bearcubboy Posted August 6, 2013 Report Posted August 6, 2013 ok here goes I have been chatting with a guy on BBRT for about six months we finally met I went to his place were we talked for a substantial amount of time (family, work, Russia and the treatment of gays) before we went to his room to fuck. I really like this guy. he is nice incredibly good looking and is sweet. the only barrier in this that I can figure out is that he is Poz and I am as far as I know Neg. He has basicly been diagnosed with it just over a year and is still dealing with it. He did mention in one chat that if he pozzed someone he would not be able to live with himself afterwards. I understand his concerns and am sympathetic to them. I talked to my room mate who is HIV+ and he told me that most newly diagnosed poz guys have real issues dealing with it. What do I do any help will be appreciated
nastybottom Posted August 7, 2013 Report Posted August 7, 2013 Have you talked with with him since? I would start there and feel out how he is doing.
headnurse20 Posted August 7, 2013 Report Posted August 7, 2013 Just be there to talk and more importantly listen to him. Encourage him to open up about what he is feeling. Hope he is getting some counselling as well.
Guest JizzDumpWI Posted August 7, 2013 Report Posted August 7, 2013 Talk to your STD clinic and doc and get YOURSELF on PrEP regimen. With copay assistance programs it may cost you little to nothing. That will assure both him and you that he won't be converting you; and give you two some freedom as well. I assume he is on HIV meds. On PrEP, you will be too. So to that extent you'll be on somewhat equal footing. Beyond that, exactly as the others so far have posted. Be available. Give him an outlet to process what he is feeling. Be honest with him (but not cruel). And give both of yourselves and outlet to not spend all your time focusing on that one virus.
bearcubboy Posted August 7, 2013 Author Report Posted August 7, 2013 he never made it an issue, I actually forgot until we were in bed together and he asked me "are you okay with everything". I replied "Yes" and didn't go any further (usually I go on and on and on) I thought this is not the time and place for that
bearcubboy Posted August 7, 2013 Author Report Posted August 7, 2013 yes he is on meds and is undetectable
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