2 questions from a fag pussy bottom

[Cumcatcher21]

1) why do guys freak out when you like your hole to be called a pussy? Or when you like to be degraded/humiliated while being fucked?

2) tight hole needing to be loosened. I hate fingers bc of the nail bed feeling, and toys seem to hurt. But even when I’m virgin tight my pussy loves a cock in it and eventually will relax! Any recommendations?

[Alexpdx]

1) everyone has different kinks - I’ve had plenty of guys who love calling my hole a pussy and degrading me while they use me. But some guys are really heterophobic and the idea of an actual pussy is a big turn-off as is the idea of degrading their partner. You have to know your audience and proceed accordingly or pre-sort for those who appreciate your kinks. 
 

2) I also find fingers to be the worst warmup - people don’t realize how rough the skin on your fingers is!  I use a series of completely smooth silicon plugs with lots of lube to open up. I start with a really slim one (narrower than a finger) and work my way up to some fairly large ones and lubing generously means by the time I get to the big ones, I’ve got a fair amount of lube in deep. 

[wallacemartini]

To "yes and" alexpdx, the anal trainer kits with plugs that increase over time is the best warm up. 

[BootmanLA]

On 10/26/2024 at 2:23 PM, Alexpdx said:

1) everyone has different kinks - I’ve had plenty of guys who love calling my hole a pussy and degrading me while they use me. But some guys are really heterophobic and the idea of an actual pussy is a big turn-off as is the idea of degrading their partner. You have to know your audience and proceed accordingly or pre-sort for those who appreciate your kinks.

Agreed, though it's not just heterophobia at work. Some tops call it "pussy" because they think it's degrading for the bottom to be compared to a woman, and frankly, I have no patience for that. If a man's purpose in calling my asshole "pussy" is to establish some sort of dominance, then my hole isn't for him. (It's not the dominance I object to; it's the equating submission with female genitalia that I won't tolerate.) That said, if it works for two other people, more power to them.