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I hope I am. Maybe it's not helpful that I'm always thinking about it. My worry is that he has two sons which seem very nice guys. Why not spend his time with them? Have they failed him somehow? He will often talk about his older son and not as frequently for his younger but still he seems to adore his boys. That makes me worry that I could fail him too somehow, because he seems to believe in me and I want to make him proud. Plus, the professor that I'm currently working with does not know how close are we with this professor. Technically they are "almost friends" but I know more things than he does.

Maybe it's the transition from italian to english. In Italy we would call someone ragazzo which basically means boy even if he was an adult. As long as you don't look like an old man you can be called ragazzo. So maybe in english that would sound strange, but not in our culture. I do understand your point though. Although it could have some elements of that, I don't think it's true. He will give me career advice and he would mentor me. From my side I try to show him that I'm good at what I do and I think he beliieves it, judging from his actions.

@backdoorjimmy Actually he had me wonder (or even worse, fear) that he could do that with many boys of my age. But I can't ignore the fact that all these months nothing sexual has occured and he has given me such attentiion and time. So I believe that's not a habit of his, rather something that happened spontaneously. I can really feel you about ur dad's best friend. I have a feelng that it may turn sexual with us. He asks me what kind of present do I want for my birthday. I know he wants to buy me something expensive but I've no need of a sugar daddy. @Muscledadbod I see no reason for not having that relationship with his son. I've met him, he's a beautiful guy and his dad is proud of him. I do believe that people in one's way are there for a reason. Today we were just talking about our work outs, I told him about my boxing training (i do boxing and crossfit) and he said (as a joke) that he should be careful because my punches could be dangerous. I told him I would never dothat, he told me that he knows I wouldn't and he put his fingers in my hair to mess them and damn I just felt vulnerable that moment. @TheSRQDude Indeed I should somehow ask him. I've noticed that when his wife calls him (or his sons) he's kinda vague in his answer regarding where he is. We talk a lot via the messenger up, he calls me little one there. Sometimes I wanna ask him "Why me, what's so special about me?". I mean he spends way too much time for me. He's a married professor he has endless things to occupy himself and yet he spends time with me. Adequate and quality time. But If I were to reverse that questiion and think why him? I don't know. From whence my eyes looked at his face I felt something. And I'm not necessarily talking about love. We had fun from our very first words. Plus, he asked me if I want to join him in a conference abroad today. That would mean 3 days in the same hotel (but maybe seperate rooms?).

Yo are right. We had never had sex or anything close to it so far. Sometimes he will kiss me in the cheek or in the forehead (which is a bit funny because I'm taller). It just doesn't make sense to me that a straight married guy would spend so much time with someone so much younger that he just met in a business trip. I also think there is also a mild flirting. We do compliments to each other. I'm not rushing anything. About the father figure, he feels like one. And actually he's the one that told me that he sees my as one of his sons and I should him as my father and friend. So that felt very good. The takin under his wing part I think it's true. And I also find him very attractive yet I'm too shy to do anything. We've slept two times together. One when we were abroad the night we went out. I slept in his bed. Nothing sexual happened although I was sure it would. He saw me shirtless and said that girls will fall in love with me at the beach (which I took it as an indirect way to say that he liked what he saw). I woke up earlier and went back to the hotel were I stayed so as the other professsor didn't understand. From his reactions later we kinda kept that in secret from the professor. And the secnd time in his office where he has a bed. Still nothing happened but I kinda hugged him in my sleep.

Thank you for your warm welcome. Truth is we haven't done anything sexual so cheating technically does not apply. But in my mind why should a married straight guy spend so much time with someone the age of his son just to be friends? Something doesn't feel right about it. And from his part I think it would sound weird to his wife to say hey i'm going to dinner with someone that I met abroad and since then we're buddies. I try to protect my health and getting updated, thank you for your advice 🙂

I know this topic may be outside of the aim of this forum, however since it's targeting a gay audience I hope someone would like to comment/discuss. I'm a 24yo closeted guy. Last year I graduated from medical school. From my 2nd year of medical school I'm working in parallel in some biology projects in a lab with a professor. I mostly did this because at my ealry years in medical school I thought I didn't like clinical practice and I was more of the lab rat type. I changed my mind later but I was happy with this collab so I went on. Some months ago we went on a business trip where we met a second professor (from the same country as we). He and my professor were friends. From the very first time I saw him I felt something for him. He was kinda sexy, but most of all he was smart and talented. I was kinda shy (because it was just me and two professors and he tried to make some jokes to break the ice). We went all of us for a long walk (in a foreign country). My professor had to go for a professional date so we got split. The other professor (let's call him John) texted me to check if I made it back. From that moment I felt he cared for me. We texted and texted and met the same night. Nothing sexual happened but I could feel the chemistry (I don't mean sexually but we really matched). He talked me about his family (wife+2 sons) and he gave me some career advice. Since then, we text every day. We even meet but mostly on a weekly basis. I'm kinda under his spell, I feel. He makes me happy. We go to the movies, we go to restaurants. I can't decipher if it's something sexual going on, or if it's more of a mental thing. One day we started to talk and I told him some things about me. I told him that my father died and he went teary. That was quite of a surprise. That empathy touched me. I like the protection that I feel from him. I like everything about him. I struggle inside me to make him feel as happy as he makes me feel. So I really don't know what's going between us. I need to discuss that with someone. I do feel a sense of guilt as he's cheating on his wife with me.