Outercourse Another New Term For Non-penetrative Sex

[NWUSHorny]

I was perusing Sniffies this morning, hoping to find someone actually into fucking, and came across the term "outercourse" on 3 different profiles, so I had to Google it. It is very fitting for what the majority of gay guys hooking up here in Portland seem to be looking for.

Here is the easiest to understand explanation that I could find [think before following links] https://www.them.us/story/your-complete-and-queer-guide-to-outercourse. Here are my highlights or lowlights if you actually enjoy penetrative sex with a penis:

"As a catch-all term, 'outercourse' describes the many sex acts and erotic activities that lie outside of internal (often called penetrative) sex. There are so many reasons queer and trans folks are drawn to outercourse"

"Outercourse is often confused with foreplay — and for some people it is — but it can also be its own thing. Whereas foreplay is more like an appetizer, outercourse is about the holistic experience of sex, more of a potluck of pleasure than any single entrée."

“ 'One of the main reasons people might enjoy, prefer, or prioritize outercourse in their sex lives is because it de-centers penetration as the pinnacle of sex,' adds Peak. Traditional heteronormative sex — or intercourse if we want to get specific — is often defined by the presence of cis men and centers their pleasure. Outercourse, on the other hand, upends this narrow, more hegemonic understanding of sex and what 'counts.' It allows people of all genders and bodies to imagine, speak back, and co-create the kind of connection they crave — regardless of the specific sex acts involved."

"But what exactly qualifies as sexual activity, or being abstinent more generally, depends on the person. For some, anything “beyond” kissing is off the table, while others consider everything except internal sex to be chaste. With such varied definitions, it’s possible that one person’s sex is another person’s abstinence. So while there can be overlap between the physical acts of outercourse and some types of abstinence, the main difference is intention."

"Whereas abstinence is about limiting or distancing oneself from sex or gratification, Stewart says outercourse is inherently about receiving and giving pleasure. Make sure to have a conversation with any potential partner about how you define sex, outercourse, and abstinence."

And finally: "To get you started, there are the usual suspects: heavy petting (or touching someone, often their genitals, indirectly through their clothing), oral sex, mutual masturbation, and hand jobs. Fingering may also come into play here, which means using your fingers and hands to arouse yourself or your partner. Typically, fingering refers to touching a vulva, clitoris, or anus. Though fingering often includes internal vaginal or anal touch, it doesn’t have to. Grab some lube and use your fingers to touch your partner’s vulva with long, gentle movements to 'warm up,' before playing with their clit. Unless your partner is into it, you should avoid sharp, prodding motions. Instead use the pads of your fingers and focus on stroking motions." All of which are common in Portland bathhouse (it is not at all uncommon to encounter FTM individuals that have vaginas in gay bathhouses here).

I realize it is unfair to actual lesbians, but I have been calling a lot of these men "gay male functionally lesbian," for years.