Questions about fucking trans men

[polyglutton]

I'm not sure where to post this (mods please feel free to move this to a more appropriate page if needed). I have a few questions and I hope I've worded these respectfully, however this may come across as uncouth or basic. I support trans rights all the same  

I first became aware of trans men on Scruff about 12 years ago. I occasionally see trans guys that catch my eye, but I've never felt like I would be interested  because I prefer a cis male penis (incidentally this is the same reason I'm turned off by cis men wearing chastity devices), and have never felt an attraction to the more ample versions of labial folds (I wish I didn't have this reaction, it feels stupid). While I trust the findings of sexologists that show most humans fall within the spectrum of bisexuality, I'm happy being on the far gay end of it. With that said, I don't like to set arbitrary boundaries for myself.

The other reason has been fear of unintentionally getting a trans man pregnant, as I have a strong disinterest in having actual children (despite having a breeding/mpreg kink, go figure).

When I first started my sexual life, I was fully versatile but due to various circumstances I transitioned to predominantly a power bottom by my 30s. Despite this, I've never given up my  desire to get back into topping. Some circumstances shifted early this year, and I've since been finding my way back into it. The more I top, the more I want it, and it brings out an almost devilish impulsive hunger that has genuinely surprised me. Turns out I'm not just a power bottom, but a power top with comparable endurance. Still, my range in who I want top is narrower (attraction to face, chemistry, kissing, etc.) than whom I will be into bottoming for (really broad 🐷).

I get into periods where all I can think about is topping, and it's distracting. I get so horny to breed at times that I start thinking entirely with my cock. Suddenly today I saw a trans man on Scruff and was surprised to find myself contemplating hitting him up. 

Because I want to treat trans people with respect, I don't want to ask them questions that could come across as impertinent. My big question is how to ask the question about pregnancy risk? Maybe it's no big deal to simply ask, but if any trans men have advice for me, I'd be very grateful for any input. I only fuck bare and I don't pull out to cum. 

[FelchingPisser]

 

11 hours ago, polyglutton said:

Because I want to treat trans people with respect, I don't want to ask them questions that could come across as impertinent. My big question is how to ask the question about pregnancy risk? Maybe it's no big deal to simply ask, but if any trans men have advice for me, I'd be very grateful for any input. I only fuck bare and I don't pull out to cum. 

I have played with a number of transmen.  I even made porn with three of them. 

If a transman is taking his testosterone, he can't get pregnant.  One of the guys I was filming with had stopped taking it for long enough he had become fertile again, so we couldn't do the interior cum shot the director hoped for.   Which means you do have to talk to the guy.  I think you can still be very respectful in how you broach the subject.  Frame it that you are looking out for him.  

[transferal]

I wouldn't normally look at this forum. Just happened to see it because it's top posted. Most trans guys who can't get pregnant are just going to be mixed in with cis gays and the "Fem trans" label is a poor fit.

I have a trans history. I don't really ID strongly as trans. I have a background in health, specifically trans health. Even as a healthcare worker it's something I have had to be sensitive about.

There's not really a one standard way. Different guys have different levels of comfort and dysphoria. You seem like a good guy to have an impulse to try to feel it out respectfully, and I would keep with that. (Also, there's no need to give into the side of the gay community that's twenty years in the past and label yourself as bi because of a fraction of the gay community that's stuck in their own preferences as law. If you're interested in fucking trans guys it's probably better not to do that. Trans guys are men and we don't really want to have to worry about being some straight curious experience. You'll do fine as a gay guy because there's less worry you are going to try to make him fill some role of the chick you couldn't get. Plenty of gay guys like cunt but don't like women. I still have mine in part due to how grouchy my very gay ex and so many of my friends were when I said I was getting surgery. I was shocked at first thinking they'd be excited by me having a dick... but even the bottoms who were like, "Well, I would like to volunteer for when you're healed..." eventually told me they thought I was kind of dumb having the ability to just climb on, no lube, no prep, no mess every time and I was so desperate to give that up. It was the clue I needed to tell my then boyfriend and my gay friends I fuck that I was actually thinking about keeping my cunt. They were all like, "Well why did you say so!!" And then I got the full genuine support I thought they'd give from the start, rather than obligatory "okay fine" responses tinged with something like resentment.)

But back to the pregnancy question. Some trans guys don't care if they're asked.

If you asked me this, I would feel dysphoric and nope out so fucking fast. Most guys don't ask this so I would just block and move to the next guy who didn't. I don't normally have dysphoria, either and did all the surgery and stuff so I wouldn't and people wouldn't ask shit like that, but that would trigger it for me and just ruin the desire to fuck that person. I have a dick and am fully circumcised (no labia at all, inner or outer, just an extra pinker hole) and judging by how many dick I had before any surgery, really likely never have been able to get pregnant.

It might be best to start off by asking if he's had any lower surgery. This is the most reliable question. Guys who say "no" can get pregnant unless they're taking birth control. Taking hormones makes it much less likely but that's not birth control and if everything works, it's still totally possible. (The commenter above me has inaccurate information.)

Guys who say "yes" to lower surgery where they still have all the same junk and you can't tell they did anything cannot get pregnant. They had hysterectomy or oophorectomy.

The only surgery you have to look out for will be "medtioidplasty with just the release" or "clitoral release" on its own. That doesn't gaurentee anything because it's just for appearances. Any lower surgery other than that is usually an automatic can't get pregnant because infertility is a requirement for most procedures. If he can stand to pee or has balls, it's an easy to clock marker he doesn't have all the internal reproductive parts.

Lower surgery is reliable. Testosterone is not. If you absolutely don't want to get a trans guy pregnant and that's your first thought with this, don't breed one only taking T. He needs to be on some kind of birth control or have had lower surgery.

I disagree with the above comment. I would not approach it like you're "looking out for him". It usually comes off as condescending unless he's like an 18yo virgin. If he fucks guys he knows what you're asking on both levels if you ask about cumming inside him. If you spell it out, that's for you, not for him. Own it as your own preference if you have to do it. 

Edited Sunday at 03:11 AM by transferal