Decreased sex drive-- WHY?

[bosguy]

Hey guys--

quick question, I need to see if anyone else has experienced this:

I used to be a total slut, and I loved every minute of it. From the time I was 18-24, I used to love taking dick totally sober, from any hot guy, and loved loads/cum/ etc. From 24-25, I started parTying. It was never too much of a problem (didn't ruin my life, I still have a job and was in school), and I fucked a ton of hot guys and got even more loads. I recently met someone without the aid of a computer and hooked up with him sober, and for the past couple of months have only been into this one guy. We're not dating, it's casual, but my sex drive w/ other guys has gone down considerably (essentially no sex). It's like I'm scared to dive into the random raw fuck pool again. I know the fear has nothing to do with catching diseases, drug overdose, or anything like that....it just all stopped being for me.

I'm not saying all of that to complain, or brag, I'm just wondering if this has happened to anyone else. Is is temporary? I loved my old life, but I'm totally content now; it just seems strange to go from one extreme to the other, and am looking for advice wherever I can get it.

Thanks guys, and happy fucking!

[slowfuck]

From what you say it seems he's become a fuck-buddy and being with him feels really special and warm and comforting and you don't want to jeopardise that by screwing around and pissing him off. I've felt that with guys before.

[Totop]

Sounds like you found what/who you were looking for without realizing it and the rest ceased to matter.

[calrockxxx]

Yep I've had that happen a couple of times with guys I've met outside of the context of sex parties and the like. Both guys were not supportive of my slutty ways though and we just kind of drifted apart.

I've discovered I don't like the friends with benefits thing either - I prefer to have friends for social and emotional support, and that gets awkward for me when I need support and all I get is "I want you to come over and cum in my ass." it actually makes me not want to have sex, and that's saying something. I pretty much keep my sex life and social life separate these days. It's kind of odd sometimes, and a few guys have moved from one to the other over the years, but it always changes the nature of the relationship for me. I still enjoy the occasional cuddle or sleepover but it's always in the context of some piggy bareback fucking. Enjoying someone's company is one thing; dating is something else entirely.

[bigdick4you]

u found someone who fullfills u emotionally and physically... thats the best of both worlds! dont question it... but embrace it...i would give anything in the world to fid that special someone...

[Totop]

u found someone who fullfills u emotionally and physically... thats the best of both worlds! dont question it... but embrace it...i would give anything in the world to fid that special someone...

To the OP, just be sure that the other person is aware how you feel and reciprocates else you might end up devastated. Especially if you invest a lot of time & emotion only to realize that you aren't going to get any back.

[pulszer]

Sometimes you do slow down a bit as you get older. Meth use can also damage your ability to feel pleasure in the long term, which might have some baring on your sexual appetite.

[bosguy]

thanks guys! It's nice to hear that other people experienced this. It's a weird transition, but it's exciting to see what happens! Again, happy fucking, friends!!

[JohnnieB]

for me, i think the decrease is due to age and finding the love of my life. the only time we fuck with others is when we party and that is rare. still love sex but don't feel the need to pursue with the fervor that i once did.

[Bangme]

For me, it was due to age, home ownership, fast pace business world working for a global 500 company. Another reason is the game playing that goes one. I have better things to do with my time. There is a part of me that wants to get out and fuck every weekend. I've been single for the past 10 years and sometimes want to go out and be the slut that I was in my twenties, a cock up my ass every night. I've even thought about going to the steamworks in Berkeley and being used as a cumdump. At 55, I'm sure that won't happen as I am considered an "old troll", a term I have always hated as I have always been attracted to sexy older men. When the weekend arrives, all I want to do is rest and spend quality time with friends. The thought of std's is always in the back of my mind. So many guys don't take care of themselves. I'm screened every quarter as part of my medical check up with my doctor. Even though I have not had sex in over a year.

[slowfuck]

At 55, I'm sure that won't happen as I am considered an "old troll", a term I have always hated as I have always been attracted to sexy older men. When the weekend arrives, all I want to do is rest and spend quality time with friends. The thought of std's is always in the back of my mind. So many guys don't take care of themselves.

Ok, so I'm older than you, but you are hardly an old troll. You obviously look after yourself. Hot (bottom) Daddy more like

[Bangme]

Thanks Slowfuck! Thank you so much for the compliment. You are one Sexy Hot Man!

[gnaustin]

older guy here, not a lack of sex drive, just can't seem to get it up anymore....love to bottom so getting it up is not that big a deal

[NastyRigPig]

Problem can be twofold. HIV and meds can affect testosterone level, you might want to have that checked. Also, crystal meth does affect brain chemistry. If your using with any regularity, your brain ceases to produce serotonin. That is what makes you 'feel good'. There is a dietary supplement which can help, 5 htp.

My recommendation, (take it for what its worth, an internet forum) is to stop using for 6 weeks or so, take the 5 htp, and try cleansing by running, eating right, etc.

Please note, I am not an anti pnp zealot, as evidenced by my name, its just that I've finally gotten to the point where I can be more moderate about my usage.

[bearbandit]

It's also worth getting your blood glucose levels checked out (in the UK most pharmacists will do it for you). Ideally, you need to do it around nine in the morning without having eaten or drunk anything since midnight: a result of between 4 and 7 would rule out diabetes. Diabetes has a nasty habit of destroying the nerves with control getting a hardon which is why the National Health Services will give men with the problem eight Viagra a month, but you have to ask for them. If you're +ve and taking atazanavir you'll probably only get half dose tablets, but there's an interaction between the two which means that the effect of the viagra last up to two days.