a bj because I won’t enjoy myself or cum. Sex should be to the benefit of both parties and everyone should be comfortable. Not reluctantly acquiescing. I’m not bullying them, nor am I using reverse psychology. These are my terms. Those are yours. I respect them. If we’re not sexually compatible, that’s that. No hard feelings. Otherwise, we can hang out outside of sex or keep it moving. 

I keep on top of my health, I’m not a chaser or indifferent to STD’s. But I’m also sexually active and do play bare. I’ve been tested recently, etc. That’s all on the table.

We mostly meet guys in apps. Meaning we’re texting and there shouldn’t be any awkward fumbling or feeling pressured. Respectfully state your desires. It’s not that difficult. For repeat FB’s, if you can’t be honest or talk about it, maybe reevaluate things.

Not being honest, directly and indirectly, is why I avoid young guys, closeted guys, and the “I never do this and I haven’t been fucked in months” pretenders. 

Lately I've had guys complain about it "hurting" and being "too much" and "uncomfortable" which I took at prostate sensitivity. 

I don't consider myself a size queen, but I do have a "golden zone" of dick size and shape I go after. In part, I'm a big guy (6'1, 220, not the most nimble) and I liked to be stretched and filled. I don't have the most sensitive prostate so thats where my pleasure comes from.

Does the way you fuck drastically change with a guy or you mostly have a routine you stick to?

Ex: you start doggy, slow and intimate, then pound, take a break, let him ride, flip him over missionary, finish off. Usually cum the same way.

Ex: same moaning/dirty talk always fuck in this spot, with this music and this lighting (when hosting/familiar)

or

Always different as you fill out a guy and try new things or just aren't as consistent.

^^I agree with fleet. I've extensively tried rubber bulbs and Clean Stream. Though I always end up clean, it usually takes far longer as I'm uncertain of just how much water I'm putting up there. Thinking I haven't gone deep enough, I fill past my curve and flood my colon a bit. Some models come with long inserts intended to release trapped pockets of water so you may find that more helpful.

With a plastic fleet bulb, I can use the saline enema if I need to but most importantly, its reusable and contains just the amount of water I need- even for big dicks and long fucks.

Remember, your rectum rests in a shrunken state and stretches to accompany solids. That means you don't need 8x6 inches worth of water.  Simply fiil your shrunken rectum and that will irritate anything thats immediately up next in the queue. Some people swear by hoses and they can be great if you can gauge and dump the water consistently, but for me-  nothing is more consistent, efficient, and easy to travel with (or buy) as simple fleet bottles.

Any of you every get tired of a regular after awhile?

Briefs and workout in jocks. 

How often do you see particular fuck buds? Once a week, once a month, multiple times a week, every few months? Why

Just left one as he was blowing me. Clearly older than stated, pics are no where near a reflection of his current looks, could smell that he just used the bathroom and cleaned out. I wanted to leave as soon as I saw him but went along with it for a few minutes and then politely said "I'm not feeling it, I'm sorry" and we got dressed from there.

Keep it in for a little bit but out when I go pee or if I have on clothes I don't wanna soil. If it wasn't much or got in dep enough, I'll let it absorb.

3 hours ago, Manmania said:

Thank you guys!  

Can you please tell more about that pill?

Pure For Men. Check Amazon. I take it for regularity and shape 

How do you respond when your top has an issue keeping a firm erection?

This tend to happens as I commonly go for guys in their early 50s. If they bottom, no problem. Tops, if its a first time hook up with not much pre planning or chatting there won't be a second time. If its a long term bud or someone I know a bit better, I'll take the top bunk. In my head, I've knocked them down a few pegs on the fuck bud list. I have one guy that I'm seeing next week and  I plan to mention it and will provide a Cialis or Viagra if he's comfortable with it. He was a great tight when I first got to know him. Good size, passionate, connected, but can't keep wood these days so I end up topping or limited his top time and then flip him over.

Messy bottoms: unless we hit it off really well, there won't be a second time.  I'll normally rinse off and excuse myself. Later on in the relationship, once or twice, no biggy, go clean up and we'll finish another way. If it consistently happens, I demote or remove people down my mental fuck bud hierarchy. One guy I don't see anymore because he's made a mess and shown that he doesn't clean or know how to (guess the first clean time was a fluke) AND he suffers from ED. Sucks cause I'm quite attracted to him.

Btw, as a top, I can tell when you didn't make an effort to clean out or when you "missed a spot" or put too much water up there. Either way, I have no problem with you saying "you're unsure" or "not today."