About to have first experience...

[Rosebuddy]

Hello fellow anal lovers. 

Not quite sure what to say here, I guess I'm just looking for some comments and advice.

I've been talking to someone for a few weeks now over the net, messaging back and forth and we've gotten comfortable enough to want to take it to the next step and meet this weekend.

We now exchanged phone numbers recently. We live close enough and he is able to host.

I really like his persona and so far it is the situation I've been looking for.

My number one kink/fetish is anal gaping/rosebud/prolapse just all around sloppy mancunt gaped as much as possible. 

He is into fisting but not off the bat hardcore. Slow, passionate gaping leading to primal release.

I am VERY new to sex with men, having only sucked cock. I have alot of experience with women and anal though. 

Any advice you can give me? I know everyone is different obviously, and I confessed to him my very limited male experience so he is aware, but is it normal when playing with his hole to stroke his cock? Is it normal to slap my cock on his hole, to rub our dicks together? 

Again, I know its impossible to tell what the other wants, but is it normal/expected to want my cock sucked while playing with his hole? 

Thanks! 

[Arcaner]

Some guys like their cock played with while you're working their hole, others just want to focus on their ass.  He'll let you know.  Main thing, don't play with his dick while doing the initial insertion, or actively stretching.  Having your cock worked can cause you to tighten up your hole.

[UKFFBBBtm]

Don't rush, it's not about getting your fist in the hole, it's about enjoying the experience and journey.

Plenty of lube. In fisting there is no such thing as too much lube. Whilst you think there is plenty on your hand it can and does feel completely different for the bottom and can feel dry so lube up.

Ignore all porn you've seen about fisting. Almost all fisting porn showing just a little bit of playing with the hole and then deep fisting is not only done by experienced guys both top and bottom, but they have been playing and warming up long before the scene they show on film.

Start slow, too fast too soon will end the fist session and you'll never be asked to come back.

More lube.

Feel the hole react to your hand. Every hole is different, some can go in straight, some need to start straight and then have the hand/fist rotate or angle one way or another, the bottom will tell you what's good and what's not but so will the hole.

Check what they want you to do if their hole clenches and tries to push out. Some guys will want you to keep your fist in that place and gently push against it and then be sucked in when they relax, some will want you to pull out. 

Have I mentioned Lube yet?

[Rosebuddy]

On 10/2/2023 at 12:36 PM, UKFFBBBtm said:

Don't rush, it's not about getting your fist in the hole, it's about enjoying the experience and journey.

Plenty of lube. In fisting there is no such thing as too much lube. Whilst you think there is plenty on your hand it can and does feel completely different for the bottom and can feel dry so lube up.

Ignore all porn you've seen about fisting. Almost all fisting porn showing just a little bit of playing with the hole and then deep fisting is not only done by experienced guys both top and bottom, but they have been playing and warming up long before the scene they show on film.

Start slow, too fast too soon will end the fist session and you'll never be asked to come back.

More lube.

Feel the hole react to your hand. Every hole is different, some can go in straight, some need to start straight and then have the hand/fist rotate or angle one way or another, the bottom will tell you what's good and what's not but so will the hole.

Check what they want you to do if their hole clenches and tries to push out. Some guys will want you to keep your fist in that place and gently push against it and then be sucked in when they relax, some will want you to pull out. 

Have I mentioned Lube yet?

Very informative! Thank you! I agree it is about the journey, luckily thats what I enjoy most - the work through and lead up to.

So....

* Pay attention to how they react and adjust accordingly - ✅️

* Lube - ✅️

* Discern their reaction between their body and their hole, act accordingly - ✅️

* More lube!! ✅️🙂

[Rosebuddy]

On 10/2/2023 at 12:02 PM, Arcaner said:

Some guys like their cock played with while you're working their hole, others just want to focus on their ass.  He'll let you know.  Main thing, don't play with his dick while doing the initial insertion, or actively stretching.  Having your cock worked can cause you to tighten up your hole.

Good advice! Thank you!