losttop Posted April 1, 2014 Author Report Share Posted April 1, 2014 I collected all of your threads below for you to see just how long you've been ranting. Perhaps you might try updating one of the many threads you have started about this guy instead of creating a new one every time. Just sayin'. October 2012 https://breeding.zone/threads/16708-Should-I-feel-guilty October 2012 https://breeding.zone/threads/16855-Is-this-normal January 2013 https://breeding.zone/threads/18455-Do-I-expect-too-much January 2013 https://breeding.zone/threads/18694-Am-I-changing February 2013 https://breeding.zone/threads/18820-Is-it-over July 2013 https://breeding.zone/threads/21961-Moving-on August 2013 https://breeding.zone/threads/22359-Ups-amp-downs August 2013 https://breeding.zone/threads/22565-Why-do-I-get-bored-so-easily October 2013 https://breeding.zone/threads/23607-Am-I-the-only-one-who-finds-this-strange November 2013 https://breeding.zone/threads/24086-Still-miss-him March 2014 https://breeding.zone/threads/25904-Is-he-worth-it Not all the threads r about him if u read it.... A few r about me.... Don't know why u would take the time to sort it out if it bothers u... Just sayin... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted April 20, 2014 Report Share Posted April 20, 2014 To BBZH: Agree with You! You hit that nail right on the head. Someone needs to go get his head shrunk—go visit the psychiatric center! To lostbtm: You need to go see a shrink already and get that head shrunk! And then, after your shrink has shrunk your mental disturbances, let's focus on how we can do a better job in collecting our thoughts and allowing only one alter be the designated forum poster. & all I really hear over and over is: 1) How badly he has treated you, which is the dominant aspect of your tellings (a cry for sympathy and attention? hello forum!) yet, you are still clinging desperately to a thread that links to nothing. So you write about it, people cry with you, and then, when they give you advice you... 2) MAKE EXCUSES. That isn't a surprise because that's a typical textbook progression from number 1. If you're going to not listen and take in people's advice, or somewhat give them a try then you don't really want to cut that thread—because you love it too much! Writing and writing and not making a change = a frustration of purpose. The purpose as to why you seek reach out for help or start discussions with others is to achieve some sort of resolution & changed to your issue. If not true then, why there are there so many postings? 3) You've suffered some sort of past trauma, or experienced an upbringing in early childhood development that has caused you to be this way. Where the only attention, expression for love that you had was so negative and abusive that your love meter only can recognize something like a: turbulent, abusive, and dark emotional relationship? You can't cut the thread because when someone treats you badly or people on the forum gives you attention you feel loved. If you want change you gotta stop letting that yapping excuse machine run the show, then pick your sagging nuts off of the ground, put some highlights in your ego and lift your head up and be somebody. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest JizzDumpWI Posted April 20, 2014 Report Share Posted April 20, 2014 In the book "Games People Play" (Eric Berne 1964) this is the "yes but" game. The OP might find value in reading that book, then taking counter measures. But he won't.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
losttop Posted April 20, 2014 Author Report Share Posted April 20, 2014 To shadowgames: think u should lighten up m8! Seems like u have mental problems urself....will turn this thread around and ask: why the fuck should YOU care!? U live in LA and r sending me to c a shrink? Lol! Lighten up people.... When I go on here it's mainly to vent and have some feedback about some issues of mine...don't want u guys to change my life....am very capable of doing that on my own! Besides have good life with good job and am surrounded by good friends and plenty FB,s....and don't need to pick up my sagging balls.... They r quite firm... Maybe can prove it to u while u bite the pillow... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest JizzDumpWI Posted April 21, 2014 Report Share Posted April 21, 2014 Lost top... Save that your posts are all essentially the same, and when anyone responds you do a "yes but". You may not be seeing it but you have been in the same place for well over a year. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest JizzDumpWI Posted April 21, 2014 Report Share Posted April 21, 2014 Lost top... Save that your posts are all essentially the same, and when anyone responds you do a "yes but". You may not be seeing it but you have been in the same place for well over a year. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
losttop Posted April 21, 2014 Author Report Share Posted April 21, 2014 Lost top... Save that your posts are all essentially the same, and when anyone responds you do a "yes but". You may not be seeing it but you have been in the same place for well over a year. I post and also reply to other posts on here.... Won't deny that I can take it a bit far regarding this guy.... But it's ultimately my decision ....just think it's bit strange that some guys on here need to be offensive towards me.... If it bothers u just don't respond to it. Have to thank u for just giving ur opinion without becoming offensive .... U bring ur point across and that's just fine... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mayhem Posted February 5, 2015 Report Share Posted February 5, 2015 Not here to be popular or say that I'm good guy and he is asshole... Of course there r always 2 sides to every story...u r missing the point... Not trying to make myself look good and saying that he is an asshole.... And u r right people only treat us as bad as we allow them.. Not saying that he treats me badly.... Just saying that he can be inconsiderate...all in all of course he is nice guy.... Why else would I choose to consider him a friend above all? I don't like how he makes me feel sometimes and I'm allowed to vent about this.... If u don't like it.... Please don't respond to my threads and move on... I also find it kind of strange how you seemingly post about these situations seeking advice of some kind, but as soon as anyone offers some -- and so far, it's all been pretty on point advice! -- you immediately go on the defensive. Useful, worthy advice requires complete honesty first; if you need everything to be sugarcoated for you, then you're certainly not going to get any meaningful answers in return! Then there's your seeming non-commitment to how you've presented his supposed treatment of you. You claim that his "analysis" of your suggested you like being abused, and you thought that might be true...but then you turn around and say that you're not trying to make it seem like you're the good guy and he's not. You claim you're not trying to suggest he treats you badly...but then say he can be inconsiderate towards you. Then you say he's actually a nice guy...but you don't like how he makes you feel. So, if you want us to take you seriously it would help if you were at least honest with yourself first, and get over this inner conflict you seem to be having over whether or not he actually is a good guy. Coming to terms with that first is crucial here. So, I know you'll hate this answer since it's already been suggested several times, but counseling of some kind is probably your best bet, especially since you don't seem particularly capable (and I really don't mean to be insulting in any way, but there definitely seems to be a pattern emerging based on your posts) of coming to terms with this issue yourself. It's really pretty simple: you genuinely hate feeling conflicted over him and need someone to really show you that yes, you absolutely must cut off all ties with him if he's making you feel this bad or torn over it, OR you subconsciously DO enjoy the abuse and don't actually want to move on from him (even though you still should do so). It's ultimately all up to you, man. You can keep playing these mind games with yourself and let the cycle repeat itself over and over, or you can get serious and actually do something about it. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wroxguy Posted February 5, 2015 Report Share Posted February 5, 2015 In summary - you can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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