Question to fisting bottoms

[pata]

I am a relatively inexperienced fisting top.

I tried only one bottom. He is a nice guy. Very cute, submissive and Poz.

He has been playing around quite a bit and I learned a lot from him.

My hand is small he can even take both of my fists (on my lucky day!)

I learned that fisting is not all like the porn scenes. It's more delicate and I need to follow the bottom's lead.

If you don't want blood puddle in the bedroom , you have to be careful and watch the bottom's face all the time.

It's very intimate experience and I liked it a lot. Also he can tighten up his hole amazingly and I love to fuck him too

However, he's not much into fucking itself...well, still let me fuck him before and after fisting.

My question is, usually how long do you play?

My bottom boy is an experienced one and my hand is small but still he can take it about 20 min.

When he is done, he's done. He does not seem interested in cumming. Sometime he let me fuck him a bit but does not seem into it either.

Also, whenever I pull out my fist, we should start from the first. One finger, two finger...slowly....

I understand it's very demanding physical activity for the bottom (that's the part I appreciate a lot)

But is it usual? Once you are used to it, do you still need to be this slow? And can you play extended period? Like at least an hour?

I don't think a lack of practice is an issue here. He's old enough (50 something).

I still love to play with him, but I want to know what others are like.

Thank you in advance!

[kpig]

i've been fisted for hours at times,generally a top starts out slowly and works my hole opens ( which doesn't take long ) once open the intensity goes way up and ends in punch fucking

[AlwaysOpen]

As a fist bottom, I can take a fist for anywhere from 20 minutes to 2 hours. All really depends on the setting, the man , and the body. One thing my Alpha trainer did that really helped me out was banning poppers from the action. No other drugs or alcohol either. When I take a fist, most of the time it is cold stone sober and focused. When I did poppers, I would cramp after 20 minutes and play was done. Since dropping the poppers, I have had men use my hole for 90 minutes at a stretch, most of that time punch fisting my hole. I think the desire of the bottom to GET fisted hard and long is the first step in longer play. I was fisted out on the patio of a latin bar last week- the 1st guy who fisted me had been in my hole before and knew his way around. He passed my hole off to another guy, who got in and played, but a tad awkwardly - more due to the angle of his hand entering as he stood off to the side of me while I was between the legs of the original fister sucking him off. Since the 1st guy was using me, I was totally open and accepting of the other guys fist and later found out it was that mans first time ever fisting- if I had known that prior to play I might have been tenser and the action could have been less- but since my headspace was to be in service to the 1st man, my level of adaptation/relaxation was higher and , in fact I took the newbie in my hole again later inthe evening

One big thing- make sure you have GOOD lube- I have been using the fuck out of Grease by Swiss Navy recently after testing it for them. I also rely on J Lube. But if you try to go cheap and use KY or something like baby oil that has fragrance blended in, you may be irritating the bottoms hole and after 10 minutes a raw or tender spot from friction or the add ins to the lube like preservative or scent will bring play to a fast end.

Do you use dildo's before fisting? I have a few a regular uses on me- but if I have not really rinsed the Dawn detergent off them from the clean up after last play, I find my ass shuts the door as fast as they go in. And then I have 1 I used to use, but something has been absorbed into it or a chemical change has occurred to it- it no longer is in the play chest- just pushing it in caused my hole to spasm and cramp and stop any play- after the 3rd time it happened I made the connection that it was THAT dildo, and it has been retired

Hope this gives you some answers- if not hit me back and I will try to stumble thru and answer for you. A good connection makes both men very happy

[bearbandit]

I used to get guys referred to me to learn to get fisted because of two things: I have small hands and I know when not to push it. Fisting more, than any other sort play, puts the bottom in control because if you fuck up while fisting, there's a good chance of serious injury. In my opinion, it's the one time that the bottom guy is in control. Be guided by him and his limits. It's something I've always wanted to take further, but haven't had the chance: coincidence time - the one time I did take a fist (and oh fuck I can't express the pleasure, the vulnerability, the trust, the "please Sir, can I have some more") it was from a guy I'd given his first fist...

[ffoz]

does anyone do fisffest? hope to get there next year (june 2014). maybe get to a poz party.

[AlwaysOpen]

Hey - looking for some insight along the fist fuck lines-- I get fisted fairly regularly- maybe 1 x a week or so-- but I have an issue I don't really know a work around for- so hope someone else does.

I had a FF top take my hole last week- XL hands- and he got right in and went to work on my hole- he is def working up to getting 2 hands in. 90 mins of play, then we did the beach for a few hours ( nude beach- he had me lay on my front so my greasy and gaped ass would be out there for any gawkers walking by to see) We went back to his place and went back to the play room for another hour-- I ended up getting another load from him, as well as a heavy fisting- but I was pretty uncomfortable all the rest of the night and much of the next day- not from the stretch- but from all the air that ended up getting pushed deep up inside- I think I was farting fist air for 24 hours. So, do any of you have any tricks or techniques that help keep the air out or at least evicts it as it enters ?