Cruising rules and tips

[beginnerslut]

Tonight I went cruising for the first time. It is something I have thought about for a while and something that turns me on a lot. I live very close to a prime spot, so tonight, armed with an odd spike in confidence, I walked to the park and I sucked off two guys. I could have sucked off a dozen or more - I have never felt so lusted after in my life. (The perks of being a slim guy in his mid-twentys.) But after two, the shame set in. Honestly I still feel a bit like I did back in my religious days when I would look at gay porn - now I have a secret and if people know I would loose a lot of respect. And, I have done something that is a bit more on the risky side, which is not typical for me. (I may love bareback porn and talking about it, but I have decided that I would like to do my best and remain STD free.)

I really enjoyed the experience though. So much that I would like to do it again. So much that even after I said I was done, I chatted it up briefly with another guy, although he turned out to not be very cute so nothing happened. So if I am going to do this, how can I do it safely? And what is the etiquette around sex in this context? Obviously the basic answers would involve- 1) Check the cock for sores or anything, 2) use a condom if fucking, 3) ask if they have anything? But in the thick of the trees and bushes it gets dark, and you can't easily see the cock so something small might to unnoticed, do you just pull out a condom for them to use if you decide to fuck, and it seems weird to ask them anything since no one is talking. So how does one go about these things? What is acceptable and what is considered rude?

I have some other questions as well, these ones more general, such as what if I am not interested in continuing? Tonight I just said, "I think I'm done and walked away" to one guy because his dick was fucking huge and my mouth got tired... I guess I need more practice. As for the guy I didn't end up fooling around with, I said to him, "Well I think I'm going to head home," after we started talking. It was true, but what if in the future I just see a guy up close and don't want anything? What do you do or say? Also, while I was sucking on one guy, there were other guys watching. I thought it would be hot to have another join in, but how do I initiate that?

I must say though, I had a lot of fun tonight and experienced something I have been wanting to try for quite a while. I will be excited to go out again!

[vrsbbltn]

I pretty much felt the same when I started going to cruising sites. I'd say that if you are concerned about getting any STD, better advice is to always use a condom, no matter how "normal" the guy looks or what he tells you. Nevertheless, going to such places is so exciting, you might be very tempted to start doing even riskier things, so maybe you should have your STD tests done, and if you are free of them, then look for a bf who is STD free as well so there's a "lower" chance of getting one or more of them.

Many times, when it's dark, we don't fully get to appreciate how the man we are approaching or who is approaching us looks like, and even takes some time, talk a bit before figuring it out, and many use lots of camouflage, wear clothes that cover them all but their hands, then use hats, so you got to see only his hands and part of his face, I usually avoid these ones; if this is the case all I do is to talk a bit more, then making up some fake story as "good to meet you, but I gotta go", or ask him first what he likes, if he says, for example "I like to fuck I'm a top", then you say "I'm sorry but I am a top too this wont work", another thing I do is to act like I am nervous then I say "I'm sorry I'll keep walking around I'm too nervous right now, "I'm afraid of getting caught by police", also "there's some people coming, or some people around, I feel uncomfortable will leave".

If you are already engaged in a sexual act and for any reason you wanna leave, maybe you got tired, bored, lost interest, or he is not so good at it, smells bad, or whatever, I do basically the same, start looking very often all around, then say "I think someone is around, I'm sorry lets stop it I feel uncomfortable". It's all about making up a story which seems to be true, or even though he knows its fake, he wont feel bad about it. You will find out your own ways of dealing with different situations; stories will be varied if you really will leave, or if you will keep looking for other guys around. From my experience I know guys get mad when suddenly leaving, with attitude, or you demonstrate you are angry because he is not what you were looking for, a fake story, plus being nice and humble, with some acting is preferred.

[HolePunchSD]

Be direct. Period.

If a guy is cruising you and you're not interested. Simply say so. We all can appreciate the guy that says, "I'm not interested, but thanks." Straight forward. Honest. Direct.

Whereas trying to cook up some lame-assed excuse makes you seem childish and pretentious. You say you live close to your cruising area, so perhaps if you meet a guy and you're interested then simply go back to your place. Or even still, ask if he knows a better place.

But man, if you're feeling guilty about cruising then maybe cruising isn't for you. But you should also understand that engaging in "risky behavior" requires that you acknowledge the--um, RISKS involved. And by acknowledging the risks and continuing any way means that you ACCEPT those risks and you will deal with them like a responsible person.

[vrsbbltn]

Being direct is the way to go with any situation, but when dealing with potentially traumatized men we don't know, it's hard to be direct, I've had a couple of bad experience with that, some just can't deal with been directly rejected (even in a nice way) and could become dangerous or make stupid comments, so that's why some psychology is preferred. When if it's online at some hooking up site, it's much easier to be direct, and there's always the ignore button. So I'd say, find your own way of dealing with things you don't like, whatever makes you comfortable.

[kpig]

as far as being ashamed goes when i was in my early 20's i was the biggest slut whore that ever got down on all four ( i like to think ) but in every other aspect of my life i would have been described as pretty damn manly ( was an apprentice iron worker ) even by hetro sexual men but instead of being ashamed i got ironic enjoyment secretly knowing that people would be shocked and disgusted if they really knew what this classic example of american manhood did in his free time.and with cruising thing its my opinion that when you start placing all sorts of rules and requirements on it that removes what makes it hot,there has to be some element of danger to that type of thing

[beginnerslut]

Went back tonight. Sucked off three more guys.

This is going to be addicting

[BrotherDeposit]

Be sure to post the RAW loads going into your cunt.

[spannergrip]

Being direct works more often than not. It has opened up some amazing hot experiences, a few great regular fuck buddies and a couple of good mates. Highly recommend being direct. Can also be direct about what you aren't into as well as what you are into.

I've had some amazing wonderful outdoor sessions.

[albentley]

Yes. Agree direct and confident can be very good. But also indirect, shy new cruisers are a real turn on too. Nervous guys being introduced to the pleasures of mansex get me hard every time.