On Feelings
Entry posted by Philip in Relationships
37 views
To checking in on ourselves.
A wise friend of mine said something recently that stopped me in my tracks.
He said,
It’s important to check in with yourself—
and ask, when you’re connecting with someone:
How do they make you feel?
Do they make you feel seen?
Do they make you feel safe?
Or do they make you feel small—
scared, anxious, unsure?
Do you feel inspired?
Alive?
Like you can breathe deeper?
Or maybe it’s a tangle—
a mix of feelings you haven’t had time to name yet.
And I found that so profound,
because honestly,
we don’t stop to ask ourselves that question often enough.
Not until the moment’s over.
Not until the silence hits.
Not until we’re driving home replaying everything we didn’t say.
But what if we asked it in the moment?
That’s what I’m practicing now—
checking in.
Especially when I’m around people I care about.
Especially when I’m dating.
When I’m with someone,
I want to feel safe.
Seen.
Heard.
I want to feel like I’m enough—
not a performance,
not a highlight reel,
not a curated version of myself
to win someone over.
I want to be able to show up
as me.
Messy. Grounded.
Sometimes chaotic, sometimes quiet.
And still be worthy of love.
That question—
How do I feel right now?—
it’s not just for people.
It stretches beyond that.
It applies to everything.
The game you’re playing.
The book you’re reading.
The job you’re doing.
The path you think is yours.
Ask it when you’re alone.
Ask it when you’re in motion,
or when you’re still.
Ask it mid-scroll, mid-sentence, mid-chore.
Ask it when you’re about to say yes to something that deep down,
you know should be a no.
So next time—
whatever space or interaction you find yourself in—
pause.
Check in.
And ask yourself
one simple, powerful question:
How does this make me feel?
And don’t rush the answer.
Let it rise.
It’ll tell you everything you need to know.
0 Comments
Recommended Comments
There are no comments to display.
Create an account or sign in to comment
You need to be a member in order to leave a comment
Create an account
Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!
Register a new accountSign in
Already have an account? Sign in here.
Sign In Now